MarkV Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 If you see my previous threads you will see the story. My girlfriend of six years ended it with me on nye saying she was confused about what she wants in life and because we havent pushed forward in the relationship (engagement, house etc). I was wary because she went travelling for four months (which i supported her on) and wanted more from us as soon as she came back with her travelling debt etc. We were very much in love and i never cheated, abused her etc and always provided. Anyways since Jan 15th I have seen her once and we txt a few times to sort out final pieces of the house bills etc. There is no hostility at all but i know through mutual friends that she has been going out loads drinking, eating rubbish and let herself go which is shocking as she was always so glamorous. I havent contacted her to protect myself and i told all friends to keep quiet about her actions. This has helpe me a lot. On thursday of last week she called me out of the blue and asked if i wanted to get food. I was a bit hesitant but said ok but i dont want to talk about the past. When i saw her i was shocked at how she looked (spotty due to her diet, run down etc) and i wasnt physically attracted to her. We talked and caught up on things in life and when she mentioned about a certain issue I knocked it back and said i didnt want to stir up old stuff. She asked what i was up to and i told her that id decorated the spare room, spent time with friends, took my nephew out etc. She said she had been going out too much, back in her overdraft and wasnt enjoying the house she moved into. I didnt comment. When we left i gave her a friendly hug and she grabbed on to me and looked like she was about to cry. I pulled away and walked off. When i left i felt more pity for HER and didnt feel as down as i thought i would. What were her thoughts?? Just checking up on me? I dont know but i havent contacted her and dont plan to as im just not feeling it towards her whilst she is the person she is. Id love to work things out in the future if she ever got her life back in order and improved her life. Its funny how iv been doing good things in my life and shes been wasting hers away when it was her choice to leave me..very strange,very sad..thoughts would be good
robkris8079 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Holy crap, same ages and almost same time together in my situation. Mine didn't say confused but said she was off and on with her feelings for me so guess that is the same. I also feel no hostility really toward her and I doubt she even really thinks about me. Maybe our ex's just felt after being in a long term relationship that started with them so young they just want to see what else is out there. Not just people but an entire life. Mine just got out of school and started her career. The world is her oyster and I think she felt I was an anchor to her.
Chi townD Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Sounds like she had a case of the G.I.G.S. and she found out that the grass really wasn't greener.
Author MarkV Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 Yeah its so weird..i dont know what she wants..is she trying to keep a hook in me or what? I havent contacted her at all and next time (if) she calls me i am not going to meet her. She left me and if she ever wants to talk then i will but cant guarantee that ill be here
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