mostlyclueless Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Last night I had a party and invited this girl I have hooked up with a few times, nothing serious. She has a very active dating life and things between us have always been very casual. At the end of the party, she hung behind and seemed like she didn't want to leave. She kept asking for a glass of water and things like that. Finally I said she was welcome to stay, especially if she didn't feel comfortable driving home (everyone had been drinking). She thought about it for a minute and said no...and then still didn't leave! She stuck around for another 10 minutes or so, and finally left after everyone else. What is going on? Did she want to hook up again or not? I guess I can just ask her on another date and see what happens?
january2011 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 What is going on? Did she want to hook up again or not? I guess I can just ask her on another date and see what happens? I agree. Not enough information to guess why she hung around.
Author mostlyclueless Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 She keeps doing this really confusing ****. On a date, she said she didn't want anything "too crazy to happen" -- which I interpreted as no sex -- and she then proceeded to give me a striptease and have sex with me. Another time I asked her out, we ended up hanging out with another guy she's been dating, and she went home with him. Then, this most recent thing. The mixed signals are crazy.
january2011 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Okay, no. I take it back. Don't ask her out again, especially if sexual fidelity is important to you.
Author mostlyclueless Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 Nah, I'm not interested in anything monogamous.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 (edited) It doesn't matter how casual you've been together and how casual her dating life may be, If she develops emotions for you then it goes to another level, you can't act "surprised" when things shift into a different gear, they're not men they are women. As far as mixed signals or things you don't understand from women It's because you're not looking at the bigger picture of what she's trying to accomplish and you're not considering emotions. She has a personality and how she reacts and deals with her emotions and thoughts is going to vary on that. One possibility is she wants to be exclusive, so even though she doesn't tell you that to your face she kinda jumps back and forth, dealing with her emotions and what not...she doesn't want to act and feel like she's just some booty call anymore possibly, maybe she wants to raise the prices on her vagina for you, maybe It's not good enough anymore. I've not met many women that want to just fool around for the sake of fooling around, even If they go into it carefree it doesn't mean they will stay that way...so basically turn the hour glass over when you start sleeping with someone, because when you run out of time then they're going to want to take it to the next level. I know as a man you'll probably try and sleep with her anyway and squeeze the lemon till there's no more juice but don't be surprised If there's a little bit of drama coming from that...you better make it clear that you're not looking for a relationship and she understand and doesn't want that either to cover your own ass. And just because you tell her that doesn't mean she won't develop emotions, so If you plan on trying to stay friends I'd cut her off now, or maybe she's already cut you off because this isn't her first rodeo especially If she gets around...but then you'll just pursue for the challenge just to see If you could get her back in bed maybe? Edited March 28, 2012 by Ninjainpajamas
Author mostlyclueless Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 I'm not a man but I probably will keep trying to sleep with her.
Ninjainpajamas Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I'm not a man but I probably will keep trying to sleep with her. Well then you might just be a man in a woman's body
g450 Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 Well then you might just be a man in a woman's body Wait, the OP is a lesbian? That kind of changes the dynamic of this thread a bit dont you think? I really wish posters would indicate little facts like this when they post. Would clear up a lot of confusion. I think sometimes they tend to forget that the rest of the world is mostly hetorosexual. Sorry if that sounds like Im bashing gays, Im not. But...really?
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