cflowers32 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I want to get dry erase boards, really a simple piece of paper and marker would work too, to put notes up to cheer myself along. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! He wants to see someone else, and yes, he knows her already. I have to tell you though, I wanted the truth because whether he thought he was doing me a justice by not telling me, really just would have made me wonder? The truth will help quell the questions of "why", "what did I do", "what happened???" I have an answer, this is a good thing. Who wants to see what else is out there and they don't know what they're looking for?? Now it makes sense to me. He says he wants to ask this person out, and since we are where we are at, he needs to see if maybe she is something that might be for him. My head will be spinning for the next week or so. I feel fine right now, he just left so there is that calm before the storm. I know I'm going to drift off to sleep just fine tonight and I dread the morning. Please people of LoveShack.org, I hope you all will continue to support me, I'm sure you will. I know I am not alone, but now that I know it is officially over, I can really focus on healing, and getting past this. I pray that the morning is ok... Anyway, this prayer comes to mind... Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. I wish you all the sweetest of dreams and continued peace every day. Good nite my new friends!!
MissMatched Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Brand new day, brand new light... Good luck to you CFlowers... I hope your morning isn't so bad. You're a beautiful girl, you can find so much better, someone who isn't fickle and knows what they want. I hate people who think hiding the truth when it counts will save someones feelings. It doesn't, it just makes you second guess yourself for months until you find out the devastating truth. You will be fine, we will all be fine, this too shall pass (My mother says this all the time, I hate it, but it's true.). Chin up and smile, cause it's a gorgeous one which should definitely be shared. 2
Author cflowers32 Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 I hate people who think hiding the truth when it counts will save someones feelings. It doesn't, it just makes you second guess yourself for months until you find out the devastating truth. YES!!! Thanks MissMatched. Your mom is right, and I love that saying, because it is true. There will be an end, there is a light, this too, shall pass. TY!!
jerbear Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 We are here to help you. What can we do to help you?
blindesided Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I am right there with you - my ex told me last week he went on a date - like I said before - he is looking for "the one" and I am not it. Now to be fair to him - I do agree I am not "the one" for him - he wants to get married and have kids someday in the near future. I really cant see marriage in my immediate future (I dont even want to live with someone right now) And I dont want/cant have any more kids. Selfishly I want to hang onto him because he is one of the greatest guys I have known & we had such wonderful times together - he is going to make someone extremely happy some day. So to be fair to him - I cant deny him trying to find his soul mate & certainly cant take away his chance to be a father. I hope one day in the far future (after lots of time for me to heal) that we can be friends - I hold onto that hope to get me through the roughest of times. That being said - it hurts like hell to think of him out with someone else although deep down I want him to be happy. I think NC will help so much & I agree with you - mornings are the absolute worst. I cant figure out why either - I can go to sleep just fine & trick my mind into fantasizing about lots of things like winning the lottery, finding my "mr perfect" - even if I picture a celebrity - lol. But its the damn morning that I cant get through - I wake up & panic sets in & then I am axious the rest of the day - as hard as I try to bring back my "happy fantasies" my mind wont shut off & thoughts of him & all the good times just keep bombarding me. Its terrible - but I keep telling myself I will get through this - I was happy and had a fufilled life before I met him & I will be happy again (I hope) This forum has been a lifesaver & reading similar stories helps - You arent alone - we will do this one day at a time & just know there are people here that know exactly (or pretty close to) what you are going through - even though we may not have all the answers 1
Author cflowers32 Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 Just this site, and everyone who is here is help enough. Jerbear, I am so glad I found this place. I happened to find it when I googled a question about break ups. Weeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!! What a great gem I found!! Thank you J.
jerbear Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Just this site, and everyone who is here is help enough. Jerbear, I am so glad I found this place. I happened to find it when I googled a question about break ups. Weeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!! What a great gem I found!! Thank you J. I did the same in Jan 2006. Long story short, LS has helped me tremendously! I even made friends over the years. Come over to the Off-topic thread, let the regulars know about you.
jennisfora Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 so sorry, Caitlin. I was really hoping you would be the rare exception and that he would realize what he was walking away from. At least he was honest with you. My ex still says there was no one, and i want to believe, but, somehow i doubt it. and i will probably never know. either way, im sorry. *hugs* 1
sweetheart5381 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 YES!!! Thanks MissMatched. Your mom is right, and I love that saying, because it is true. There will be an end, there is a light, this too, shall pass. TY!! Yes, it will end! Otherwise, we would have all been dead along time ago! All the best
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I want to get dry erase boards, really a simple piece of paper and marker would work too, to put notes up to cheer myself along. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! He wants to see someone else, and yes, he knows her already. I have to tell you though, I wanted the truth because whether he thought he was doing me a justice by not telling me, really just would have made me wonder? The truth will help quell the questions of "why", "what did I do", "what happened???" I have an answer, this is a good thing. Who wants to see what else is out there and they don't know what they're looking for?? Now it makes sense to me. He says he wants to ask this person out, and since we are where we are at, he needs to see if maybe she is something that might be for him. My head will be spinning for the next week or so. I feel fine right now, he just left so there is that calm before the storm. I know I'm going to drift off to sleep just fine tonight and I dread the morning. Please people of LoveShack.org, I hope you all will continue to support me, I'm sure you will. I know I am not alone, but now that I know it is officially over, I can really focus on healing, and getting past this. I pray that the morning is ok... Anyway, this prayer comes to mind... Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. I wish you all the sweetest of dreams and continued peace every day. Good nite my new friends!! Those of us who have been there know he's probably already been seeing her. And he shall be renamed Douchey McDouchetard if he has the audacity to come back to you if this fling doesn't work out. With the knowledge you have been given, it is now time for you to heal and be rid of the negative and sad vibes. It will be a journey, but think about it...do you want a dude who had his hand in another woman's...cookie jar? Ewww. Ewww...and Triple Ewwwww. 3
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 so sorry, Caitlin. I was really hoping you would be the rare exception and that he would realize what he was walking away from. At least he was honest with you. My ex still says there was no one, and i want to believe, but, somehow i doubt it. and i will probably never know. either way, im sorry. *hugs* There is always someone.
Thatguyintx Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 And he shall be renamed Douchey McDouchetard if he has the audacity to come back to you if this fling doesn't work out. Douchey McDouchetard???? Now THAT'S funny!! :) 1
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Douchey McDouchetard???? Now THAT'S funny!! :) I have to call it as I see it, LOL 1
Ben00 Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, The courage to change the things I can, And the wisdom to know the difference. Thank you for the encouragement cflowers32. It's beautiful.
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