RealLife1 Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 First post on here, found the site after the break-up and its been really terrific. Background: College girlfriend and I had been dating for 2+ years. We recently broke up (about 3 weeks ago). Since then, we have been NC. I got dumped, and I don't think she feels the same way about me as she used to. That means, I think, that it really is over and done with. Its been really difficult coping, she was the first person I've ever loved, and I think that I want her back. Well...I think that I think I want her back, if that makes much sense. Now: She texted me saying that she wanted to see how I was doing and wanted to check in to see if I wanted to talk. She said if not, its completely fine and she understands. When we broke up, we promised to talk again in a few weeks, which is why she texted me. I'm not sure if I should respond (I haven't yet), if I should ignore it, if I should just meet up with her. To be honest, I think that if its really over (which is something I just can't seem to wrap my head around sometimes) that I should just tell her that I need my space. If we don't meet, or I tell her I don't want to, what happens? Do we just never talk? Do I text her when I think I'm over her? What do you all think I should do?
budley12 Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 sorry to hear this =( I too just got dumped by my first love a few months back. We met freshman year and were together for 3 years but then stuff happened and he felt differently towards me. I say go for it if you want to get back, but do not expect much. I was supposed to get back with my ex after a month of NC, but then it all fell through again. Hope it all works out for you, and it doesnt end in a way which mine did. =(=(
Kaotic Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Go with your gut. Deep down you know what you want to do. I'd suggest NC since you think it really is over and talkin will open up the wounds again. Best of luck :-( it is hard to get dumped when you are so in love with that person :-(
Author RealLife1 Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 yeah, I suppose I'll have to go with my gut. I never really understood what love was before this happened.
gotye Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 that is really hard, I would ask for her to say if there's anything particular she wants to talk about before meeting in person? maybe make it clear that if she has moved on with another man, you probably don't want to know. I know when I speak to my ex, if he has moved on fast from me... I will tell him not to tell me but just simply say still not interested in trying again or something
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