LexiB Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I got "hi" sometimes when I was doing OLD. Annoying. Or sometimes I would get "Hit me back if you wanna talk." As if! My favorite is "let's chat". Is it 1995 all over again? 3
zengirl Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Hubby and I (who met on OKC) both had profiles that said something along the lines of: If you message me, please don't just say "hi" or "what's up?" Please actually say something! It's seriously hard to know what to do with that and IME the men who write really short things (I never responded to "hi" or "what's up?" but I did at first respond to people who said something akin to they were interested and to write them back if I was as well, until I realized it wasn't any better!) cannot carry on a good conversation, at least not in writing. Many of them give the excuse that they don't like to write. I guess that's okay, but it was not for me. Phineas, sounds like you've given it a good try. To each their own, I guess, but those "just hi" messages don't seem like they'd get anyone anywhere.
Author phineas Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 Hubby and I (who met on OKC) both had profiles that said something along the lines of: If you message me, please don't just say "hi" or "what's up?" Please actually say something! It's seriously hard to know what to do with that and IME the men who write really short things (I never responded to "hi" or "what's up?" but I did at first respond to people who said something akin to they were interested and to write them back if I was as well, until I realized it wasn't any better!) cannot carry on a good conversation, at least not in writing. Many of them give the excuse that they don't like to write. I guess that's okay, but it was not for me. Phineas, sounds like you've given it a good try. To each their own, I guess, but those "just hi" messages don't seem like they'd get anyone anywhere. I always pick something out of their profile to comment on then ask a question about whether they like something or not i'm into that isn't on their profile. A sign of life! She asked a question! At this rate I might secure a date before my subscription runs out in 3 weeks. LOL! 2
zengirl Posted March 28, 2012 Posted March 28, 2012 I always pick something out of their profile to comment on then ask a question about whether they like something or not i'm into that isn't on their profile. Sounds good. I did something similar -- not long, just a sentence or two, but as you say "a sign of life." A sign of life! She asked a question! At this rate I might secure a date before my subscription runs out in 3 weeks. LOL! Awesome, good luck!
Anela Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 The crazy ones are oddly more self-assured and real, in spite of the fact that they are also pretty unbearable. It's like craziness comes with a good dose of self-respect. We can only handle so much crazy: our own. I've had my not-exactly-sane times, and I really resent someone trying to heap more crap onto me, when I'm already hurting. Also, having a chip on your shoulder can throw shyness out of the window for a while.
El Brujo Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 I just got one myself & i'm wondering WTF am I supposed to do with that? It's just a "hi" message titled "hi". So? Maybe the woman is practically illiterate. Good replies: Lo I sure am!
2sunny Posted March 29, 2012 Posted March 29, 2012 Some sites have a high ratio of prostitutes looking or fishing for potential money prospects. What easier way than a dating site? I've had guys tell me that many, many gals looking for potential guys to make money from start a chat with just "hi!" Then suddenly and pretty quick out of the gate - they refer you to their "site" Their ploy is as little effort or energy expended - to get you to pay them money!
grkBoy Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 I dunno. Back when I was in OLD, if a girl I found attractive sent me a "hi" message, I'll reply with "hi" and "how are you?" Try to engage some convo. However, I can imagine if you're getting loads of emails, the "hi" email probably won't be a turn on. That or if someone you're not attracted to does the "hi" message.
Author phineas Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 So? Maybe the woman is practically illiterate. Good replies: Lo I sure am! Well, I had a 2nd one wink at me & I sent her a message & I really did think she was illiterate. But it turns out she just wasn't born in this country so English is her 2nd language. So after 3 months on match.com the tally is: A weeks worth of emails with a woman who went *poof* A woman who responded once then stopped. sex with a stage-5 clinger who told me she just wanted to have fun then tried to sex me into a relationship an got pissed because I couldn't text her while I was at work. More ignored messages than I care to remember. Many winks from models in their 30's (fake accounts) winks from women I wasn't attracted to. And now I am talking to two women I am attracted to & just trying to figure out if I want to meet them. I'm not sure it was worth the $50. Going to the free sites this summer.
InJest Posted March 30, 2012 Posted March 30, 2012 WTF are you gonna find one that's not crazy? All women are crazy. The keepers just know how to catch their crazy.
Author phineas Posted March 30, 2012 Author Posted March 30, 2012 WTF are you gonna find one that's not crazy? All women are crazy. The keepers just know how to catch their crazy. This one had a hole you could drive a dump-truck through in her net.
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