counterman Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 A few days ago, I was in class with a couple of my girl friends, let's say Kate and Amy, and Kate's boyfriend, Tom. I was helping Amy with a question and explaining it to her and then Tom stood up and started staring me down. I ignored it and continued explaining. Kate then muttered to him "Don't... please don't" to Tom. Out of nowhere, he cuts me off, and starts explaining the question to Amy, who had a what-the-hell-is-going-on look on her face. After that, Amy thanked me first for helping her and Tom didn't take that well. He yelled out "why the hell did you thank him first?" Today, I was walking and bumped into one of my girl friends I hadn't seen in a while. She was with her boyfriend, who I knew. I use to be friends with him. Anyways, because I hadn't seen her in while, I asked how she had been and spoke about a mutual friend we had. Her boyfriend interjects with "how the hell do you know her?" I was a bit taken aback but my friend explained it to him in a reassuring way, which I found odd. I spoke to her a bit more and then I brought up a fellow colleague we had to the boyfriend and he continued with "how the hell do you know her?" I was getting this whole dismissive vibe about him, so I made an excuse to leave. As I did, he almost immediately said "yes, you better run along now!" I actually know these couple of guys and they're the pretend-to-be-nice-guy jerks. I don't understand why my friends would date them. It's really baffling. You would think they would learn their lessons from dating these types of guys in the past but no. It's a vicious cycle. They would date these guys, learn their true nature down the track, come crawling back and then back to dating these guys and distancing themselves. Should I even make an effort with these friends? Is it worth it? Is it because they're limited by the guys that approach them and feel the need to be in relationship, even if it's with a guy who's not that nice? Basically, one of my friends jumped from one bad relationship to another. What happened to being single and happy? I question their choices in this matter. I know it's none of my business but really, these friendships are fruitless. All I am in a placeholder for when these girls don't have boyfriends and as soon as they're in a relationship, I don't matter anymore. I'm not upset by it, just noticing that there's a pattern and that maybe I shouldn't be so welcoming to someone who repeated makes stupid decisions.
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