caddygirl Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 I need some opinions here. My guy and I have said that we are going to take a trip to Vegas the first week of July. The problem--he seems to be avoiding making the actual reservations. He has said numerous times that he wants to go, and has not in any way indicated that he doesn't want to, but his refusal to book it is really stressing me out. Once we make the plans, I will feel so much better because I will know that it'll only be a few weeks till I see him. Yesterday I told him that I really wanted to go ahead and make the plans but he was still sort of sleeping when I called. He said he'd call me on the way to the baseball game he was going to, but I told him not to call me until he was ready to book the tickets. Of course then I sent him a message apologizing for being a nag which he hates, and i called yesterday night too (no answer, he was probably at the game till late). So the question is, does he want to go or doesn't he? I feel like if he really wanted to, he would just book it already but he hasn't said anything about not wanting to either. He is not as much of a planner as I am, he is fine to make travel arrangements with much less notice, but this is really stressing me! Am I reading too much into this and need to chill out and just give him a few days to call me when he has time to do this, or should I be worried? thank you so much.
moimeme Posted June 15, 2004 Posted June 15, 2004 I feel like if he really wanted to, he would just book it already It sounds like he's sort of trying to squirm out of it. Ask him directly if you are still going.
lovinlife2 Posted June 15, 2004 Posted June 15, 2004 Its hard to say, not knowing his true personality. He may just be a procrastinator, he may have already booked them and somehow wants to suprise you, or he may be hedging the situation. Like Moimem said, call him out on it to really evaluate his interest in going to Vegas. Being a guy, don't take it wrong, please, there can be a level of what may be called nagging that can turn a guy off, even though you truly aren't nagging. Instead, the truth is is that you are so excited to go to/or meet him in vegas, that yes, your being a planner wants to see that the plans are made. Have you expressed this to him...that in the effort that you are truly just big on planning, and that you are so excited about the trip, that you just want to know that the tickets have been purchased, now we can be excited about planning a somewhat tentative itinerary...as those that have been to Vegas, a true itenerary can be difficult to adhere to. Good luck...I hope that he see's that you are more important than a baseball game.
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