lostconfidence Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 iam goin through a horrible break up ave posted on her but no1 has answered i finished with her she struggled really bad for a week then met another guy. in a club and started seeing him almost every day. 3 weeks later i found out and ask her what she was playing at i wanted her back anyway. she told me she had only met him twice . he was boasting about her to one of my mates she did try to lie about it constant even tho i knew. it didnt work. anyway instead of her just saying f off ive moved on she kept coming down crying tell me she dosent know whats shes doin and loves me and needs space.i told her get back or go away..didnt mean it ofcourse she wouldn delete this guy of fb i gave her space and she was with him every nite!! we argued cause we never saw each other i bought her flowers 5 days later she txt flirting while she was in his bed!! he was still boasting to my mate i told her to f off she called crying saying sorry she loves me heads up her hole ext i told her i forgive and am sorry for dumping her and i love her the next day she calls it all off tell me it never gonna work acting like a cold bitch then just before i get outa the car she starts crying grabing. then tells me to get out.. then sits in her car staring at me for 20mins then she stayed in this guys house that nite hes a bum lives with his mum no job she deniys he means anything and refusing to acknowledge him even. this girls works to 12 at nite somtimes i drive past his house to go to work now she tellingmy sister that she dosnt want to get back bcause it would be off guilt of hurting me .i was f uking hurting untill she started playing me please some1 tell me .is she happy? she said she was .is she happy with this guy? she wont even acknowledge his exsistence .she constantly partying is she hiding away for m her feeling form me? .will she come back? rememeber she wanted me back 1st .or is she just a careless bit ch that thinks she found sum1 better casue he does nothing but sit about getting pissed and partying?? please help me
Philosoraptor Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 She's rebounding and in a lot of pain emotionally. Many people do this and it's an avoidant path which doesn't really lead to much healing. What you need to do for yourself is avoid this person as she will bring you nothing but pain right now. Just work on yourself and cut all contact. 1
robkris8079 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 You need to start letting her go. Working on you. It sucks but it will only benefit you. .i was f uking hurting untill she started playing me please some1 tell me .is she happy? she said she was .is she happy with this guy? she wont even acknowledge his exsistence .she constantly partying is she hiding away for m her feeling form me? .will she come back? rememeber she wanted me back 1st .or is she just a careless bit ch that thinks she found sum1 better casue he does nothing but sit about getting pissed and partying?? please help me to answer these questions: -Yes she is happy -She is happy with this guy right now. She has no need to acknowledge his existence to you nor would she want to. -she is partying because she wants too and it makes her feel good -can't answer this and you shouldn't be asking it. Move on and if she does come back then you will be in a better place and can make a rational decision. -I won't comment on the bitch but YES she thinks she found someone better or else she would be with you. Getting pissed and partying might be what she is into right now so that would make him more attractive to her. You say you don't know what she is doing. Well I do and I'm going to tell you what she is doing. She is doing what SHE wants to do. Not thinking or caring about you. Her tears for you and on and off is her way of keeping you around. She wants to explore another life but wants you there waiting in case she doesn't like the taste of it. You are being used right now. Put on a back burner set to low heat. You are her cake that she is eating too. Or any other cliche I can't really think of now. I feel for you I really do. Time to move on, heal, learn, live, laugh, love again all for you and you alone. But in order to do any of that you gotta let go. 4
Author lostconfidence Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 i know i hurt her so bad and am expected to be the hard wise person every1 looks to bigger and harder and faster and even beter looking. but i fell apart and she seen it i think it scared her. 2 weeks ago she lay in my bed before the week of space she held on to me so tight for hours when i was falling asleep she would passonatly wake me up but would let me sleep with her. she done other stuff but i held back cause i just knew. now i feel worthless ave made a fool out of myself to all her friends and fallen out with my sister even whos goin out with her in 2 weeks by the way am 28 she 25. ave thought about ripping this guys head of but what will that acchive. its the old saying iddint know what i had till it gone
Author lostconfidence Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 i drive past this punks house evey day and see her car there it hurts so much she works to 12 at nite he lives further away than i do and shes driving to his every nite she putting so much effort into this.. it will all end in tears a few months down the line wont it ???
sanctun Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 i drive past this punks house evey day and see her car there it hurts so much she works to 12 at nite he lives further away than i do and shes driving to his every nite she putting so much effort into this.. it will all end in tears a few months down the line wont it ??? dont wait for it it wont end well.I have to tell you similar thing happened to me,she is with the dude now,so man just forge tthis girl,it will save you the pain believe me it aint worth it
mike588 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 If you want ANY chance on getting back together just leave her alone...don't call..text or contact her in any way!!! Any contact with her now won't do any good and will probably push her further away!! Is that what you want?? Let her wonder about you..what your up to...if your dating someone else..let her miss you..she can't miss you/wonder about you if you keep in touch with her. I'm sure she knows how you feel about her so you DON'T need to contact her or remind her....Period!!! Try to move on...I know how hard it is...let her do her thing now and maybe..maybe down the road she'll come back or contact you. My ex. dumped me 7 months ago...I went strict N.C. Last month she contacted me several times. It's the best thing you can do for yourself now.
Author lostconfidence Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 dont feel as bad at the min cause her car hasnt been at his for the last 2 mornings.and i deleted her completely of facebook after seeing she is getting tag out for drinks with her friends who i reakon are doin it on prupose. al that while i sit in the house like a div.... but seriously cant get this wee doll outa my head. i still cant belive she done this to me and my sister told me that he is good looking.... thats all i need
Chi townD Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 So, now you plan for your revenge. Here's how you do it. First, heal up and go complete NC on her. Don't answer ANYTHING from her. Go to the gym and work out your frustrations. Get a new haircut and a new hairstyle. Buy a new wardrobe. Go to college and focus your mind there and not on her. Get your degree (if you already have a degree then go for your masters) Get a better paying job so you can afford that NICE Townehome and a NICE car. Then, plan a trip! You write like your from England. So, go backpacking through Spain. You can do that rather cheaply now. You'd have to stay in some Albergo's and Refugio's but they're only a couple of Euro's a night. Or visit Norway, or come here to the States! The best revenge you can get is to live a damn good life. And word will get back to her. That you are styling and profiling with a nice home, a nice car, a good job and going on holidays anytime you want and she's stuck in the basement with some dude that still lives with his mother.
Author lostconfidence Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 chi i know your right. she knows in her head am better than most men.in fact she told me prob to make me feel better. she also told me taht she knew this guy was worthless. when most my friends sit in the bar for a pint i go and run 10 mile in a hr then have a pint. i can bench 100kgs and i dont do weights. i am the one every1 looks up to. am usualy the loudest and funniest in the room.all my mates birds want to date me and am not even that good looking lol. i know i sound cocky know but to be honest i still feel worthless i know i need my confidence back. my mum told me today to man the f up.. sadly we cant flick a switch
Author lostconfidence Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 as i lie here awake thinking about her knowing shes laying naked with sum1 else.......just dosnt seem fair
Author lostconfidence Posted March 28, 2012 Author Posted March 28, 2012 i broke nc today am fed up of thinking shes lost and confused.. so i sent her a civil email i know her well enough she isnt really a bad person and she will always reply even tho she banging sum1 else. i asked her straight dose she have heavy feelings for him she kept trying to avoid the question. all i needed to hear that she loved him and i would just put this whole thing to bed in my head.. she repyd with you know how much i care for you and i just like him lol. not what i was wanting am still taking it as love i have to. to at least get some sleep. i told her every1 makes mistakes and its admititing and forgiving is the hard part. i told her to be carefull cause she still hasnt healed and that i was a bit miffed for getting no break up sex.lol. and wished her all the best i do feel a lot better to be honest. am still hurt but i can now move on and not keep thinking what if
Chi townD Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 i do feel a lot better to be honest. Uh huh....yeah... I'll talk to you tomorrow when you post that you've been trying not to cry all day. And hey, that's normal! You're going to go on a ride. It's called the roller coaster of emotions. It happens. One minute you'll "feel better to be honest", then next you'll be angry. Laughing one minute and crying the next. Happy one minute and sad the next. Pissed one minute and indifferent the next. This is a normal process. But, it always starts back up everytime you break NC and open those wounds back up. You have not healed from this relationship at all! So, the next time you feel like contacting her, post here instead. People are here to walk you through this. 1
Author lostconfidence Posted March 29, 2012 Author Posted March 29, 2012 this is where am at at the min. i broke nc i had to. am the type of person that looks at something and has to know why its working or why its broke she knows that. anyway i emailed her she always replys no matter what. i told her i hated all this **** it was stupid and just to talk about what went wrong. i also told her i hated seeing her car there cause it reminds me that she dosnt care and shes moved on....she replyd saying whats done is done she sorry she wants me to be happy and of coruse she cares of course she dose. her exact words. we wher emailing all day i was just trying to find out what was goin on in her head.i really wanted to know if she had deep feeling for this punk. i convinced myself she did and that would make me feel happy to move on. she could answer i said meet for coffee she couldn face that. i tolld her i needed to know "i dont know him well enough to have strong feeling but i like him" now what the **** she cried a week met the 1st guy she seen and has spent the last month in this guys house every nite lol. i siad i meet ppl every day i dont jump into bed with them. anyway more emails shared she had been working all day and doin interview she getting a new job. not hppy bout that.she kept asking was i leaving soon for the army back and for the tne she said i think wev said enough. she hadnt told me a bloody thing constantly vague.. and that she making me out to be evil and she was never happy. see sent the email saying she wasnt happy becase i dumped her she chased me for 6 months we got back together then i dumped her agin after 2. gpin n to say did you think i would wait for you agian.you really hurt me i dont think your evil far from it but i just want to enjoy my life do things that make me happy. basicaly i told her i can still see from that email your still very angry i said sorry explained what i know what i did wrong told her i still belive shes hurting and not heeled and to be careful.we talked abit wished each other all the best and she told me she hasnt told any1 what has went on casue its only are biusness.... i took from that if shes felt the pain i feel now for 6 months then got me back then i ripped it away from her.. she gonna make me pay and i did..i knew she bitter i dont blame her and today i noticed she had put a pic of him on her fb yesterday.lol that also suggest she sbitter and she flunting this kid around all are friends adding them all on fb so tell me agian whats goin on in her head
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