gotye Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 so I said; you can text me later this week... if you want 9 days later, nothing I know it's a good thing, still makes me sad
bretthernan Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 That is very sad. It's pretty cruel to toy with your feelings like that. You're right that it's a good thing (in a bad package).
cerridwen Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Gotye, If you don't have children together, changing your number would be a good idea. It's a fresh start, removes the temptation to respond if he contacts you, and it's a move towards taking control. How do you feel about doing that?
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 so I said; you can text me later this week... if you want 9 days later, nothing I know it's a good thing, still makes me sad What game is he playing? My ex did the same thing... "I miss talking with you. I miss laughing with you...Why do we fight?"---um, because you start it, you abuser. He was horrendous. After the abuse, he dumped me and tried contacting me again. Sure, they miss you, but they throw breadcrumbs for PURELY SELFISH REASONS. Do not respond again. He is probably going to say "oh...I...uh, meant that at the time..." 1
Author gotye Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 Gotye, If you don't have children together, changing your number would be a good idea. It's a fresh start, removes the temptation to respond if he contacts you, and it's a move towards taking control. How do you feel about doing that? not a fan, i deleted his number though
Author gotye Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 What game is he playing? My ex did the same thing... "I miss talking with you. I miss laughing with you...Why do we fight?"---um, because you start it, you abuser. He was horrendous. After the abuse, he dumped me and tried contacting me again. Sure, they miss you, but they throw breadcrumbs for PURELY SELFISH REASONS. Do not respond again. He is probably going to say "oh...I...uh, meant that at the time..." i feel like he wuld say; oh uuuh... thought i would let you message me if you wanted to talk he always did that; I would specifically tell him what I want and he would be like; I DUNNO WHAT U WANT
offcloudnine Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 What game is he playing? My ex did the same thing... "I miss talking with you. I miss laughing with you...Why do we fight?"---um, because you start it, you abuser. He was horrendous. After the abuse, he dumped me and tried contacting me again. Sure, they miss you, but they throw breadcrumbs for PURELY SELFISH REASONS. Do not respond again. He is probably going to say "oh...I...uh, meant that at the time..." I think Bewitched hit the nail on this one, it's all bread crumbs unless there's a good follow-up. My ex would keep throwing me bread crumbs and show me glimmers of hope but in the end she'd always fall back on the fact that she meant it at the time. Of course she would even go to say she meant all those promises we made together at the time, cruel Bewitched, are they purely selfish? She is my first love, and I really saw a perfect future with her, I know she can be selfish but is that all they are?
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I think Bewitched hit the nail on this one, it's all bread crumbs unless there's a good follow-up. My ex would keep throwing me bread crumbs and show me glimmers of hope but in the end she'd always fall back on the fact that she meant it at the time. Of course she would even go to say she meant all those promises we made together at the time, cruel Bewitched, are they purely selfish? She is my first love, and I really saw a perfect future with her, I know she can be selfish but is that all they are? I can't say they all are, but most are. They want to see if you are still pining away, laying on your bed crying and singing to their picture. It makes them feel better to know someone still wants them, though they have moved on...but......... If the person sincerely wants to get back with you, they won't just send a random text. they would pick up the phone so they could discuss the relationship and have a heart to heart. A person who has your best interest would do that and lay the cards on the table.
Author gotye Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 ugh, thought this meant to just move on but I am getting sad again
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