my body is a cage Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Well, my ex and I broke up very amicably about two months ago and haven't talked since. He has been inviting me to events via facebook, and yesterday I chatted him to say I was sorry I couldn't come. He responded very enthusiastically, said he had been thinking about me, we had a long convo about a mutual interest... then he said we should hang out. I said something like yes I will pop by his work to see the thing we were discussing. We kept talking, then I said it was nice talking to him, he said yes its been forever and asked if I could hang out today or tomorrow, and then said he wasn't sure if he could hang out today but I should let him know either way. I said something like sure sure we will hang out soon then did nothing. A couple hours later I get a text from him using emoticons and smiley faces asking me to let him know about hanging out later. I said I didn't think I could hang out today or tomorrow but perhaps fri or sat? No response for an hour or so , so I wrote we could get a drink or something and he writes "yes indeed" hours later I get another text with a smiley emoticon Today I chatted him again apologizing for not being able to hang out. I tried to ask him if fri or sat would be better but he was unsure... I just really wanted to know if it was actually going to happen or not so I wouldn't have to worry about it. We talked about other things and ended the conversation by saying we looked forward to catch up. Then AGAIN he texts me saying hey so I think friday would work the best. I say back oh ok, I get off work at blah blah would you wanna meet at 9? where do you want to go? .... NOTHING! This was 3 hours ago. I don't understand. During our time together he was an unreliable texter but never actually flaked on me... is it understood that we have plans? Will he flake on me or get cold feet? What is he trying to acomplish in genral? Did he think I was too pushy for trying to set an exact time?
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Why are you so eager to see him--he's your ex now; no more contact; sounds like he's playing games. 1
casanovadude81 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 If you wish you hadn't broke contact just go back to no contact. I lend you my shoulder to cry on if you need it.
budley12 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 my ex was doing the same thing. After a month of the break up he wanted to get back. Started to want to see me, but then it became games and slowly started to distance himself. Then I find out hes been seeing someone else, and then I went strict NC. I wish I had gone NC sooner because then I wouldnt have felt like I was dumped twice. Hope it all works out for you.
sweetheart5381 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 He could be watching a long movie, sleeping, talking to his Mom, hanging with his buddies, driving, etc, who knows? Why sweat it? He is your ex, that has not changed. If he is playing games, then so be it... you don't have to play if you don't want to.
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