USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In my 2+ years here on LS, I've definitely said my share of things, both good and bad...and after reading some very recent posts regarding certain members of this forum, sometimes I wonder if I just made a new name and started over...especially given all the bitching, whining, and complaining I've done in my time here...would it help me...? What if you could just "erase" your history here and be able to participate without the cloud looming overhead...? I sometimes do...as long as I'm Hokie, I'll always be associated with certain things... 5
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Oh how I wish I would. I tried, but regulars figure me out quickly. I would really need not to be myself to succeed. But then what's the point? 3
Dust Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In my 2+ years here on LS, I've definitely said my share of things, both good and bad...and after reading some very recent posts regarding certain members of this forum, sometimes I wonder if I just made a new name and started over...especially given all the bitching, whining, and complaining I've done in my time here...would it help me...? What if you could just "erase" your history here and be able to participate without the cloud looming overhead...? I sometimes do...as long as I'm Hokie, I'll always be associated with certain things... Well you could start posting as some one else and you don't have to stop posting as hokie... just don't start arguing with yourself an using sock puppets to gang up on people haha. Remember don't tell anyone about you're new id. Stay away from off topic and acting familiar with people. Be mysterious about what you do as in a little cryptic like some one who is comfortable revealing their identity. Good luck.
Pyro Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In my 2+ years here on LS, I've definitely said my share of things, both good and bad...and after reading some very recent posts regarding certain members of this forum, sometimes I wonder if I just made a new name and started over...especially given all the bitching, whining, and complaining I've done in my time here...would it help me...? What if you could just "erase" your history here and be able to participate without the cloud looming overhead...? I sometimes do...as long as I'm Hokie, I'll always be associated with certain things... don't be ashamed of your past on here. Keep moving forward and share the good times with us that lay ahead. If real life people hadn't found me on here I would have kept my first username.
Million.to.1 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 come back as a slightly over weight 30+ woman! then you could just replace the "I'm asian" line for "I'm too old and fat" line. I'm totally kidding Hookie. I love the self searching you are doing here. It's grand. 1
cerridwen Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I agree with Dust-aroo. Make a new identity, why don't you? The drawback will be having to stay away from issues that are still ongoing but could be easily linked to you.
Jane2011 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I need to change my name because Jane is my real name, and I say all kinds of things on here that are very much identifiers of who I am. There's bound to be someone out there lurking who I know and who has identified me (and, as a result, now knows how many sex partners I've had, strange situations I've been in, etc., etc.). I originally created my screen name just to ask a question or two. I didn't think I'd post very much. (And I didn't, for many months) But I have been lately, soooo....I'm not incognito and need a new screen name... 1
Anela Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I'm in a similar boat as Jane. Anyone coming across the board would know me right away, especially by the bunny. I also only expected to post a little bit. If I do change my name, then anyone messaging me would recognize me by my not answering PM's for a while (most of the time). I get distracted, mean to get back to them, and then finally answer them all at once. It happens on every site I'm a member of that has PM's, even facebook.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 don't be ashamed of your past on here. Keep moving forward and share the good times with us that lay ahead. And that's really the greatest benefit to sticking around here and being part of the community, no matter who you are or how f*cked up you are... It's just that sometimes I feel like I've shared maybe a little too much...so it sort of paints a permanent picture of me...
RedRobin Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In my 2+ years here on LS, I've definitely said my share of things, both good and bad...and after reading some very recent posts regarding certain members of this forum, sometimes I wonder if I just made a new name and started over...especially given all the bitching, whining, and complaining I've done in my time here...would it help me...? What if you could just "erase" your history here and be able to participate without the cloud looming overhead...? I sometimes do...as long as I'm Hokie, I'll always be associated with certain things... Ah... the eternal question. Redemption. If you sincerely believe that being reminded of your past acts here are keeping you from moving forward, then maybe, yes. However, I'd like to think that there are others here who understand the path to growth and are actually able to reconcile the 'old' Hokie with the 'new' Hokie you are trying to become without unduly burdening you with your past. I've been blessed in my own personal life by close friends who have been able to do that with me. There is alot of value to having friends who know your strengths and weaknesses and can gently give you a reality check when they see you slipping into past bad habits. Eventually you will get to a point where you realize that old you isn't you anymore. And you will respectfully be able to separate the comments of those who would keep you stuck as the 'old' you simply to satisfy their curiosity or their need to justify something in their own life... from the ones who sincerely have your best interest at heart. Good luck in your decision!
Pyro Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 And that's really the greatest benefit to sticking around here and being part of the community, no matter who you are or how f*cked up you are... It's just that sometimes I feel like I've shared maybe a little too much...so it sort of paints a permanent picture of me... from now on be selective in what you share with us. I know you enough to know that you really do mean well and that your shenanigans don't affect my view of you.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 like being that cute guy? The drawback will be having to stay away from issues that are still ongoing but could be easily linked to you. Well, the whole point would be to "escape" those issues that I'm trying to desperately to erase from my life...by actively avoiding that particular issue in order to "hide" myself, I avoid writing about it...and ultimately avoid thinking about it...
OhHey Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In some respect, yes, most notably shoving vulgarity in the faces of those who tried so hard to get me to see what I was not seeing. I wish I could of handled myself better.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 There's bound to be someone out there lurking who I know and who has identified me (and, as a result, now knows how many sex partners I've had, strange situations I've been in, etc., etc.). I must as well put my real name out there (actually, I think it is floating on a few threads out there...) because anyone who stumbles upon this site from my "real life" could easily identify me...but I have never ever felt it to be an issue...I'm pretty much as open in real life as I am here... come back as a slightly over weight 30+ woman! then you could just replace the "I'm asian" line for "I'm too old and fat" line. I'm totally kidding Hookie. I love the self searching you are doing here. It's grand. Heh, thanks...I'm just trying to dump the whole "I'm too [anything]" line...just want to stop talking about it...stop thinking about it...stop being associated with it...
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 Eventually you will get to a point where you realize that old you isn't you anymore. I'm the only one holding myself back from getting to this point... And you will respectfully be able to separate the comments of those who would keep you stuck as the 'old' you simply to satisfy their curiosity or their need to justify something in their own life... from the ones who sincerely have your best interest at heart. The problem is that it's me who is keeping me stuck as the 'old' me...and that's why I trust and come to LS members...because they really do seem to have my best interest at heart and have seen me over the past two years...it's really quite a special place for me here... 2
LZ2000 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 In my 2+ years here on LS, I've definitely said my share of things, both good and bad...and after reading some very recent posts regarding certain members of this forum, sometimes I wonder if I just made a new name and started over...especially given all the bitching, whining, and complaining I've done in my time here...would it help me...? What if you could just "erase" your history here and be able to participate without the cloud looming overhead...? I sometimes do...as long as I'm Hokie, I'll always be associated with certain things... I do sympathize with your current thoughts and it is never easy facing the consequences of your past actions. That is pretty much why I made a conscious effort to observe and scrutinize every single word I write in reply to this forum. Well, if my words are not relevant to the topic matter, at least it is written in a respectful and considerate manner.
johan Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 The key, unfortunately, if you want to start a new account, is to say pretty much nothing about yourself. You can participate and comment on other threads. Offer opinions. That's about it. No threads asking for advice or comments about work or where you are or what you're doing, or what you want that you can't have. You can start over if you're willing to do that. Perceptive members will figure you out otherwise. You don't have to worry too much about a distinctive writing style that people can recognize. I don't think I could pick you out just based on your style. Maybe others could.
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 The key, unfortunately, if you want to start a new account, is to say pretty much nothing about yourself. You can participate and comment on other threads. Offer opinions. That's about it. No threads asking for advice or comments about work or where you are or what you're doing, or what you want that you can't have. You can start over if you're willing to do that. Perceptive members will figure you out otherwise. You don't have to worry too much about a distinctive writing style that people can recognize. I don't think I could pick you out just based on your style. Maybe others could. That doesn't sound like very much fun...
Feelin Frisky Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Nah. I like my identity pretty much. I've erred at times I admit but not committed melodramatic social suicide on the level of your no homo self. I kid. You're all right Hokie. ETA: And finally a face!
Author USMCHokie Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 Nah. I like my identity pretty much. I've erred at times I admit but not committed melodramatic social suicide on the level of your no homo self. I kid. You're all right Hokie. As long as we're not debating tattoos and sh*t starts flying across the room... ETA: And finally a face! I'm not gonna lie...it's actually kinda weird seeing it there instead of the usual...
cerridwen Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I'm not gonna lie...it's actually kinda weird seeing it there instead of the usual... It looks great, Hokie. You have more to offer than just a nice body. 2
johan Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I don't think you should start over. What people have learned about you is not so bad. Most people here don't have such long memories anyway. You could easily get by just by adjusting your approach. What do you want to change? 1
betterdeal Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Being able to face your demons, critics, and past with panache, grace, style are good skills to garner; skills which you can hone here, in the asylum, and use elsewhere in life. Think of LS like the sandpit for trying out new ways of thinking and interacting and it becomes a very useful tool. Dealing with difficult customers, saying "yeah, I did say that, I know better now" or "you're right, I apologise" and such might be one way to lay to rest the past. This place is festooned with the fiery and feckless, former or otherwise; it's a cauldron of pent up energies and spirited souls; so there will be things said in a fit of pique or a moment of frustration as we seek to express ourselves, our story in ways less regretful. Don't be ashamed of yourself, even if you are perhaps ashamed of some of the things you have said or done: revoke the sin; not the sinner. 4
Newdirrec Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Being able to face your demons, critics, and past with panache, grace, style are good skills to garner; skills which you can hone here, in the asylum, and use elsewhere in life. Think of LS like the sandpit for trying out new ways of thinking and interacting and it becomes a very useful tool. Dealing with difficult customers, saying "yeah, I did say that, I know better now" or "you're right, I apologise" and such might be one way to lay to rest the past. This place is festooned with the fiery and feckless, former or otherwise; it's a cauldron of pent up energies and spirited souls; so there will be things said in a fit of pique or a moment of frustration as we seek to express ourselves, our story in ways less regretful. Don't be ashamed of yourself, even if you are perhaps ashamed of some of the things you have said or done: revoke the sin; not the sinner. I disagree. New identity, Hokie. We'll be none the wiser. 1
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