dancinggal Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Hey guys. I'm a 26 year old woman dating a 37 year old guy for about five months. We have sex about once a month and I'm confused about why it's so little. This is what's going on: - he is fit and healthy and I'm very attracted to him - I'm an attractive woman. I don't like saying that bc it makes me sound arrogant, but I look ok and I don't think it's me physically that's the problem - we are in love and it was pretty much love at first sight - he has told me that he would think about his other girlfriends sexually but when he thinks about me, he thinks about me as a person - I'm not bad in bed. I'm enthusiastic and enjoy sex - he likes cuddling me and kissing me and sleeping next to me but doesn't want much else I'm just confused and would like some ideas on what I can do to make him feel more sexually about me.
SJC2008 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 He may not be ready to "let loose" his inner beast being that yall only do the deed once a mont which would put you at a little more than a handfull of times. He may be tryin to show you that he sees you as more than a woman he's just sleeping with. That being said, he is a man and once a month seems very low. Is he conservative? Not much else? No "foreplay"? doesn't want to get "foreplay"?
dasein Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Hmm, does he drink frequently? any drugs like weed or blow? are there severe stressors in his life? has he been for a checkup lately? possibility of depression? has he described more regular frequency with past GFs? how long have you been dating? is he diabetic? high blood pressure? does he get full erections? any recentish accidents or significant injuries you know of? Could be lots of things more detail needed. This may not be the best board to get help or advice for such. Good luck.
jerbear Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Hey guys. I'm a 26 year old woman dating a 37 year old guy for about five months. We have sex about once a month and I'm confused about why it's so little. This is what's going on: - he is fit and healthy and I'm very attracted to him - I'm an attractive woman. I don't like saying that bc it makes me sound arrogant, but I look ok and I don't think it's me physically that's the problem - we are in love and it was pretty much love at first sight - he has told me that he would think about his other girlfriends sexually but when he thinks about me, he thinks about me as a person - I'm not bad in bed. I'm enthusiastic and enjoy sex - he likes cuddling me and kissing me and sleeping next to me but doesn't want much else I'm just confused and would like some ideas on what I can do to make him feel more sexually about me. This is not a good sign. Like other posters mentioned. Stress, drugs, metal blocks, and physical things, can all be a downer.
Emilia Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Hey guys. - he has told me that he would think about his other girlfriends sexually but when he thinks about me, he thinks about me as a person This isn't good. Maybe he naturally has a low libido, maybe the attraction part just isn't working for some reason.
kaylan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Date a guy your age whos actually attracted to you and has a larger sex drive. Problem sizzolved. 1
jerbear Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Sounds like low T and the guy doesn't even know about it.
Professor X Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Look at the issue this way: if his libido is fine, than he isn't into you. Period. If his libido is naturally low, than do you really wanna spend the rest of your life with having sex just once a month? Knowing it will get worse with each passing day? (i.e. in a year you'll do it once in 2 months, etc etc). And as the others have mention, the thinking about other girls is bad, real bad.
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