Sophie99 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 So here's just a quick summary of my situation... My boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me 2 months ago. We were each others first loves, and I don't know what happened, literally he was telling me he loved me just mere hours before he broke things off. We share many classes together, and 99% of our friends are mutual. So I pretty much have to see him every single day. I have deleted his number from my phone and I no longer have Twitter, nor do I use Facebook very often, and I don't see his profile when I do go on. I have cut him off as much as I possibly can. However, somehow (usually through overhearing people at school or friends, things that I can't avoid unless I hide away in bed all day long) I hear about things that he is doing. Out with other girls, telling other girls publicly how stunning they are, skyping with what he calls 'hot' girls and things like that. When I must sit next to him in classes (assigned seating), he will go on about all these girls and stuff, I've tried to explain to him that although he is free to do what he wants, I politely ask him not to tell me about it. It is hurting me so much having to see him moved on every day, so happy without me. It's really slowing down any recovery I am making. I don't know what to do! He's unavoidable and I just get hurt no matter what I do to protect myself. Thoughts? I really don't know how I can carry on having to see him all the time.
Philosoraptor Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 You need to realize you are in school and none of this will matter in a few years. I look back at failed high school relationships and laugh at the stupid things I did. You are doing as much as you can, which is great. But people open their mouths and in high school for some reason the kids don't want to raise each other up, but knock them down and make them hurt because they are hurting inside themselves. He is trying to hurt you so realize he isn't that great if he would really try to do that. Instead of paying attention to his life, just work on making your own better. Take up some new hobbies, learn something interesting, spend more time with friends... embrace yourself and cut off the effect he has on you. Why care so much what someone who is trying to hurt you has to say? 2
Author Sophie99 Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 watch this clip and realise just how lucky you are... Most people on this website need a serious dose of reality. It's a broken heart. You will survive. You will grow and learn from it. You will live a great life, if you allow yourself to. Look at the little girl in this video (2:35)..What future does she have? People need to stop feeling sorry for themselves and truly understand how lucky they are.. I don't mean I don't know how to carry on living, God no. What I mean is that my healing is being slowed. I appreciate how very lucky I am, and as a matter of fact I have taken part in fundraising for that very cause, Sport Relief. I have personally ran the Sport Relief mile event last weekend. If you're not on here to help people and get help yourself, why are you here?
Cmac Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Try to keep your posts in one topic, this is becoming hard to follow. You say he's chatting up other girls...didn't you post yesterday saying he told you he was gay? I'm kinda confused, am I confusing you with someone else?
Cmac Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 watch this clip and realise just how lucky you are... Most people on this website need a serious dose of reality. It's a broken heart. You will survive. You will grow and learn from it. You will live a great life, if you allow yourself to. Look at the little girl in this video (2:35)..What future does she have? People need to stop feeling sorry for themselves and truly understand how lucky they are.. **** goes on all over the world. Has done since the start of time. Someone will always be worse off we get it. Doesn't mean when **** happens to us we should just brush it off like we're robots.
Author Sophie99 Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 Try to keep your posts in one topic, this is becoming hard to follow. You say he's chatting up other girls...didn't you post yesterday saying he told you he was gay? I'm kinda confused, am I confusing you with someone else? I'll post in my old posts from now on, never thought But you are right, IT IS the same guy! I tell you, I'm confused too! I'm putting it down to the fact that he might be fighting the fact that he is gay? Since I'm the only person he has yet told. But non the less, it hurts :/
stealth95 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 It really stinks that you have to see him everyday. I have to see my ex almost everyday at work. (he is a delivery guy) and he is trying to hook-up with other girls in the same company. (piece of poop) It hurts like Hell. But, i have found comfort in a book, "It's called a break-up because it's broken" by Greg Berhrendt. Check it out on amazon.
Author Sophie99 Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 It really stinks that you have to see him everyday. I have to see my ex almost everyday at work. (he is a delivery guy) and he is trying to hook-up with other girls in the same company. (piece of poop) It hurts like Hell. But, i have found comfort in a book, "It's called a break-up because it's broken" by Greg Berhrendt. Check it out on amazon. I read that book too! I might have another read though, it's been about a month
Numb79 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I like the title of your thread. Today is rough one for me as well. It has been almost 2 months of NC and today I am starting to freak out. Its like I all of a sudden feel really alone. I want to reach out..... I fight the urge everyday!! The fight itself is very tiring. I feel that no one understands..... All my hopes and dream for the future are gone. It seemed so easy for her. I don't know..... I am scared. I am 32 and I feel as if I won't ever have my own family. I can't even get out of the house to keep my mind off things due to a broken foot. I have been stuck at home for a month.... and have at least another month to go!! I am so losing it at this moment!!
Cmac Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I can't even get out of the house to keep my mind off things due to a broken foot. I have been stuck at home for a month.... and have at least another month to go!! I am so losing it at this moment!! I know how that feels. I'm struggling with a flare-up of a chronic illness that I have and have barely been able to leave the house for the past 4 months. It's tough to find things to do to keep your mind off of everything when you feel like you're under house arrest.
Author Sophie99 Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 I'm sorry Sophie I made my point horribly and feel like an idiot now.. No problem, we all do that sometimes I appreciate what you were trying to say
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