witchychick Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Hi everyone, I posted before about my ex, and now I am posting about a guy I decided to start seeing recently and it's over already. We met to work on music as I want to start a band and I sing and write, and he plays guitar and writes. Well,he liked me from the beginning but I didnt feel the same,and recently decided to give him a chance and I started liking him,too. I loved when we hung out together and we have a lot in common. So much that it was sometimes weird. It was good for a minute-the minute it lasted. It went downhill Saturday nite. Or rather early that evening. Friday nite, he had sent me a email telling me he was going out of state for a 2.5 week job but that he wanted to continue seeing me and he liked me, and believed he could fall for me. He was leaving the next day,too and he was supposed to see me before he left. Well, that evening{Saturday}, we emailed-I initially emailed him asking how long he could hang out with me. He said not too long,that he had to be there at a reasonable time. Now I wish I had just said ok. Well I kind of wish that,although he did do me wrong as I will get to in a sec. But I told him that wasnt good since I won't see him for a few weeks,and it's up to him if he sees me before he leaves. The last comment I made was partly because I wondered if he wanted to see me or was going to see me before I asked if I was going to see him before he left. Because I was the one who brought it up. And when I asked him if I was going to see him, he said absolutely baby you want to right,and I was like duh and laughed and he said ok I'll make it happen. So anyway, he said umm ok, I said I am going to see you, it just cant be for long. And he said lets see if you wait for me... I was like wtf about that last comment, and I asked why he was saying that and told him he knows I like him,and that I would wait if he waits for me and is good to me. He said he was just giving me a hard time, and of course he would wait, he will be working not clubbing. So admittedly, I read into that as I would hope thats not why he would wait, that it would be because he said he believed he could fall for me. So I said something he didn't like, and that was word for word:time will tell with everything. But if you meant what you said to me, I would think you would wait for me. And maybe see me longer before you leave, I don't know... I'd hope you would wait because of the way you said you feel about me. I hope that was true... and he said I was overanalyzing things, and he wasnt sure he liked that,too strong for him to be honest. And he told me I said it myself, we barely know each other, and he just wants to take things slow and that we aren't married. You guys can tell me what you got from what I said to him, but I was saying that because I would think if you feel like you could fall for someone that that would be reason to wait for them since he mentioned me waiting for him. He is the one who said he believed he could fall for me,too. I was talking about what he said as being a good reason to wait for someone but now I wish I had never said it. But anyway in response to what he said, I told him I want to take things slow,too and that he is the one who said he believed he could fall for me, and that was what I was referring to. He told me that never changed and he doesn't understand what I was getting at. That is the last thing he said to me but I explained what I meant. I also told him he seemed to be blowing hot and cold because I felt he was maybe a bit colder that nite but maybe it was because of some things I said. I told him I wanted to have a good nite with him that nite with whatever time I got with him because I wouldn't see him for a few weeks. And that I mentioned what he said because I felt like if you feel like you could fall for someone that that would be reason enough to wait for them especially since it's only for a few weeks. I told him its not about rushing and I don't want to rush. He never replied to me and I sent him emails and called him and he won't reply or answer the phone, and most importantly, he just never showed that nite. He also blocked me on facebook when I sent him a friend request. What do you guys think of what I said, and what he did? He told me a ex of his who he was with for 3 months was moving and wanted him to move with her, and she freaked him out and he just stopped talking to her. Michelle
witchychick Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 my cousin also emailed him and called him chickens***, and I would have changed some things she said in the email but she went ahead and sent it,so maybe that made things worse but I am the one who gave her his email. I wonder if I will ever hear from him again. Obviously she emailed him after he flaked on me. She called him chickens*** for flaking on me. I feel empty now,though and I am alone again. It's like he was here one minute and gone the next.
Philosoraptor Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Well reading it you sounded quite insecure and a bit needy, and he didn't like it. I do agree it was a dick move to just stop responding... but he was honest and said he didn't like that you were digging so deep into his comments and doing what seems to be looking for problems. You apparantly seemed like someone he could fall for based on what he knew. But once the insecurity and needy came out he backed off in a hurry as he likely has seen it before and it doesn't make for an easy relationship.
witchychick Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I wasn't meaning it in a needy way,though. I'm not perfect,though and I would think this could be worked out and I still want to try to work it out. What would be your advice on things I could do to try to work it out?
Philosoraptor Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I wasn't meaning it in a needy way,though. I'm not perfect,though and I would think this could be worked out and I still want to try to work it out. What would be your advice on things I could do to try to work it out? Give him space and just take care of yourself for now. There really isn't anything you can do to make him change his mind. Actually the best thing you could do is to not contact him or act needy towards him in any way. He might come around after the dust settles.
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