BrighterDaysAhead Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 A while back, I met a man who lives in another state. We began text messaging, phone calls, and e-mails for a little over two months and it transitioned from attraction to, well, near-love. We both agreed to another meeting and that we would begin a serious relationship. So, finally, over the past weekend he came to visit me. We were both so excited to see one another and things went great Friday night and Saturday morning. Then, I noticed that Saturday night, he began acting strange and distant and finally, he confessed to me that his ex-girlfriend was starting problems with him again, saying she is pregnant (We both highly doubt it. She lied about this before and is crazy). He then informed me that he would have to cut the trip short to find out the truth, in person, from his ex. After this, he told me that he kind of regretted telling me he loved me so fast because he had done the same with his ex and got her hopes up and now look where they're at. This was yesterday morning and since, we have not been talking much at all. He hasn't been text messaging me unless I text first, and then I get a short response like three hours later. Hasn't called me or anything. Mind you, this is the same man that would text me every morning with a romantic "good morning" message and call me several times throughout the day. I feel like I'm being let down. I received a text from him earlier this evening stating that I need to be patient and let him sort through things. Am I selfish for wanting his love and attention during a time when he is going through emotional problems/drama with his ex? Do you think his quietness has to do with the situation with his ex or because he doesn't like me? I'm so confused and so upset.
MySweetie'sGone Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 like it's more likely the situation with his ex stressing him out. Men tend to shut down when stressed instead of sharing what their thinking/going through with us. I'd say you're still in good shape, because he is responding to you. Mine has stopped responding. I think I finally pushed him too far. But you're still ok. Just follow his lead and give him some space. Let him come to you. Hold off on talking so much. Send him a check in text if you want every now and then but don't try to make him talk. Just let him know you're there for him.
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