Broke NC

[shaddo]

So today she called and called and finally I returned the call back, and talked to her. The problem is it did not hurt me any and I still don't think about her at ALL...It has only been 3 weeks since the bad breakup. I could careless if she calls or don't. I don't get excited to answer for her, and I could careless if she blows my phone up. I answer or call back on my own terms like I do for everyone else. I basically treat her like I do everyone who calls me or talks to me, and I think about this girl on the farm more than anything. (I honestly would NOT consider her a rebound I am taking it very slow and she knows about the ex and agrees)

 

Normally I wouldn't care but being in a 3 year relationship and reading everything on here, I think I should be at this point in, at the mininum of 5 months, but 3 weeks?? Does that meen I truly didn't care about her?? Or am I that quickly able to "un-attach" myself from someone?? Or was she not the "one" ?? Wow I think right now I am more confused than at the breakup... LOL this one will have to go down in the history books for me.

 

I basically am asking is this part of the "roller coaster ride" and if fealings for her are going to return?? I do know time will tell but I would rather be prepared for it if it is going to return. If this makes since....thanks in advance!!

[cflowers32]

Why did she call?

 

You said that you're starting to see someone else, so I can see why it's gotten easier?

 

I probably don't get it because I have missed other of you past posts.

 

Seems to me like the breaking of the NC wasn't so bad, so good for you.

[shaddo]

She called me to ask why I closed out our joint checking account. My reply was "They charge money if you don't use the debit card 4 times a month, and also we are broken up remember?"

She says "How am I supposed to cash my check now?"

Me: "Not my problem, but if I were you I would open a checking account you know that would makes since...." lol

Her: "OK?"

Me: "Is there anything else?"

Her: "How are you doing?"

Me "Good been working my butt off staying busy. I have to go right now. It's good to hear from you Bye"

 

I would say around 6 hours later she called back i answered again.

 

Me: "Yeah what do you need?"

Her: "Is their anyway you can open me an account so I can cash my check?"

Me: "No, have your new boyfriend do it if you don't know how."

Her: "He won't he says it cost money."

Me: "Well it's nice to know he really cares enough for you to open a FREE checking account. You know when you breakup you are supposed to upgrade not downgrade."

(long pause)

Me: "Anything else?"

Her: "How are you?"

Me: "Well not much has changed since the last time you talked to me or from the week before. I'm great."

Her: "That's Good. I have been staying busy also doing laundry."

Me: "I need to tell you something. I am not interested in being your friend it will never happen. For one I don't like seeing you with another guy and right now you do not realize it but you are going to hate seeing me with another chick. It's all or nothing and that is the way it will be. I have all your stuff packed up in the garage. When you get a chance come get it, and don't come back."

Her: "Why are you being like this? You said you wanted to be friends now you don't. Why did you lie to me?"

Me: "When I said that my mind was all messed up now i'm thinking alot clearer, and i know the me and you thing won't work as friends. I am moving on. I want kids one day and I WILL NOT wait for you."

Her: "You may be a father sooner than you think."

Me: "What is that supposed to meen?"

Her: "I think I have your kid inside."

Me: "Well that's cool. When you get a paternity test done on you and your new boy toy. If it comes back as him not the daddy we will take it from their untill then I have to go. Later.

 

I think it went pretty well...I know the whole NC thing is supposed to be going down, but like I said I don't ever think about her anymore. This whole conversation wasn't even on my mind. As a matter of fact I had to really think hard of everything that was said to type it here.

 

I believe that the tables have turned and I have regained the "power" from her personally I think she sounds weak. I don't believe everything is working out as she planned.

My last post was "lol?" cflowers32 if you wanted to catch up

[Cmac]

So today she called and called and finally I returned the call back, and talked to her. The problem is it did not hurt me any and I still don't think about her at ALL...It has only been 3 weeks since the bad breakup. I could careless if she calls or don't. I don't get excited to answer for her, and I could careless if she blows my phone up. I answer or call back on my own terms like I do for everyone else. I basically treat her like I do everyone who calls me or talks to me, and I think about this girl on the farm more than anything. (I honestly would NOT consider her a rebound I am taking it very slow and she knows about the ex and agrees)

 

Normally I wouldn't care but being in a 3 year relationship and reading everything on here, I think I should be at this point in, at the mininum of 5 months, but 3 weeks?? Does that meen I truly didn't care about her?? Or am I that quickly able to "un-attach" myself from someone?? Or was she not the "one" ?? Wow I think right now I am more confused than at the breakup... LOL this one will have to go down in the history books for me.

 

I basically am asking is this part of the "roller coaster ride" and if fealings for her are going to return?? I do know time will tell but I would rather be prepared for it if it is going to return. If this makes since....thanks in advance!!

 

Just because you feel okay just now doesn't necessarily mean you're over it. After my breakup I felt relatively okay for the first couple of months. I actually feel worse now than I did a couple of months ago..

[EgoJoe]

She called me to ask why I closed out our joint checking account. My reply was "They charge money if you don't use the debit card 4 times a month, and also we are broken up remember?"

She says "How am I supposed to cash my check now?"

Me: "Not my problem, but if I were you I would open a checking account you know that would makes since...." lol

Her: "OK?"

Me: "Is there anything else?"

Her: "How are you doing?"

Me "Good been working my butt off staying busy. I have to go right now. It's good to hear from you Bye"

 

I would say around 6 hours later she called back i answered again.

 

Me: "Yeah what do you need?"

Her: "Is their anyway you can open me an account so I can cash my check?"

Me: "No, have your new boyfriend do it if you don't know how."

Her: "He won't he says it cost money."

Me: "Well it's nice to know he really cares enough for you to open a FREE checking account. You know when you breakup you are supposed to upgrade not downgrade."

(long pause)

Me: "Anything else?"

Her: "How are you?"

Me: "Well not much has changed since the last time you talked to me or from the week before. I'm great."

Her: "That's Good. I have been staying busy also doing laundry."

Me: "I need to tell you something. I am not interested in being your friend it will never happen. For one I don't like seeing you with another guy and right now you do not realize it but you are going to hate seeing me with another chick. It's all or nothing and that is the way it will be. I have all your stuff packed up in the garage. When you get a chance come get it, and don't come back."

Her: "Why are you being like this? You said you wanted to be friends now you don't. Why did you lie to me?"

Me: "When I said that my mind was all messed up now i'm thinking alot clearer, and i know the me and you thing won't work as friends. I am moving on. I want kids one day and I WILL NOT wait for you."

Her: "You may be a father sooner than you think."

Me: "What is that supposed to meen?"

Her: "I think I have your kid inside."

Me: "Well that's cool. When you get a paternity test done on you and your new boy toy. If it comes back as him not the daddy we will take it from their untill then I have to go. Later.

 

I think it went pretty well...I know the whole NC thing is supposed to be going down, but like I said I don't ever think about her anymore. This whole conversation wasn't even on my mind. As a matter of fact I had to really think hard of everything that was said to type it here.

 

I believe that the tables have turned and I have regained the "power" from her personally I think she sounds weak. I don't believe everything is working out as she planned.

My last post was "lol?" cflowers32 if you wanted to catch up

 

If this is a real poster...props.

[shaddo]

Yeah this is a real poster. I also failed to mention in my last post. Somewhere in their she brought up what happened or our issues that caused the breakup. I believe I told her "Well, if you want to put all the blame on me and it makes you feal better about yourself go ahead, because your words will not hurt me anymore."

[Philosoraptor]

You are doing well if you intend to stay resentful. Just by the comments made to her you are not over anything and it's become the power game that most relationships have. The anger and resentment have you feeling strong, and that is really normal. When you crash be sure to continue to not make any contact with her as it will only push you back.

 

Stop playing games though and just ignore her. It's the best option for you in the long run. You've made it clear that you have no intention of being friends and she is an adult. She can take care of herself.

[gotye]

sounds a little cold, but at least she knows what's what