Break up!

[Bizzbon3]

So I met this girl on October 31 at a halloween party and I thought she was the most beautiful girl I have ever met in the world. I began to talk to her and we began dating. She told me she had got out an almost 2 year relationship and she was single for 3 months. So then I immediately said I didn't want to be a rebound and I sort of backed out a little and she kept pursuing me and told me that I wasn't a rebound and that she had genuine feelings for me and really did like me. So I said ok here we go.

 

She asked me when we were gonna meet each others families and I said soon. So the weekend after thanksgiving I brought her home as my mom was making dinner. We had a great time that night and after dinner we went on a little walk and then she asked me if it was ok if she called me her boyfriend and I told her to stop because I already had something planned for that. The following weekend she took me to her families house and they all loved me. She showed me the txt's from her sisters say they approved of me with smiley faces. Her siblings hated her last BF. Her grandmother has alzhymers and rarely remembered her, but every time I went over she would remember me.

 

So December 1st I took her out to dinner and after dinner we went outside of the restaurant that had a patio overlooking Los Angeles and asked her to be my girlfriend and she said yes. Middle of December I take off to Mexico because my grandfather passed away and I was there for a little over two weeks. We talked and skyped over this time and she missed me dearly. I came back and she picked me up and everything was fine. We spent so much time together after this and it was amazing.

 

Then about 2 weeks ago she broke up with me saying she no longer had feelings for me. It hurts I am not gonna lie as she is the first girl I take home and have these feeling for. I waited for awhile as I thought she was The one. I want her so back and I don't know what to do. I have gone no contact for almost 2 weeks and she has contacted me 4 times. Not saying I miss you or anything. 2 of them were asking if she could come over and pick up a towel and a shirt. That were not here. The third one was she thought she avoided me in the library during finals week at Uni. She apologized and said she didnt see me. and lastly yesterday she commented on a film I made and put up on FaceBook saying Loved it!!!

 

I want her back so bad and I don't know what to go about it. It was a clean break it was not ugly. We hugged and kissed before we said bye.

 

My question is what can I do? How should I go about getting her back? Why does she keep texting me if she broke up with me? When should I contact her?

[Bizzbon3]

Can someone please let me know what this is?

[rAFC]

Unfortunately, there really is no way to make someone come back to you. They have to want to on their own, without any convincing from you. Sometimes it happens, but more often than not they never come back.

 

Spend this time becoming the most attractive version of yourself that you can be. Work out, buy some new clothes, focus on hobbies, rebuild your self esteem, etc. Not only will it help you attract new women, but it might just make your ex regret her decision.

 

Do not contact her first. It is up to you whether or not you respond to her, but don't make it seem like you are waiting around for her texts or that you are devastated by the breakup. Her recent texts were just an attempt to relieve her guilt for hurting you. It might be in your best interest to simply ignore them, if she wants you back she will make it pretty clear.

[abdonshaun]

Breaks in relationships not breaking up?

 

Do breaks from relationships help to realize what you have? When couples go on breaks do these strengthen the love they have?

[Bizzbon3]

Do you think this would be a case of G.I.G.S. or is it too short to be that?