budley12 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Ex and I dated for 3 years. We were each others firsts. I have told my story on here over and over again and I get the same responses, but it still makes me feel a bit better people responding -knowing I am not alone. I am still hopeful that one day we will get back. I know that day is not today, nor tomorrow, nor anytime soon... but I still hope. I went on a blind date last night with a guy I met online, we have been talking via texting for a week now. I was excited/anxious to meet up with him, and everything was going well until he started to flirt more (putting arm on me and cuddling on couch). I immediately cringed and asked him to leave because I was missing my ex. Then today I took a nap and had a dream that my ex and I were back together... when I woke up I thought it had became a reality but then I realized "its over". I then cried for a good hour. This is the 4th month into our breakup, 8th week of me initiating NC. I am hoping that my ex's new relationship is just a fling to fill his void, but I have a feeling the main reason my ex dumped me was to be with this new person. If I have a chance of getting back, when does the "honeymoon" stage wear off with this new relationship so that I can hopefully make contact again and he may miss me? Why am I still obsessing/hurting? Why was he able to move on so fast and start dating again? How do I convince myself that I want to be over him and not have hopes? When will I be able to say "hi" when we walk past each other on campus, instead of me ignoring him?...
Kaotic Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I'm sorry that you are going through this. My heart truly goes out to you. I know you want answers and feel lost and want guidance. Unfortunately none of us can answer those questions for you I have questions too and I have not let go of the hope that my ex and I will reconcile so I really relate to you. There is another website that I've been visiting that has been very uplifting to me and they had a lot of positive posts. They have a forum specifically for discussing reconciliation and getting back together. Reading some of the stories on there really helped lift my mood today when I was really struggling. The site is called eNotAlone if you'd like to check it out I think the best advice that I can give you is to work on yourself and do things that make you happy. I know plenty of people will tell you to give up hope and stop the wishful thinking, but I won't. Just don't forget to live your life. Don't wake up one day realizing that you've spent your youth longing for someone's love who was not going to give it to you find happiness budley I think life will get much easier for both you and me once we reach the stage when we can truly say that "I can do just fine without my ex, it's just that life is nicer with them in it."
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