Fly back to Austin to fix things, this Friday?

[tommycapnpants]

Hello,

 

I have posted here in the past and I need your help again fellow loveshackers. I originally posted in the Long Distance Relationship forum, but now it seems more relevant to post here.

 

I moved away from Austin in November, to Vegas, to have a fresh start because my girlfriend and I broke up. I landed a really good job out here and was getting along. I then invited my ex to visit me, which she did in December. The first thing she did was kiss me when she got off of the plane. My heart blew up with love. She broke up with me in Austin and I thought I had lost her forever. She visited me for 5 days, and we did a lot of going out and went to Cali to snowboard. She told me she thought she would be ok without me, but realized that she always loved me and could not live without me in her life. So, I jumped back in.

 

She went back to Austin, and we began a long distance relationship. Everything was great. Except on a couple of occasions I would get insecure about things and question her feelings for me. This bothered her a lot.

 

Then I flew her back out here in Feb and she stayed for another five days. Everything went great, and we were has happy as could be.

 

She returned to Austin and we continued our LDR.

 

This Friday we had planned on me flying to Austin and then driving to South Padre Island to spend 4 days there. I had my flight booked and a vacation rental booked on the island. Last week, while we were talking she said she was having second thoughts. She said she felt she was too young and that our dreams did not coincide right now. We had even planned on moving to another city together for work and school for her.

 

I was shocked and angry. I could not believe she dropped this on me a week before I was supposed to go out. I cant get my money back for the vacation rental, so I just gave it to her Mom to use, as she could use the vacation. I switched my flight to New Orleans and am now supposed to go there to hang out with friends.

 

But, I feel like ****. I feel like I am just letting her slip away. I told her I understand her reasoning and have not spoken to her since last Wednesday.

 

This is where I need your help, I know no contact is usually the best way to move on, and perhaps allow the person the space to miss you. But, because of long distance part I feel like I should change my flight back to Austin this friday and try to fix things.

 

Any help please!!!

[flitzanu]

Hello,

 

I have posted here in the past and I need your help again fellow loveshackers. I originally posted in the Long Distance Relationship forum, but now it seems more relevant to post here.

 

I moved away from Austin in November, to Vegas, to have a fresh start because my girlfriend and I broke up. I landed a really good job out here and was getting along. I then invited my ex to visit me, which she did in December. The first thing she did was kiss me when she got off of the plane. My heart blew up with love. She broke up with me in Austin and I thought I had lost her forever. She visited me for 5 days, and we did a lot of going out and went to Cali to snowboard. She told me she thought she would be ok without me, but realized that she always loved me and could not live without me in her life. So, I jumped back in.

 

She went back to Austin, and we began a long distance relationship. Everything was great. Except on a couple of occasions I would get insecure about things and question her feelings for me. This bothered her a lot.

 

Then I flew her back out here in Feb and she stayed for another five days. Everything went great, and we were has happy as could be.

 

She returned to Austin and we continued our LDR.

 

This Friday we had planned on me flying to Austin and then driving to South Padre Island to spend 4 days there. I had my flight booked and a vacation rental booked on the island. Last week, while we were talking she said she was having second thoughts. She said she felt she was too young and that our dreams did not coincide right now. We had even planned on moving to another city together for work and school for her.

 

I was shocked and angry. I could not believe she dropped this on me a week before I was supposed to go out. I cant get my money back for the vacation rental, so I just gave it to her Mom to use, as she could use the vacation. I switched my flight to New Orleans and am now supposed to go there to hang out with friends.

 

But, I feel like ****. I feel like I am just letting her slip away. I told her I understand her reasoning and have not spoken to her since last Wednesday.

 

This is where I need your help, I know no contact is usually the best way to move on, and perhaps allow the person the space to miss you. But, because of long distance part I feel like I should change my flight back to Austin this friday and try to fix things.

 

Any help please!!!

 

something's up. that's what you need to know. she's thrown you a warning now, by telling you not to come.

 

if you go out there, i don't think you're going to accomplish anything other than temporary guilt and her maybe saying "ok yeah lets work it out" and then when you get back home her calling saying "nah i don't want to work on this".

 

bold moves only work in the movies, sadly. showing up at her door i don't think is going to fix anything. i'd say save your trip and have fun with your friends.

 

best thing to know, if a girl wants space, either she doesn't want your head up her ass, or she has already moved on. back off and see what her next move is.

[tommycapnpants]

man, i hate to say it but i think you are spot on. i just dont know if the distance is what is making her question us. i want to go and save things. but, i also want to move on, as i was before we got back together.

[tommycapnpants]

so i decided not to fly to austin. i will be going to new orleans to have a good time with my friends and work on me.

 

this morning i received a text from her saying "i am truly sorry about this weekend and everything Tommy, i hope you can understand and one day forgive me."

 

should i reply to this? my friend said i should reply "one day"

 

but, i think that sounds to needy and vindictive.

 

i was thinking about replying with this

 

"you know that i always tried to make you happy, so if this is the only way for you to be happy, then ok. but, damn i miss you"

 

or should i reply with something else or not reply at all?

 

any suggestions would be much appreciated.

[wilsonx]

"i am truly sorry about this weekend and everything Tommy, i hope you can understand and one day forgive me."

 

Reply with nothing. Theres nothing to fix so booking that trip to New Orleans was a good idea.

 

Have fun with your friends

[flitzanu]

i agree with wilson.

 

no reply necessary, don't feed her guilty ego.