greenday41 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I am a 16 year old guy. My ex-girlfriend is also 16. From November last year we started dating each other. Everything was perfect till now until her elder sister came to know about our relationship. Now,her sister approves of me and has no problem with me but she has a problem with the relationship. She says she will not allow her younger sister to date me..etc...and when my ex told me about this..she had to eventually breakup with me to respect her sister's decision..and also her sister threatened to tell her parents if she continued her relationship with me.Post breakup everything has been bad and traumatic..though my ex says she still loves me as before...and assures me that she will try to convince her sister after her 12th grade is over. Though,she says that there is 90% chance of her sister not accepting our relationship. I respected her and gave her space to miss me..and today I called her asking how she was. And then the topic came out...my ex says that now even she is not happy with the idea of a relationship because she has to lie to her parents for it. She says now we have to remain good friends for life but no hope for a patch up.Though there is a bleak chance after her 12th grade. But she wants me to look good and wear her fav shirt...etc...this makes me more confused..I am very much depressed now..Please help me and I look forward for your valuable answers.
january2011 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Why does her sister have so much say over who her younger sibling dates? And why did she not tell her parents that the two of you are dating? Since your ex is still living in her parents' house and not 18 yet, I'm afraid she has to follow the rules of the house when it comes to a situation like this. And if her parents (not her sister) are against the relationship then there's not a lot you can do about it since it's their house. If she has told you that you must be 'friends only', I think that you must respect that. I also think that you must protect yourself and do what you can to 'get over' her. Give yourself some space.
Author greenday41 Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 Thanks you for your answer. Actually here in India people are not allowed to date below 18 years of age. And she comes from a strict orthodox family. My parents dont have any objection with me dating her, because this does not affect my studies nor life. But I am afraid her sister will not allow the relationship even after her turning 18. I am waiting for her to turn 18. Yes,I give her a lot of space. My only worry is if her parents come to know about it this could be a big issue. Actually,this does not affect our studies and we dont text each other when we study. But,her parents dont encourage a boyfriendin their families even if the girl is 18 or 21. This is what I am worried about. If her sister accepts our relationship, then there is no fear of her parents knowing about it.
january2011 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Ah, I think that your location and culture is a very important element that helps to frame this question. If you're living in a culture that encourages/discourages certain behaviour then it is very difficult to break out from under it. I don't think there is anything advice that I could give you that would improve this situation, other than to suggest you wait it out and see what happens.
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