mason 25 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Can you ever really trust a woman who has only guy friends, and smokes weed and drinks with them?
Lil1 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Sure, why not? Doesn't mean she's having sex with them too. If she doesn't have ANY female friends though that's a bit unusual and could be a sign she's got some issues. I'll be honest and admit that I have mostly guy friends, I no longer drink but I do smoke weed regularly. Although I have very close female friends, they do not smoke weed (maybe once or twice a year) like I do or like my guy friends (who smoke weed) do. It's been my experience though that the best way to meet and surround yourself with good people, regardless of gender, is to give them an honest chance and get to know them for who they are as an individual. Good values and honest intentions will always shine through a trustworthy person 1
g450 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Can you ever really trust a woman who has only guy friends, and smokes weed and drinks with them? Well if a woman has only guy friends then there us usually a reason for it and it's probably not a good one. And you probably will find out what that reason is later on once the relationship progresses. Personally, I would stay away from a girl like that. I see nothing but drama once the time comes to set up boundries regarding her and her guy friends. 3
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Don't date a chick with only guy friends. It's bad news. Sometimes women have sex with their male friends. Sometimes they don't. The women who don't have sex with their heterosexual male friends fall into two categories: they know and want the attention; or they delude themselves the guys just want friendship. In both cases, the women put up a front as if they are shocked when the male friends finally work up the balls to ask her out. Also, don't date women with gay guy friends. It's worse. Not because of him, but because of her. Some gay guys have sex with their female friends, which would make those guys bisexual. Some do not. The problem with gay guy/straight woman friendships is the women ALWAYS fall in love with their gay guy friends. I've seen way too many threads on the net and heard about it in real life to come to the conclusion women ALWAYS fall in love with their gay guy friends. Why? Because the gay guys have two things: they make her laugh; they aren't interested in sex with her. The more you can make a woman laugh, the more she's interested in you. But the fact that they ignore her sexual appeal means she's definitely gonna fall in love. Women with gay guy friends always pretend like there's nothing big about these relationships, but there always is. Ever notice women only befriend the handsome gay guy like Eric McCormack: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1T4ACAW_en___US360&q=eric+mccormack&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=h3VyT-roLYmQiQLtsdm8AQ&biw=1366&bih=533&sei=B3ZyT86jI8mqiALJltW9AQ But they never befriend the short, dumpy, unattractive gay guy like Frank DeCaro: frank decaro - Google Search The unattractive looking gay guys are far more prevalent but women always manage to befriend the handsome gay guy and get really, really close to those guys to the point of desperation. 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 My Uncle Buck always said that you can't trust a woman with no female friends and you can't trust a woman that walks two possums on a leash. ..... With more seriousness....a woman that has NO girlfriends and only male friends is a red flag. 2
wildgeese Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Of course you can and I'm constantly surprised by questions like these. It depends on the woman. As for the whole "stay away from girls without girl friends" philosophy, it's only true up to a point. You have to evaluate what kind of woman she is. Does she only have guy friends because she likes male attention, sexual or not, or is it because she's simply more comfortable with them? I've known plenty in both camps. Growing up, I was one of those girls with only male friends and for the past three years I've only had male roommates. I'm in a committed relationship and I've never, ever been anything more than friends with my roommates and only had one mild FWB fling with a friend while I was single. I was just more comfortable around guys and felt more secure with them. I grew up with an ill mother who honestly hated me, I had a best female friend sleep with my boyfriend when I was in high school, my best female friend in college committed suicide, and my first female roommate was the epitome of awful roommates. By that point, I was basically frustrated and terrified of female friendships. I fled to my male friends and those are the people who embraced me. As I got older, I started to understand that I just had some bad experiences with other women and that I didn't need to avoid all of them. I'm in my mid-20s now and I have some very solid, female friendships and I'm very thankful to know these strong women. Basically the whole point of that story was to maybe make more people aware that not every girl who only hangs out with guys is 1) trying to sleep with them or 2) a total b-tch. Give up the theory and maybe start looking at people on an individual basis. And if she's a woman of integrity, the kind you want to be dating, then you won't have to "set up boundaries" with male friends and I'd be rather suspicious if any of them wanted you to.
Jono85 Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 No, no you can't. It's a massive red flag and I suggest you stay far away. These girls are trouble.
spookie Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Don't date a chick with only guy friends. It's bad news. Sometimes women have sex with their male friends. Sometimes they don't. The women who don't have sex with their heterosexual male friends fall into two categories: they know and want the attention; or they delude themselves the guys just want friendship. In both cases, the women put up a front as if they are shocked when the male friends finally work up the balls to ask her out. Also, don't date women with gay guy friends. It's worse. Not because of him, but because of her. Some gay guys have sex with their female friends, which would make those guys bisexual. Some do not. The problem with gay guy/straight woman friendships is the women ALWAYS fall in love with their gay guy friends. I've seen way too many threads on the net and heard about it in real life to come to the conclusion women ALWAYS fall in love with their gay guy friends. Why? Because the gay guys have two things: they make her laugh; they aren't interested in sex with her. The more you can make a woman laugh, the more she's interested in you. But the fact that they ignore her sexual appeal means she's definitely gonna fall in love. Women with gay guy friends always pretend like there's nothing big about these relationships, but there always is. Ever notice women only befriend the handsome gay guy like Eric McCormack: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1T4ACAW_en___US360&q=eric+mccormack&um=1&ie=UTF-8&hl=en&tbm=isch&source=og&sa=N&tab=wi&ei=h3VyT-roLYmQiQLtsdm8AQ&biw=1366&bih=533&sei=B3ZyT86jI8mqiALJltW9AQ But they never befriend the short, dumpy, unattractive gay guy like Frank DeCaro: frank decaro - Google Search The unattractive looking gay guys are far more prevalent but women always manage to befriend the handsome gay guy and get really, really close to those guys to the point of desperation. This has got to be the most ridiculous non-troll reply of the day. 1
Teal Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Sure, why not? Doesn't mean she's having sex with them too. If she doesn't have ANY female friends though that's a bit unusual and could be a sign she's got some issues. I'll be honest and admit that I have mostly guy friends, I no longer drink but I do smoke weed regularly. Although I have very close female friends, they do not smoke weed (maybe once or twice a year) like I do or like my guy friends (who smoke weed) do. It's been my experience though that the best way to meet and surround yourself with good people, regardless of gender, is to give them an honest chance and get to know them for who they are as an individual. Good values and honest intentions will always shine through a trustworthy person Check. I'm the same, though it's because I honestly don't relate to most women. I'm studying programming and most of my interests are male-centric because my role models growing up were my father and brother. Very few women share my interests or my sense of humor, or are compatible with my quiet personality. I'd be terribly lonely if I listened to all this male/female friendship fear mongering. 2
udolipixie Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Can you ever really trust a woman who has only guy friends, and smokes weed and drinks with them? Depends on if you think the majority of heterosexual men can't handle friendships with the opposite sex. Depends on if you think the majority of heterosexual women can't be friends with heterosexual men and either seek attention or "use" them by treating them like friends and not doling out sex. Either way whether you trust her or not most likely the issue would be would you be okay with the possibility of idea that she may have hooked up or hook up wit the guys when she's in between boyfriends or just dating around.
phineas Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Every woman i've met with lots of guy friends was a train wreck. Has a history of dating bad boys who dump them & keep them as F-buddies. She has a bunch of guy friends she only has anything to do with if she's bored or needs something. These guys are basically in love with her & will do just about anything for her hoping she will see their the one she should be with. AND SHE KNOWS IT! When I meet a woman like that I wonder if she's setting me up to be one of her orbiter's or if she thinks i'm one of these bad boys because I ignore her unless she agree's on a "date". (most of them want to "hang-out") These women hardly ever date a decent man & if they do get manage to get one he eventually figures out just how selfish a person she is & bails on her. I've seen the above many times.
darkmoon Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 (edited) i've known women have some male friends and i am a woman myself if a boyf insisted on having all female friends i would feel somewhat got at on a certain primitive level and would expect these friends to behave in a way that sets my mind at rest - by what they say and do but the fact that she makes no female friendships makes her look to me like she is not popular with them and who knows what the male friends' SO's make of her? - no woman actively wants to hear how nice or fun (or whatever praise/justifaction) the platonic friend/wonderkid is Edited March 28, 2012 by darkmoon
gotye Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 ummmm what? 0.o stupidest thread replies I have ever read who cares if a girl has mostly guy friends, it is just how it goes sometimes 1
Imported Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 (edited) Can you ever really trust a woman who has only guy friends, and smokes weed and drinks with them? No. Absolutely not. Don't listen to people saying it's your own insecurities. Guy acquaintances, sure. Some guy friends, sure. All her friends are guys? It's probably because all the females that get to know her think she's a slut and doesn't want to associate with her, not just because "women are catty". Guy friend that she says hi to when they see each other, have a short conversation and go about the day? Ok, no problem. Guy friend that she talks for hours on the phone with, constantly text, go out to places with only each other? No. I am done, already moving on. Not waiting around for the eventual train wreck. Maybe there are women out there that can be that friendly with another guy without anything happening, but I am not going to waste my time weeding her out from the majority that will accidentally suck a dick when they get into an aurgument with me, go running to their "guy friend" that will say whatever she needs to hear while pouring ever more alcohol for her to drink. **** that. Not falling for that **** again. You guys may say.."well, it's that guy, he tricked her, got her drunk and took advantage." No, this is why she was keeping him around. He's the back-up plan. Or the tampoon. Or the ego booste. If she needs that, I don't need her. Edited March 28, 2012 by Imported 2
udolipixie Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 Maybe there are women out there that can be that friendly with another guy without anything happening, but I am not going to waste my time weeding her out from the majority that will accidentally suck a dick when they get into an aurgument with me, go running to their "guy friend" that will say whatever she needs to hear while pouring ever more alcohol for her to drink. **** that. Not falling for that **** again. Seems more like that applies to the majority of women you attract or are attracted to rather than the majority of women. No, this is why she was keeping him around. He's the back-up plan. Or the tampoon. Or the ego booste. If she needs that, I don't need her. To me this says something about your view on male/female friendships or the what's common in women you attract or are attracted to.
Emilia Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 This has got to be the most ridiculous non-troll reply of the day. I know. Sometimes the sheer stupidity on this board makes me doubt my own reading skills for a second. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 This has got to be the most ridiculous non-troll reply of the day. I know. Sometimes the sheer stupidity on this board makes me doubt my own reading skills for a second. I love how you two love to insult the post rather than try to discuss it. Quite smart. In any case, the main thread is about how men dislike dating women with mainly guy friends. I get the feeling Emilia and spookie fall into the category of women who mainly befriend males because "females are catty". So I'm guessing it touched a nerve. 1
Imported Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I know. Sometimes the sheer stupidity on this board makes me doubt my own reading skills for a second. Oooohhhh, that's too bad, he said something you didn't agree with. So sad. Oooooohhhhhhhhhh, lets call him stupid and insult his opinion while being completey irrelevant to the subject, that will make you appear more intelligent. Congratulations Emilia, another feather in your cap! udolipixie, I have had 3 long term relations spanning years which ended because I think I took them for granted and they got tired of waiting. None of them cheated or were anything like I was talking about in the other post. I have had a few short term relations, most of which ended on friendly terms, but two of them not so much. Of the two, one of them I was with for @8 months and I was the difinition of a jealous boyfriend. She flirted a lot and I didn't take it well. She had lots of guy friends. People like you might say it's a problem within myself and for a long time I believed people like you. But then I remembered that I didn't feel this way around most of the other women I was with. That I trusted them, believed in them and had faith in them. That they respected how what they do effects me. This girl ended up "cheating" on me with one of her guy friends and told me it was my own fault for being so jealous. What came first, the chicken or the egg? I have to say, I am not jealous around all women I have dated or had a relationship with. I have only been jealous around women that gave me reason to be jealous. Why flirt with other dudes? Because she's a "natural flirt"? It's just "innocent flirting" and "doesn't mean anything"? Why have a bunch of guy friends? I think some girls like their boyfriend to be jealous. They like drama. They like multiple guys fighting over them. They need to feel wanted by more than one guy. I am not going to try to change them. I am not Captain Save A Ho. They can go on and be what they are with other guys and eventually all by themselves when they are old and used up. I just need to be able to recognize them so that I can move on. And from what I have experienced is that they all have lots of "guy friends", flirt a lot even while in a relationship and think most guys are jealous because that is their experince, but those guys are jealous because she's a ho and they made the mistake of taking her seriously.
udolipixie Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 People like you might say it's a problem within myself and for a long time I believed people like you. umptions. A bit far reaching to me from one experience of of one short term relation to you claim the majority of women will accidentally suck the dick of their guy friend when they get into an argument with you. I thought before the whole based on one experience that it seemed more like that applies to the majority of women you attract or are attracted to rather than the majority of women. I think it may say something about your view on male/female friendships rather than what you're attracted to or attract. Why have a bunch of guy friends? Companionship, social person, friendship, relates well to guys. I just need to be able to recognize them so that I can move on. And from what I have experienced is that they all have lots of "guy friends", flirt a lot even while in a relationship and think most guys are jealous because that is their experince, but those guys are jealous because she's a ho and they made the mistake of taking her seriously. Note the three factors.
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