Letting go

[jerbear]

In the past I've always prioritize goals. How does one let go of old goals?

Letting go of bucket list items? Letting go of friendship connections?

[sezz]

goals, like friendships cannot easily be let go. if there ois some part of you that still wants to accomplish this goal then you willnot be able to ignore it. my afvice is to filter the goals into goals u still wis! to accomplish and goals u no longer care about. this is same with friendships. if you hav a strong bond and/or genually like the person you will not be able to letthem go

 

i hope this has helped, and am very sorry if not

[TaraMaiden]

In the past I've always prioritize goals. How does one let go of old goals?

Letting go of bucket list items? Letting go of friendship connections?

Trite as it may sound - you can't take 'em with you.

 

It may sound bizarre, but put yourself in a frame of mind as if you were dying.

 

Now, look at your lists.

Knowing your fragile state, and knowing you would have limited time left to you - which ones strike you as really worth keeping and focusing on, and which are ok to let go, because really they're not worth the energy?

 

It's actually an effective method.

 

By the way - it's not "as if" you were dying: - You ARE dying.

We all are.

Every single breath is one breath less; every single day, full of breaths, is one day less.

Each day you come closer to your dying.

 

And none of us can predict that day.

Every single year, we celebrate our birthday - yet the day of our death also comes and goes, without being noticed.

Yet, one day, it will come.

unseen, unexpected - it will embrace and take us.

 

It embraced and took those in the Twin towers. They had no idea, either.

 

So live each day, breathing deeply.

And evaluate and prioritise.

You may not get the chance tomorrow.

[jerbear]

Hi Sezz, welcome to LS!

 

Thank you for your reply. I appreciate it and yes you did help.

 

I used to be a pro-con person and put stuff in a spreadsheet. Now I just put it in the spreadsheet as placeholders so I know what I want to do.

 

Stuff like what are my goals, bucket list items, and why should I continue doing what I'm doing. I re-examine my life goals, things going on in my life about once a year, like the big items not little things like what is for lunch.

 

 

Hi Taramaiden,

 

Thank you for your comment.

 

I never thought of it that way. Amazing how thinking you'll die soon really puts a damper and reality into perspective. It throws away conventional wisdom of saving for a rainy day and the future. Well there is no future, hence tomorrow is one day closer to death. Live life without regrets.

 

Now I want to book a bucket list adventure and go. Disconnect from the developed world and go do something. The Twin Towers, well I had a close call. I turned down the interview years before with the company that got decimated that day. That company went from around 1600 employees down to 600.

[Double D]

Since I was 12 all I wanted was 2 b a film-maker, I studied it most of my educational life and made a few short films of my own, wrote all the time + did voluntary work, now at 34 and life experiences has happened I don't have that some drive + committment I once did + now I'm trying 2 figure how 2 let go of a life's dream, which I struggling with to be honest.

 

Tara made a very good point bout if you were dying what b important 2 you and the first thing that came 2 mind was 2 make a movie, gave me a moment of pause.

 

Letting go is difficult!

[jerbear]

Since I was 12 all I wanted was 2 b a film-maker, I studied it most of my educational life and made a few short films of my own, wrote all the time + did voluntary work, now at 34 and life experiences has happened I don't have that some drive + committment I once did + now I'm trying 2 figure how 2 let go of a life's dream, which I struggling with to be honest.

 

Tara made a very good point bout if you were dying what b important 2 you and the first thing that came 2 mind was 2 make a movie, gave me a moment of pause.

 

Letting go is difficult!

 

Hi Double D.

Great on the short films. I know someone who made one and is now on Netflix. Passions are great and yes life experiences can change things. I do hope you still make the movie.

 

The entrepreneur in me is itching again and other things started rolling. I thought of letting go many ideals and things so I can free and renew myself. Plus I have to own my decisions.