Author Meeks7 Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 And where have I said that it goes just for a specific gender? And where did I say that you did? FTR I wasn't trying to insinuate that you think it only goes for one gender. In John Gottman's book "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work" he says that one of the main indicators of a succesful marriage is the extent to which a man accepts to be influenced by his wife. A lot of guys are so insecure that taking the wishes of their partner into account makes them feel like they are castrated. I know from experience that a relationship with such a guy is doomed. Everything becomes a battle. I am not bossy but I like to feel that my partner hears what I say and sometimes can accept that I want something in a particular way. And I am willing to offer the same of course. Thank you. Yes, it comes down to a person's insecurities and pride issues, as is often the case. And as always, it's insecurities and pride issues that often destroy a relationship. I don't think it's harder than some folks (in general) are making it out to be. Be selfless, think of your partner's needs before yours, have your own life, have your own friends, communicate effectively, etc. It's all about balance and sometimes, you do have to drop your ego off at the door. But some people don't like doing that.
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