The Blue Knight Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 I had an embarrassing math mistake there. I lost 30% of my weight when I went from a size 18 to a size 2. To gain that back, it would be more like needing to gain about 45%. I know the average is a size 12, but that doesn't mean it is attractive to everyone. The average just keeps going up because obesity rates keep rising, not because people have changed their minds about what they find appealing. What we are attracted to changes as we age, too. Now that I am in my mid-40s I am not attracted to men in their 20s. I think men my age or a few years older are very attractive though. The body shape we are attracted too probably doesn't change as much over those same years. Size 2 to 8 is about right for any woman assuming that their height and weight are proportional. Depending on height, obviously a 10 or 12 may be appropriate. I am a certified professional in women's clothing sizes.
Bellechica Posted May 2, 2012 Posted May 2, 2012 Lol TBK!!! Way to lighten things up! Ok to the OP, your wife's self-esteem isn't being helped by feeling unsexy by your not being attracted to her, so she eats as a coping mechanism. Or, she eats because she has intimacy issues. As I said earlier, some women gain weight to become less attractive to avoid intimacy. It's pushing you away. I think it's important for your W for you to let her know she's loved if you truly love her. Support her......
alanatl86 Posted May 6, 2012 Posted May 6, 2012 Your wife is yours. She should be beautiful because you love her. Beauty and lovemshould make you want to get much closer to her. Others look good too maybe. But to you, she SHOULD be the most beautiful. If you can't see that, take a step back for some time and try again. Even if she put weight on, she should try to seduce you and turn you on. Too hard? Do anything to take time off, miss her, miss her until you need her badly. When you get back to her, you both make sure everything is adequate for a spark that could light a candle of desire to make love. If pure sex fails, love is the only way to keep going. That's what I think at least. Good luck
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