mymission Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Everything reminds me of him. I always get flashbacks. I want him back. I want him to be in love with me again. Sorry bad day today.
blindesided Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I feel your pain - I am right there in the same boat - it sucks - but nice knowing you have somewhere to vent & support all around
CaliBabe Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I am having one of those days too. Just be strong, it will pass.
loveydove Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 me too : ( for some reason, it went from getting easier to getting harder. I just can't believe he doesn't need to talk to me everyday. I miss talking to him so much.
Sophie99 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 me too : ( for some reason, it went from getting easier to getting harder. I just can't believe he doesn't need to talk to me everyday. I miss talking to him so much. I'm in the same boat as you, just when you think you're making progress it seems like everything is back to square one :/ It hurts when they don't seem to be feeling any pain when you're crushed
M2155 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 You don't know if they are not feeling pain, they probably are. If not, it's masked by something else or they were hurting before the breakup. If they don't hurt at all, they are cold-hearted people you didn't need to be with in the first place. They just realize as do you, that going back to a situation that they were not willing to give forever to, is not the best move for the long run. It always seems like the other person has no sweat moving on when you are in pain. At the same time don't expect him to deal with and process a breakup the same way you are. (That's whats funny about people coming back months and months later, when they seemed so happy to be free of you in the beginning). What you are going through really really really sucks. But millions of people have survived this and you will get better. Bad days happen, don't feel bad. Hope you day gets a little better 5
Theresa9297 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 We've all had them. It gets better. Even after 20 years of marriage, it gets better. Hand in there. Theresa For divorce advice call: 888-727-9257
Iuri Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Hi guys, I'm new at this, so go easy on me. My name is Iuri, age of 25, i'm from Brazil and this how my story goes. I'll try to make it short. First of all, I miss my fiancé a lot, we've been together for almost 4 years. I screwed up last year, when cheated on her. The reasons don't justify my actions. I take full blame on what I did. I even punish myself every day thinking about it. Our relation wans't good at that time, and there were some needs like: human contact, talking, stuff wich I wasn't getting from her. So... as stupid man who coudn't understand her, I did the stupid thing of cheating. I resent myself until today. From that point we split, I lived my life for 2 months like an ******* but than, I’ve realized how hollow I was without her. We talked, we got back. 1 month later, that ridiculous act of cheating on her, led me with having a child. You all can imagine what happend next... We started fighting and resolving stuff. Then again, and again and again. Wich brings me where I stand. We were starting our lives as a couple in the back of my parents house. Nice place for a start. My parents won't accept her anymore(due to fights, and my mother is f**** crazy b****), and her mother now (wich is no good example as a parent, tells her to leave when some guy comes) just did the same s***. I fought for us a lot, and she was always nervous and insecure most of the time. Of course she did, I lost my job, cheated, got a kid and we were living in separate houses. What more damage can I do... (Just the thought of this I get really really sad, wich is most of the time thinking the ****y person I’am.) I've been living with money from savings. I had some start ups investments wich they got me nowhere. So, to get things even better I'm living with my parents, because I lost my job last year. She's living with her mother. My money is running out, and soon I’ll need to ask them. I don't have a place to go with her, and THIS IS ONE of her biggest problems... and mine. This weekend was the worst weekend of my life in years. I'm working every day on some new stuff, and looking for jobs. I'm sleeping 3 hours a day (for at least 1 year), no eat, lots and lots of smokes(cigarettes), occasionally some drinking and working on my ideias. Trying to change from nothing to everything. For her. Not for me. Giving her the stuff I dream in my mind every single day, like trips, cooking for her, getting her at where she works for a romantic dinner, surprise with presents that she likes(most of them are not too expensive). I really don't care about myself that much. My heart belongs to her. Everything I can do for her I will. It's been like this since I know her. The result, we're back to the s***hole I've put ourselves in. Now that we're a part I can’t put my head straight. I try to do stuff, I can’t. I want to see her. Hold her. Love her. Like we did 2 weeks ago in desperate flee to go to a hotel and sleep together. Cause unfortunately we don't have anywhere to go. I'm at the rock bottom for this and I want to give her a life. I'm not solving my problems like I used to. And all my motivation is gone. I don't have her and I know (I deserve it). But only God knows how hard I've been trying to change our life from this mess, into something really good. I can't see 10 meters in front of me. I can only see s*** with more s*** coming towards us. I love her with my life. I've alredy told her that. She knows it, but unfortunately I’m stuck in some kind of bad dream wich I can't manage to come out. I'll do anything for her, give my life for 'hers'. And also, we can’t live only with love, we need money. To sum up, I'm a complete mess right now. I saw some people with some issues, and I don't usualy comment at foruns. But this time, I'm feeling a void, pain, lack of concentration, despair, and I miss her a lot... and every time I talk to her since saturday, I keep ruining more and more (naturaly). I hope I can get some perspective from you guys. Probably I’m the dickest person on this forum. Maybe even in real life.
loveydove Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I'm in the same boat as you, just when you think you're making progress it seems like everything is back to square one :/ It hurts when they don't seem to be feeling any pain when you're crushed I know, that's the worst thing! When he seemed upset, I felt so much better. When they don't contact you, and seem fine...it killlss because it feels like you are important anymore. I just hate it. 1
mike588 Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I know, that's the worst thing! When he seemed upset, I felt so much better. When they don't contact you, and seem fine...it killlss because it feels like you are important anymore. I just hate it. My ex. contacted me several times last month after dumping me 7 months ago for her ex. We talked about things about a week after she dumped me and she seemed and said that she was happy.....that just killed me!!!!!!!!! Now after contacting me telling me how sorry she is...how she regrets it...she thinks about me EVERY day I guess that things didn't go the way she expected/wanted it with her ex. It was a big setback for me....I had finally gotten over her then had to go thru that wound being opened again!
jennisfora Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 i'm sorry, Mike. ive had a rough patch of days too, but it was my fault in my case, gave in to sticking my hand in the fire, and then wondering why it hurts. guess im a slow learner, lol
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