Stripey100 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Hi guys, My ex and I broke up nearly a month ago because I had been having some personal problems and had been taking it out on him. Long story short, he convinced himself that we were dysfunctional and is refusing to consider that we can fix this. I've finally managed to convince him to see me tomorrow, we've been in contact a couple of times since we broke up, we spent the night together twice but he said he was finding things too hard if we were going to remain in contact so we haven't talked in about 2 weeks now. The thing is, this is the third time that he's pushed me away, I think it's because he gets scared when I get too needy. I've had a lot of problems in my life and things have been going really badly for me recently so I had been leaning on him quite heavily. I know everyone is going to tell me that I need to let him go and to find someone I can rely on but when i'm with him I forget all my problems for a while and I can truly talk to him if I need to, I miss him so much and I have no one to talk to without him (because he knows about my past and why it's hard for me to open up to people, I have friends but I find it hard to talk to them.) I was going to find out if he misses me, if he still loves me and if there's anyone else and if he does and there isn't, I was just going to give him time. He's always come back in the past. This time he has said that our issues can't be resolved and that he has made up his mind. What should I say to him to make him see that this is only a temporary glitch? I miss him so much I can't even sleep.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 With all due respect, you seem very needy and dependent on him and it's a major turnoff. From the looks of things, he's done trying to work this out. You need to be able to not rely on him so much for things and give him breathing room. And shame on him for being intimate with you when hes not fully committed. 1
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