ke1210 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 About two months ago I met someone online on a sugar daddy website. It was the first time either of us has ever met up with anyone from the website. Lets call him Jack. Jack is 39 and very wealthy. His work causes him to travel a lot. He broke off his engagement of about a year off back in November. I am 19 and currently a student. Jack and I have only met up twice so far. Both times we went out to a very nice dinner and after we had sex. Jack is a gentlemen in all areas; during the intercourse he always pleases me first and if a position hurts he will change it to what he can tell I am comfortable with. Though we met on a sugar daddy website. Jack and I have never made arrangements for pay or anything to make it seem like that type of arrangement. I guess it feels more like casual dating. I once asked Jack what we were doing and he replied "getting to know each other right now and seeing if we are compatible." He texts me everyday since the first time we have talked. But sometimes he will answer right away, but a majority of the time he takes anywhere from an hour to 3 hours to reply to me. I know he is busy being away for work, but does this mean anything? I have come to develop feelings for Jack, but I am not quite sure what he is looking for and I find it awkward to ask because of how we met and also the age difference... I was wondering if you could help me and give me some advice as to what he may want or be thinking. How should I act towards the situation? Also with the communication when we aren't together with him taking hours to answer me. Should I not answer him right away? Do you think anything serious could ever come out of this? What is your opinion about the situation; any advice you could give me would be great.
Philosoraptor Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Seems like he is getting all of the benefits on his end without paying up. I highly doubt a man on a sugar daddy website is looking for anything more than to get lucky.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Yes, Jack sounds like a real "gentlemen"...(((sarcasm))) - On a site called "Sugardaddy" - Broke off engagement - Now dating you, a 19 year old. - buys you an easy dinner then sleeps with you - is not always a quick communicator. 99% of the time this is indivitive of a guy that isn't too serious about commitment. Please do not be fooled about about how attentive he is during something like intercourse, how he "always pleases you first". Yes, that's a great trait in a boyfriend but it is not symbiotic of a "good man". Wanting to please you "sexually" is not the same as someone being a gentlemen or a good guy. This is a mistake that TOO many younger women make. Further, sex is not about getting to know someone. As I have gotten older, I have learned that sex actually inhabits your ability to get to know someone because it can easily blind you to what you real emotions/feelings might be to someone when you are going off all those feel good highs of sex. Sex is easy. Men that really want to get to know you and connect to you, you won't have any question about where you stand. What kind of things do you two talk about? What where the reasons behind him breaking up his past engagement? What is his relationship history and what kind of relationship does he have with his family? these are things you should be finding out. And you should not be so willing to give away the "cookie" just because you are a site called "sugardaddy". The reality is that as a woman, you are more likely to get attached after having sex with a man then not. This is why women need to be more selective about who they have sex with. Yes, sex feels good for us too but I really think it gets women in situations that would be healthier to avoid. I don't really see you having a future with this guy. And I would ask yourself how much do you really want to be with a guy that is 39 and dates 19 year olds. And ask yourself if you were 39, would he still be interested in dating you. And ask yourself if that's the kind of man you want in your life.
FitChick Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 There are three of this exact thread. Might be a troll.
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