phineas Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I just got one myself & i'm wondering WTF am I supposed to do with that? It's just a "hi" message titled "hi". I usually get those from fake profiles. This one is legit. Usually women at least ask me a question when they messaged me in the past. She does interest me so I'll message her back later today with some questions and such to get the ball rolling as I assume a "hi" message from a woman is a slight step up from a wink. 3
oaks Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I think my profile even asks that women don't just say "hi. how are you?" if they want to contact, but I still get some like that. If filters out those who can't read, I suppose. 3
Author phineas Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 Reading isn't a requirement of mine. Just not fat & not crazy. 2
oaks Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Reading isn't a requirement of mine. Just not fat & not crazy. Maybe I should lower my standards. 1
oldguy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I always took, "hi" as being more promising than "kiss off & die". If you didn't like her you could always continue the dance by writing back; "hi back" 1
Teal Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Response choices: 1) Engage in predictable 1-3 word exchanges. 2) Take it upon yourself to get a real conversation rolling despite the ball being in their court. 3) Ignore. 1
Dust Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 The "hi" obviously worked for you. I'm sorry she didn't ask you about your favorite movies or how you like working your job etc. You don't know what to do with a "hi." It's called be the man and msg her back "thanks for saying hi and hi back at you. We should meet are you free tonight?" And that ladies and gentlemen is how its done. Not that I've actualy ever online dated a person.
sid3 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Reading isn't a requirement of mine. Just not fat & not crazy. Huh, I kinda like crazy.
johan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Huh, I kinda like crazy. The crazy ones are oddly more self-assured and real, in spite of the fact that they are also pretty unbearable. It's like craziness comes with a good dose of self-respect.
oaks Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 You don't know what to do with a "hi." It's called be the man and msg her back "thanks for saying hi and hi back at you. We should meet are you free tonight?" You're probably right. I don't think that anyone who just said "hi" was someone I wanted to meet, but if she was pretty and we shared some interests then I'm sure I'd overlook it.
Author phineas Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 You're probably right. I don't think that anyone who just said "hi" was someone I wanted to meet, but if she was pretty and we shared some interests then I'm sure I'd overlook it. Her listed salary is more than twice what I make. serious. Maybe she's the type who likes to wear the suit pants in a relationship? LOL! I've never had a suger-mama. Might be fun.
El Brujo Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I reply to those messages with the url to my meetup group. Ain't I a stinker?
Mallow Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I normally don't reply to messages that are winks or simple 'Hi, whats up?'. Id take the time to answer someone who has read my profile.
xpaperxcutx Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 It's laziness. They initiate with the least amount of effort and expect you to take the rein. How do you expext to start a conversation from "Hi"? 2
Author phineas Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 It's laziness. They initiate with the least amount of effort and expect you to take the rein. How do you expext to start a conversation from "Hi"? I just pulled something from her profile to ask her about then asked her another question. She answered my question & ignored the one about her profile. No questions of her own. i'll respond tomorrow but if she doesn't show any life in her next response she won't hear from me again.
FitChick Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Half the time the men who just say "Hi" or "Wanna chat?" have no photos on their profiles.
Jane2011 Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I got "hi" sometimes when I was doing OLD. Annoying. Or sometimes I would get "Hit me back if you wanna talk." As if!
xpaperxcutx Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I just pulled something from her profile to ask her about then asked her another question. She answered my question & ignored the one about her profile. No questions of her own. i'll respond tomorrow but if she doesn't show any life in her next response she won't hear from me again. See that's just it... online dating is nothing but a virtual ego boost no matter the reply. I've talked to many men who responds with no qs of yheir own. They're usually just no that interested.
Author phineas Posted March 27, 2012 Author Posted March 27, 2012 See that's just it... online dating is nothing but a virtual ego boost no matter the reply. I've talked to many men who responds with no qs of yheir own. They're usually just no that interested. Eh' minimal effort on my part & fodder for the forums.
orion1010 Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I just got one myself & i'm wondering WTF am I supposed to do with that? It's just a "hi" message titled "hi". I usually get those from fake profiles. This one is legit. Usually women at least ask me a question when they messaged me in the past. She does interest me so I'll message her back later today with some questions and such to get the ball rolling as I assume a "hi" message from a woman is a slight step up from a wink.\ The "Hi" messages really bug me but what REALLY bugs me as a female is when you first start dating someone or any guy in general for that matter will text you the line "Hey, what's up?" Guys, I beg you to stop it!! Say something, anything other than that!!!! 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 The crazy ones are oddly more self-assured and real, in spite of the fact that they are also pretty unbearable. It's like craziness comes with a good dose of self-respect. oh johan
Emilia Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 I just pulled something from her profile to ask her about then asked her another question. She answered my question & ignored the one about her profile. No questions of her own. i'll respond tomorrow but if she doesn't show any life in her next response she won't hear from me again. Sometimes I reply to 'hi' just to amuse myself or to prove myself wrong. It's a waste of time every time. They can't carry a conversation or have absolutely nothing to say.
oaks Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 It's laziness. They initiate with the least amount of effort and expect you to take the rein. How do you expext to start a conversation from "Hi"? Sometimes laziness. Sometimes I think it's genuinely cluelessness from people who have no idea how to start a conversation online with a stranger (on a dating site or otherwise). Is it also sometime arrogance? With a mindset along the lines of "now that I've drawn his/her attention to my profile and my obvious interest, he/she will naturally want to talk to me!" Also, sometimes, I suspect it's boredom from people who aren't taking it seriously. 1
Emilia Posted March 27, 2012 Posted March 27, 2012 Also, sometimes, I suspect it's boredom from people who aren't taking it seriously. I think most of the time this is the reason. Can't be that high % clueless guys on those sites.
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