lostconfidence Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 this wont be short lol but ill give as much detail as i can here goes .we went together for almost a year and a half she loved me more than anything adored me we where amazing together then we split and for 6 months she waited while i went with all sorts of women (she knew none of this} than got back togehter at xmas.when we got back it was at my sisters party who she is ver yclose to and she made sure she was the prettiest girl in the room anyway we got back together then it started agian she works alot of hrs i seen her once maybe twice a week always at nite we never done much. she hated her job i hated her job we argued abut never seeing each other so i finsihed it on valentines day..i know!! i was angry and hurt i planned al sorts and couldn never do anything i felt i was never in a relationship.. i blamed her and she txt me saying it was over then i refused to speak to her and just txt her she clearly wanted me back plaeding and saying shell quit jobs and i told her no i dont see no furter with her.. now this is wher it gets messy 3 weeks later i spotted her on facebook talking to a guy all xxx and what have ya so i say what the **** you at. she goin none of your concern then writes all flirty stuff anyway i find out she been seeing this guys she denies that she only seen him once or twice but he had been boasting to my mate that shes been staying over at his . we talk and i get very jealous basicly wanting her back yes am a dick.. she starts lyin about this guy and comes down to mine saying that she loves we wher lyin in bed she admitits to sleeping with him and lyin in bed she holding me like am about to fall of the world so tightly and kissing me every time i fall asleep and she crying saying shes needs time to think. .i was just being stuborun blaming her and saying no break either stay of go for good..anywayshe leave we take a few days break and i realize its not her its all me i push her away and treat her like crap so i tell her and send her flower on the sat to her work. she starts txtn saying there lovely and saying she wants to make a dicission still txt fliting at 12 that nite..didnt here on the sunday then on monday i txt her and she just saying she still uncertain then i find out that on the sat nite after the flowers she went and stayed in this guys house and txt me while ther. so i txt her saying i know her you wher on sat nite and she fones me crying saying she dosnt know whats shes doin shes so lost and wants me but dosnt know if itll work and all this gaff 4 hrs we wher on the fone we argued made up. i keep pleading with her i want her back i know its all my fault the the next day she txt saying she wants to sort it today.then fones me crying saying she cant do it any more and she can face me. anyway i drove down we went for a drink she kept toching me then pulling away and staring at me then crying but refuseing to ge back with me. we talked she said i pushed her away it was all my fualt.she denied that she had been planning all this stuff with this guys but i knew she was.i told her why didnt she just tell me at the start that she didnt want me and wanted to date this guys she had been seeng him the whole time.she told me cause she didnt know what she wanted. and then told me that she cut me out of her life the week we split cause she cried for a week solid. then when i went to get out of the car she started grabbing me to stop and cried.then told me to get out, then i got in to my car and she sat staring at me for 20 mins driving away and coming back and then standing at the top or the road and foning me telling me to leave then drove of. now after this she went straight to this guys house she has been shtaying in this guys house every single nite.. this girl works to 12 at niet some times ans shes been partying like crazy out in town when ever she can planing crazy weekends away. this guy is a scum bag no job lives with his mum no car just take drugs constant and i think she fallen for this guy big time. is this a rebound will it last and will i get her back?? plaese help i havent slept or ate in over a week. she dose keep telling me thatshe stillloves me but she moving on and she happy but never mentions him
Author lostconfidence Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 shes 25 and am 28 by the way lol sorry for my terrible grammar. i know am gonna see her all the time cause she is very close to my sister and my cousin now because of me and i seen her on sat morn when i dona a half marathon and she done the last leg of it. i knew i couldn stop but i met her at the finish line at gave her a bottle of water she was talking away and asking bout my time and her face being red and stuff. i ask her if she was goin out tonite she no am working why? i said cause i mite be out.. she said why would that matter if am out with yas and i said incase your boyfriends there and she said id hardly do that i dont want to talk about it now and walked away.. then before she left she was waving over to me?? i just think she is so lost and confused she seen me weak and cry no1 would ever see that side of me i think shes constantly with this guy so she cant think about me but i will wait and get another girl if i have to
mike588 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Rebounds don't usually last all that long...up to 6 months...remember I said up to..not 6 months. It also depends on the situation..each relationship has it's on dynamics..is different. She may still love you but may not be "In Love" with you. Best thing for you to do is go No Contact...let her be..let her find out herself..the more you interfere the more you will push her away..believe me!! No Contact is NOT a way to get your ex. back...it's for you to heal and to move on but...... it may make her miss you and wonder about you. 1
Author lostconfidence Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 yeah am goin to have to go into nc. every1 has been telling me she will be back she told my sister that if she got back with me it would be out of guilt for hurting me funny even tho am the one who dumped her and all she needed to do was be honest with me from the start... its so confusing she was stringing me along see if the grass was greener and i chased her and showed that i was insecure am ot like that i think it scared her i just think she is blinded by this guy i know she still loves me... she planned to go with my sis in like 2 weeks i think she wil come back
Author lostconfidence Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 plus how can she be really happy if 4 days ago she was on the fone to me crying telling me she wants to be with me?? this heart break feels like ave and infection on my chest like a warm hurting feeling i hate it. she also say the week i found out was the worst 2 weeks of her life
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