nick d Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 So many of you may know my recent ex of 3 years left me about 2 months ago.. Well before her, I was with another girl for almost 5 years.. She got G.I.G.S. Once she found out I was recently single, we started hanging out again and having sex.. Now she wants to be back with me and settle down! But the thing is, is although I still love her as a person I don't think I'm in love anymore.. It's weird because I always missed her. But now that she's back, I'm very unsure.. Maybe my guard is up because my recent ex just left me? Anyways just wanted to share my G.I.G.S. story to show people there is hope with these type of people. It just takes time, a long time for them to come back. In my case, it took 3 years and now she wants me back.
wilsonx Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 shes yours forever if you decide to stick with her
Nextlane Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Let her go. You don't feel the same way anymore.
gibson Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 (edited) For the sake of the all the G.I.G.S. victims... Tell us a little bit about what happen with the G.I.G.S. Ex. How it ended, her age, how arrogant and cocky she was, her new "friends", her change in behavior, did she drop a lot of breadcrumbs after the break up, did contact you from time to time through the years, etc. Tell us what she thinks and feels about her whole G.I.G.S. experience now. Meaningless and empty, Got sick of the drama, chaos and BS? Couldn't find a guy that "measured" up to you. Tired of the her new "friends", Tired of being hurt? Sick of being used and abused by the guys in that "scene", etc.? Is she back to the girl you once knew before G.I.G.S. but "better" (smarter, wiser, more mature, etc,)? Is she half-hearted about what she wants? Does she play games? Does her actions and lifestyle match up with what she is telling you what she wants? Etc. Reason I ask is G.I.G.S. last for several years and by that time the G.I.G.S. dumper comes back... The G.I.G.S. dumpee has moved on and they don't come back here to share about their G.I.G.S. Ex popping up years later making a very clear and hard effort in wanting a second chance. Edited March 27, 2012 by gibson
Fitz Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 For the sake of the all the G.I.G.S. victims... Tell us a little bit about what happen with the G.I.G.S. Ex. How it ended, her age, how arrogant and cocky she was, her new "friends", her change in behavior, did she drop a lot of breadcrumbs after the break up, did contact you from time to time through the years, etc. Tell us what she thinks and feels about her whole G.I.G.S. experience now. Meaningless and empty, Got sick of the drama, chaos and BS? Couldn't find a guy that "measured" up to you. Tired of the her new "friends", Tired of being hurt? Sick of being used and abused by the guys in that "scene", etc.? Is she back to the girl you once knew before G.I.G.S. but "better" (smarter, wiser, more mature, etc,)? Is she half-hearted about what she wants? Does she play games? Does her actions and lifestyle match up with what she is telling you what she wants? Etc. Reason I ask is G.I.G.S. last for several years and by that time the G.I.G.S. dumper comes back... The G.I.G.S. dumpee has moved on and they don't come back here to share about their G.I.G.S. Ex popping up years later making a very clear and hard effort in wanting a second chance. Yeah, what Gibson said! Please, do fill in these details. Was cheating ever involved with either GF? How long were you NC and how did you end up breaking NC? Did she call you first? Email? What about the details!
Author nick d Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 For the sake of the all the G.I.G.S. victims... Tell us a little bit about what happen with the G.I.G.S. Ex. How it ended, her age, how arrogant and cocky she was, her new "friends", her change in behavior, did she drop a lot of breadcrumbs after the break up, did contact you from time to time through the years, etc. Tell us what she thinks and feels about her whole G.I.G.S. experience now. Meaningless and empty, Got sick of the drama, chaos and BS? Couldn't find a guy that "measured" up to you. Tired of the her new "friends", Tired of being hurt? Sick of being used and abused by the guys in that "scene", etc.? Is she back to the girl you once knew before G.I.G.S. but "better" (smarter, wiser, more mature, etc,)? Is she half-hearted about what she wants? Does she play games? Does her actions and lifestyle match up with what she is telling you what she wants? Etc. Reason I ask is G.I.G.S. last for several years and by that time the G.I.G.S. dumper comes back... The G.I.G.S. dumpee has moved on and they don't come back here to share about their G.I.G.S. Ex popping up years later making a very clear and hard effort in wanting a second chance. It ended when she was 19 and I was 22. She had started partying all the time and drinking like crazy. She wanted nothing to do with me and was very cocky about everything. She treated me like complete crap! For about a year I was miserable without her. I even found out she had cheated on me. And started dating the guy she cheated on me with. They partied all the time together.. But now, she has calmed down and seems like she has realized life is about more than partying. Now she's ready to settle down with me and I don't know what I want anymore..
Author nick d Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 Is it worth dating her to see if feelings come back? She was my first true love..
wilsonx Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Is it worth dating her to see if feelings come back? She was my first true love.. If you're ready to settle down, its worth it. If you want to go out and continue experiencing life, skip this step.
gibson Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Nick, If you get a chance, go read my latest post in my G.I.G.S. thread and share your thoughts, feelings or experiences with it. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/251986-grass-greener-syndrome-43.html You have a good story to tell and many people on here are victims of G.I.G.S. so it could help them out a great deal.
ginastar Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 yea i would also like to hear more about anything that happened during the break up. did she ever contact you, etc?
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