rj2010 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Hi All, Newly recovering 40 y/o Nice Guy here, living with Girlfriend and her 2 kids + my son. Lost my job a few weeks back. Took a lot to tell her, and also told my parents as well, since they live nearby and help with my son. They said if things get rough in terms of making my half of rent, I can move in by them until I get back on my feet. I already had this talk with my GF, and told her I might not have an option for a while. She was not happy....thinking why would I wanna move...but financial pain is excessive, and now a few weeks later....I am AT that point of not making my half of rent, food, etc.....it's emasculating, no matter what the GF says.... Any suggestions? I'm looking for work daily and intensely....but it has to cover over and above my total sum of expenses (I have a magic #). Thanks!
mbiac Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 What is your priority here: Getting on your feet or pleasing your girlfriend?
poodle Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I'm sorry to hear what you're going through. I think you should do whatever feels right. If you find the situation emasculating, then staying could have a negative impact on your relationship. Another thing I'm a little concerned about is how your girlfriend will handle the expenses if you decide to move out. If she can't make it alone, I think the manly thing to do is to stick with her and contribute as much as you can. Good luck, these things are only temporary.
january2011 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Agree with Poodle. Whether you stay or go, she's going to be left paying for everything. While moving into your parents' will temporarily solve your personal financial situation, it will compound your girlfriend's - not great for the relationship. I think that you need to work this out between the two of you, particularly if this is an LTR and not an arrangement of convenience. Can she cover your share until you find a new job? Or would you consider asking your parents for a loan to tide you over? I think you're going to have to swallow your pride on this one.
AriesBunny Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Can your GF handle the expenses while you seek employment? A relationship is a give and take for a lack of a better phrase. Each of you will have bad days where you will need one another's encouragement and support. Moving back in with your parents is nothing to be ashamed of or be emasculated about.
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