Aquariusconfused Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Ok, here is a question that I'm sure is all over here. Instead of looking for a similar one I want to ask my side from my eyes. I'm not a narcissist by any means, I know myself. I'm 32 years old I do not drink, the friends I had before have all moved on to the next stage in life. (wives/kids/etc). Therefore they have no interest in associating with single me. Double dates sure and that brings me to my problem. Where do I look for a lady that's not interested in a one night stand? Or even a lady that's not a basketcase. I'm confident with my looks, I am shy on walking up to a random lady, only because I seem to pick the head cases. Or ones whose favorite shoes are issues. I consider myself, highly intelligent, average looking, honest(never cheated), I have morals(broke up with a girl because she was a virgin and didn't want to be the one, cuz I wasn't into her that deeply, she deserved someone special for that), I can carry on a conversation on almost any topic, good listener, and know how to make a lady feel special. But yet I'm single and do not see that changing. Since my friends are busy, I work in an all male field, and online dating is a joke. I have dated every possible type except for the right type. So what do I do now? I'm not a drinker so going to the bar is out. My past relationships I always feel like my only purpose was to fix them, help them, to watch them leave. I want to be in the next stage of life in the worse way. I can say I'm ready for that. But how do I go about getting there. I have no idea. Please any suggestions.
SemperFi Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I am in the same situation. I Started a career right out of high-school (Military) While my friends were partying and playing the field. Fast forward 14 years and Now I want the freedom, they have gotten married/kids etc. Online dating did not work for me ( Serial dinner out, nothing else, etc) I did find 2 girls, who I met through a gun range course, and of all places, a grocery store. Volunteer at a local animal shelter ( dog walker, etc) join a local activities club. There are many options other then the bar scene. Now as good as the points that you have ( honest, convo's etc) That whole " But yet I'm single and do not see that changing" will be your downfall. Women can sense that, change that in your mind and project confidence. And NEVER give up. As my Dad told me many years ago " You have to wad through a lot of ****, in order to find the diamond"
Crazy4what Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 poor lady, she probably lost her virginity for someone worst. lolz... anyways yeah change your mindset. You prolly are too emotional, also women can sense that
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