tipsyleprachauns Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 So just thought I'd drop a message of hope for those further back. I am by no means over my ex.. at all. But there is light at the end of the tunnel. If you'd told me 2 weeks or even a week ago I'd be this happy right now, I wouldn't have believed you. Monday will be 7 weeks of no contact on both sides and although I still miss her and think about her a lot, I'm genuinely happy in life right now and the last few days have seen a weight lift off my shoulder that I can't explain. Stepping back and looking at my life, every aspect of it is better than before. Work is better, I'm more financially secure, I'm a hell of a lot fitter and determined to get my 6 pack back , I've learnt to play guitar (something I always wanted to do), I volunteer with mountain rescue, I'm so much more active and living for me, I'm taking me religion a lot more seriously, and almost every single one of my friends has commented on how much more chilled out and like my old self I am again. The missing the ex is still there, but it's not the same gut wrenching pain anymore, and It's finally tipped in the balance of I'm happier than I am sad. I know I'm on my way to healing. And I've learnt some of the most important life lessons that have put some finishing touches to my personality along the way. So hang in there guys. I, like many others, have a long way to go. But you HAVE to believe it gets easier. I didn't. I was wrong. Live for yourself! One day, you'll stop feeling forced to and you'll start enjoying it! 2
outofmyfreakingmind Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 How long will this take to happen? I'm aaaat...morning one/ haven't slept yet. I'm a child of the generation of intsant gratification!
Philosoraptor Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 When we start working on ourselves and living the life that we want we find that things get much easier. Best of luck with your continued growth.
TaraMaiden Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 How long will this take to happen? ....I'm a child of the generation of intsant gratification! ...and you know what? I truly believe this may actually be a genuine problem. We are so used to instant results - emails, internet connections, texts, doctor's visits resulting in an immediate prescription, for drugs that will give rapid relief... fast food, instant drinks....and of course, speed dating. we're crazy. Is it any wonder we want to heal, and we want to heal, now?! Your body is an intricate, sophisticated and immensely complicated organism. It's a miracle in motion, and it's only thanks to the enormous advances in medicine that we know how it works, why, and what happens to it when it breaks down. we're also more advanced in the understanding of the mechanics of our brain - the neurons, electrical implulses, lobes and connections down the spinal cord that run the body. but you know what we know virtually nothing about? You know what, in spite of many years of investigation, and all the books, theses, papers and studies that have been published, still remains an hypothesis, a mystery, and an unexplorable, inexplicable enigma? the Mind. take up meditation. it's the fastest way for anybody to heal what ails them. were it not for meditation, i am convinced i would truly have been certified insane - out of my Mind - years ago. Meditation is not religious. Meditation is not spiritual. meditiation does not take you to 'a different plane' or make you high. Meditation keeps you IN your mind, and keeps you sane. it levels the playing field and gives you clarity. i highly recommend it. 1
Exit Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I'm entering the same stage now, still miss my ex sometimes and thinking about what happened can still stir up some pretty intense emotions within me, but in other ways I am starting to realize that I am doing better, and if I were still in a relationship with her today I might actually be worse off.
Author tipsyleprachauns Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 Feels pretty empowering doesn't it! I mean I'm by no means out of the woods, I'm still crazy about her. But realising I'm actually doing pretty damn well without her is such a buzz after so many months of darkness.
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