darkmoon Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 i want to tell this lying big-mouth unsupportive bull****ter to go away. having spent a bit of time wih her to be told what to wear and her patronising manner of offers to pay for me, a woman, and her way of biting my head off in disagreement, snapping -all red flags - and her ex said she is like this too i bumped into her the other day after four months and there it was - same snotty voice and opinions so i walked off saying that i had to meet a friend hoping she'd take the hint that she is not friend material do i write to her to break it off? or wait to bump into her again and avoid her by averting my gaze - i actually want rid of her most easily
whichwayisup Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Either continue to ignore her, do the "I'm too busy" line with her, don't return calls etc., and hope she figures it out on her own or just come right out and tell her that you don't want to keep in touch anymore. If she asks why, TELL her the truth, that you find her bossy and nitpicky..That you already have a mom and don't need another one.
Nancy B Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I can relate to this. Keep fobbing her off. It doesn't seem like she was a close friend, but if she was an 'official break up' may be unfortunate if she just needs some time to grow up.
neiljohnson Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 How do I deal with my bossy friend? My friend is really bossy and I don't know how to deal with her without her getting mad at me! Plz help me!
Author darkmoon Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 (edited) How do I deal with my bossy friend? My friend is really bossy and I don't know how to deal with her without her getting mad at me! Plz help me! - just after the last time i bumped into bossy friend, another more genuine friend, a guy who i vented to about her, did role play and he surprised me by telling me i dress badly - so i blurted out "f*ck off" and laughed (he's a good mate) if i can say "f*ck off" to him and laugh - why can't i (we) say the same to her? fact is we can but have imho, you could say, parts of ourselves accept this bossyness and are scared to offend - i am learning all the time here it is something worth being firm over as they're out there, not isolated incidences, these ppl who think they're superior, i have been on the receiving end of this stuff three or four times - do you really want a bossy argumemtative friend who doesn't care but throws angry tantrums instead? why hang out with them? Edited March 29, 2012 by darkmoon
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