Poovey Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 The ex just did what I dreaded. He's already into another relationship 10 days after he broke-up with me. I'm devastated, not because I was clinging with hope of a reconciliation (okay, maybe there was a small bit of hope), but because of how he copes. Is this normal? Or better yet, is it healthy? I can't see how jumping out of one and into another is going to benefit the dumper, the dumpee OR the newest person in the dumper's life. If I just met someone that I was attracted to and knew they just got out of a long-term relationship less than two weeks ago, I sure as heck wouldn't want to invest my time. Gimme some thoughts!
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 He was probably talking with her long before that, my friend. Had someone lined up and was already in the mode of moving on. It is too fast. Rather than take time to ...not rebound and flit from flower to flower like a bumblebee, he seems to be afraid to be alone. Sounds like a wimpy dude to me. She's just the rebound and he is the booby prize. Edited to add this thought: Any relationship that starts that fast will fizzle out just as swiftly.
AriesBunny Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Like bewitched said. The move was planned before the move. He knew the other person and 10 days is short.
gotye Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 eh, I have done it (not had an official bf in 10 days, but had a guy I was interested in and was regularly talking to when the breakup happened) it's cause with me at least, those relationships were long over but I was too much of a wimp to break it off (every time I tried, he begged me not to and I wimped out) and finally some guy I liked said he was interested so... screw the current bf, I hated him at this point
Author Poovey Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 I'm pretty sure he had her lined up before he ended it with me. Who's to say really say, but come on...it looks shady. In a nutshell, he told me that breaking up with me just "hit him" and then went on to tell me how it was all my fault. I posted a long rant about the whole break-up a day or two ago going into detail. I mentioned his previous relationships...he jumps out of one and into another. He has a romeo complex. But damn, does it sting.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I'm pretty sure he had her lined up before he ended it with me. Who's to say really say, but come on...it looks shady. In a nutshell, he told me that breaking up with me just "hit him" and then went on to tell me how it was all my fault. I posted a long rant about the whole break-up a day or two ago going into detail. I mentioned his previous relationships...he jumps out of one and into another. He has a romeo complex. But damn, does it sting. LOL; it just hit him...What a tool. More than likely, he will jump from this new one, too. 1
lostconfidence Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 well my ex moved on in a week and now spends everyday with him almost and i know for a fact she didnt know him cause she chased me for a week 1st crying every day and from her friends and even him. now she works really long hours and he lives further away with no car and with his mum and shes still there every nite i drive past for work. so that is not pre planned and gigs. i fear shes in a really bad place
Author Poovey Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 LOL; it just hit him...What a tool. More than likely, he will jump from this new one, too. Thanks for that...you calling him a tool made me LOL for the first time today. Yeah, he has such a pattern...he gets them at least 5-10 years younger than he is...I'm guessing the newest one is mid-20's and he's 38. They all of something sort of, dare I say, defect...whether it me physical or emotional. AND my other favorite one is...he meets them all through his work. He either dates coworkers or customers. This one is a coworker that works in the same department he does. <insert blob of oozing sarcasm here> I hope their work days are great! 1
mike588 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Theres an old saying about a monkey swinging thru the forest...he won't let go of one branch (you) until he has a firm grip on the other. Yeah it's been going on for awhile. 3
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Theres an old saying about a monkey swinging thru the forest...he won't let go of one branch (you) until he has a firm grip on the other. Yeah it's been going on for awhile. ...Is it considered a lie if I put "extensive anthropological research" on my resume? I did, after all, date a baboon... 2
Author Poovey Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 Theres an old saying about a monkey swinging thru the forest...he won't let go of one branch (you) until he has a firm grip on the other. Yeah it's been going on for awhile. It hurts, but I'm finding strength in knowing this was going on. It's giving me a reason to hate him. I know that's harsh, but whatever it takes to make ME feel better. He blamed me for it all. I'm sorry, I believe a relationship is a two way street. Yeah, I'll even own up to my end, but not the whole damn thing...but having that gut feeling that he LIED to me about it. I hope he gets a severe case of flesh-eating monster crotch weevils from his new love. I'm starting to get ANGRY.
ASG Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 When when of my ex's and I broke up, after a 2,5 year R, he started dating someone else a couple of weeks later. She wasn't someone new, per se. They'd had a fling DONKEYS years before and then she was single again and he was single and it just happened. I was angry and upset, thought it wouldn't last, that it was just a rebound thing... But then I realied that I was the rebound. From his previous relationship, that is. They're still together now, almost 10 years later, married, with a kid. Sometimes things just aren't ment to be. You have every right to be angry! But the fact that he's moved on already doesn't necessarily mean an unhealthy relationship...
lostconfidence Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 again read my post sometimes its not planned. my ex did not know this fella at all. 5 days later she met and hasnt been away from him since.
Author Poovey Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 ASG - Sometimes things just aren't ment to be. You have every right to be angry! But the fact that he's moved on already doesn't necessarily mean an unhealthy relationship... I'd bet my left tit that it's just a matter of time before this relationship bites the dust too. It's not wishful thinking, it's knowing how he is and his patterns. He's a creature of habit. lost confidence - again read my post sometimes its not planned. my ex did not know this fella at all. 5 days later she met and hasnt been away from him since. No, he's known her for the past 6 months. They work in the same, small department. Hindsight is always 20/20...thinking back, there were signs. Silly as this sounds, I still feel I was the best damn thing that has ever happened to him, but his biggest mistake of letting me go was the thing he could have ever done for me. It's all coming together
lostconfidence Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 trust me mate she did not know the guy. i know him i am good friends with one of his best friends. and i know all her friends i know when they met and how. she sat in for a week crying then said f to this am goin out to get pisst am not sitting about any more.. we all do this after a week r 2. she met him and then thats that with him near every nite parading him about my town and friends.. he dosnt work and lives with his mum and just drinks and parties..ist whats she wantsto do at the min and she still bitter over me buy trust they did not know each other. beforetrust me this girl whoshiped me. i predict in 3/4 months when shes healed hell be dropped
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