redrose123 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Does the pain really ever go away completely? I just feel like I'm not getting much better. It's like each day that passes by without hearing from my ex I die a little more inside..
jennisfora Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 i feel ya, i keep waiting for it to get better. i think i am just impatient. i just want this to be done, but still have too many emotions to process. i still miss what i had, even though i am accepting it is gone. we'll get there. *hugs*
Author redrose123 Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 Thank you jennisfora. I hope so. Everyone keeps saying to give it time so I guess we just have to wait it out
youngster Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 It does. It took me years to get over a girl I was with for about 5 years, but I am completely healed now. That's something I keep in mind when dealing with the pain caused by my most recent break up. Even now, though it hurts, I'm not crying like i used to, so i guess it hurts less... Give yourself time.
january2011 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Unfortunately, you do have to wait it out. The early days are raw but over time and with NC, the pain and thoughts do die down. No fast forward button, unfortunately. But their effects can be mitigated somewhat if you surround yourself with people who love and care for you and you fill up your days with positive activities that serve as a distraction. Exercise is good for this. 1
Philosoraptor Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 It's not the time but what you do with it. If you are constantly working on yourself the process will go much easier than if you are wallowing in your sadness. Sometimes we need to give ourselves a little slap and remind ourselves that we a better than the misery we are allowing ourselves to live in. Make a list of things you've always wanted to do, and start doing them. Learn to live for yourself and you will be able to detach much easier than if you are still waiting for someone who tossed us aside. 2
shayla Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 It does get easier, thank God. As others have said, time and working on yourself are the keys to healing.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Does the pain really ever go away completely? I just feel like I'm not getting much better. It's like each day that passes by without hearing from my ex I die a little more inside.. Yes; it took me 18 months, but now I am indifferent. It's a relief. Trust me, you will get there.
Exit Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 It does. I'm the most hopeless romantic, tragic romantic person out there (even according to an ennegream personality test - type 4 "the tragic romantic") and even I feel better eventually. It just takes time, I wish I could say I did something special "hang out with friends, get a new hobby", nah, just suffer through the pain until you wake up one day and you're tired of feeling like garbage. You'll get there. If I can you can.
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