Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 I don't think you should start over. What people have learned about you is not so bad. Most people here don't have such long memories anyway. You could easily get by just by adjusting your approach. What do you want to change? I don't necessarily want to change or reinvent myself...I'm pretty satisfied with how I turned out in general...so if for a second I forget about all the insecurities that have plagued me, I can look at myself (and my LS "persona") and say that I'm doin' pretty darn well... So it's more like a "new beginning" sort of feeling where I take all the good from "Hokie" and simply leave the rest behind, as if it no longer exists...or never existed...
FrustratedStandards Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 It doesn't matter. Everyone on here is associated with certain things, mostly bad ones. But that's why we are here. Although i'm very disliked, i've actually grown fond of this forum. People will tell you things you don't want to hear. Things that no one would actually tell to your face (not mine anyway) and I think it's healthy (if you're not being too mean about it of course). And even then, sometimes you need to be harsh. I've never thought about starting over, no. I don't have the best reputation, but at least with nothing to uphold, I can be forward and honest in a way that I can't in real life. Surprisingly, it brings me relief. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 I don't have the best reputation, but at least with nothing to uphold, I can be forward and honest in a way that I can't in real life. Well, the thing I've come to realize is that my LS persona mirrors my real life persona a lot more than I thought...I'm as straightforward on here as I am in person, and when I'm mopey and insecure on LS, I actually do give off that same aura in real life... I used to think that I appeared normal and "confident" in real life and used LS to pour out my fear and insecurity...but it wasn't the case at all...that same fear and insecurity was showing in real life...it's just that no one called me out on it like they did on LS...
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Go away FS, we don't like you. I've thought about making a new account but the only reason I'd do so would be if I had a dramatic change in my life. Even then I wouldn't try to hide who I am, just change the name but still make it recognizable. Probably something like, somedudegettenlaid 3
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 I've thought about making a new account but the only reason I'd do so would be if I had a dramatic change in my life. Even then I wouldn't try to hide who I am, just change the name but still make it recognizable. Probably something like, somedudegettenlaid :laugh: I guess it first starts with having a place in sight of where you want to be, but do you ever wish you could just be in that better place and not have the negative energy follow you there for everyone to see? I actually did have you in mind when I first created the thread...
somedude81 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Heh, glad to know I'm being thought of. Yeah I do wish I could be in the better place now. The negative energy fallowing me is the main reason I can't make a new account. I'd get found out instantly. It's too soon for that. Also, I almost see my current account as a badge of honor that I've been able to be so negative and haven't been banned. This is the only account I've ever had.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 Yeah I do wish I could be in the better place now. The negative energy fallowing me is the main reason I can't make a new account. I'd get found out instantly. It's too soon for that. Well, it's only a matter of time before you consciously decide that you don't want to be associated with that negative energy...
Dust Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I'm considering the Vegas trip. So what kind of room do you have booked for us haha. Will I be like Bradley Coopers character.. Somedude Zac Galifinakas and Hokie Ed Helms... What an odd yet epic trip that could be. I'd be out of my element for sure. You realize the invitation was always for you guys to come on vacation in FL. I looked at plane tickets not too crazy could be better. Cost me under 400 round trip so no joke but... wish it was only 200 2
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 I'm considering the Vegas trip. So what kind of room do you have booked for us haha. Will I be like Bradley Coopers character.. Somedude Zac Galifinakas and Hokie Ed Helms... What an odd yet epic trip that could be. I'd be out of my element for sure. You realize the invitation was always for you guys to come on vacation in FL. I looked at plane tickets not too crazy could be better. Cost me under 400 round trip so no joke but... wish it was only 200 That's not that bad given that it's Easter weekend... But I'll be the crazy naked Asian guy...it seems most fitting... 1
Dust Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 That's not that bad given that it's Easter weekend... But I'll be the crazy naked Asian guy...it seems most fitting... Mr. Chow eh.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 Mr. Chow eh. The very same. I'll even wear some of his pimp outfits. But it doesn't look like there's enough takers to get the suite...or the tiger... 1
kaylan Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Own everything that makes you who you are. Your past and your present. 1
Titania22 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 It's just that sometimes I feel like I've shared maybe a little too much...so it sort of paints a permanent picture of me... I feel like that too. Can't be helped though, what's done is done.
Emilia Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In my 2+ years here on LS, I've definitely said my share of things, both good and bad...and after reading some very recent posts regarding certain members of this forum, sometimes I wonder if I just made a new name and started over...especially given all the bitching, whining, and complaining I've done in my time here...would it help me...? What if you could just "erase" your history here and be able to participate without the cloud looming overhead...? I sometimes do...as long as I'm Hokie, I'll always be associated with certain things... Looking hot in uniform. Bah, no who cares. All the old insecurities would come out under the new username and you would be associated with Star eventually too. Pointless to change your username if you are planning on being active. Best to live with the past I reckon.
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Nothing in your past threads to be ashamed of. For what it's worth - you come across as smart, sweet and self-aware. 1
oldguy Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Watching people who grow & mature is what gives them character. "Own who you where, it made you who you are". 3
westrock Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Own everything that makes you who you are. Your past and your present. If I can just add to that: Own everything that makes you who you are. Your past and your present and your future.
LexiB Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I need to change my name because Jane is my real name, and I say all kinds of things on here that are very much identifiers of who I am. There's bound to be someone out there lurking who I know and who has identified me (and, as a result, now knows how many sex partners I've had, strange situations I've been in, etc., etc.) I'm in a similar boat as Jane. Anyone coming across the board would know me right away, especially by the bunny. I also only expected to post a little bit.. Well no one knew that for certain until now. :laugh: 1
zengirl Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 What would be the point of denying the past? That's something I've never understood. The whole point of life is growth. Seeing where we were and how much we've grown should be something to celebrate, not be ashamed of. I certainly don't think I have the same attitude or lifestyle now that I did when I first came to LS either, and I'm sure there are some past posts I've made that I'd never agree with today. That's good. Life is change, growth, and reflection. fwiw, I'd never think of your post history as particularly embarrassing, Hokie. And won't it be so satisfying when you resolve your ongoing issues and look back and realize how far you've come? ETA: And finally a face! Yes, it's a really good pic btw, Hokie!
oldguy Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Originally Posted by Jane2011 I need to change my name because Jane is my real name, and I say all kinds of things on here that are very much identifiers of who I am. There's bound to be someone out there lurking who I know and who has identified me (and, as a result, now knows how many sex partners I've had, strange situations I've been in, etc., etc.) Originally Posted by Anela I'm in a similar boat as Jane. Anyone coming across the board would know me right away, especially by the bunny. I also only expected to post a little bit.. me to, I'm old & look like just my avatar:rolleyes::laugh: Come to think of it, I know 2 Jane's so which one are you? :laugh: 1
AriesBunny Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Your history does define your online persona. Overtime your mood, temperament, and life changes, the old USMCHokie may not refelct the new improved you. You have to shed your past and create a new identity to move forward.
Emilia Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Your history does define your online persona. Overtime your mood, temperament, and life changes, the old USMCHokie may not refelct the new improved you. You have to shed your past and create a new identity to move forward. I don't think that's true. People change gradually and others respond to this as it happens. As Hokie grows and changes, his persona changes and we respond to him accordingly. No need for a new ID. Change isn't always improvement by the way although you hope it is most of the time as you mature.
serial muse Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I understand how you feel, Hokie...and certainly I've felt that way here, and in real life too. Like I can't handle the self-analysis and a current situation to the point where I desperately want to unplug, restart the computer and return to a previously saved restore point. In some ways it seems so much easier to start over on an internet board, where you can just disappear and reappear and, if you're careful, hide who you are. (On the other hand, one's posts are forever preserved in the amber of Google cache; real-life memories are a lot more mutable.) But whether online or IRL, the bottom line is that squashing the things that make you you and identifiable isn't much fun, and the past is part of what makes you you. I guess the most important thing to keep in mind is that we all have that difficult and embarrassing baggage we carry around with us, and that we sometimes wish we could just leave in a railway station somewhere. So you're not alone in this. But it's those same vulnerabilities and frailties and anxieties that make us relatable. I for one really enjoy those aha! moments I get from LS, which are usually connected to those exact same embarrassing moments others are experiencing and that I've experienced too. Makes life a lot less lonely. 1
AriesBunny Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 We will agree to disagree. Yes, as Hokie grows and changes, his persona changes and we respond accordingly. The new identity is just a way for a rebirth, to start anew, arise from the ashes, and not go back to our old ways. I don't think that's true. People change gradually and others respond to this as it happens. As Hokie grows and changes, his persona changes and we respond to him accordingly. No need for a new ID. Change isn't always improvement by the way although you hope it is most of the time as you mature.
carhill Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 History is a part of who I am. Life is a journey and we only get one shot. 1
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