journey3 Posted June 13, 2004 Posted June 13, 2004 I have been seeing this guy for over a month, I was at his house for the evening, when he told me he cared alot about me & he thinks long term when dating maybe even forever, so the next day we watched movies all day, & about an hour before I left, I thought something was wrong & I asked him he said no, I asked if I should leave he said no, I did make a comment about him being slow, I was joking, I don't know if he knew that(after the comment I noticed a change) Then I said I was leaving he said ok, he never says ok, so I left & called ,got voice mail, & no call back, & again the next day I called left meesage & no call back, & today I did same thing. Am I missing something here? Did I do something wrong, or has he been playing me? I know this may sound dumb, but I like him so much, & I'm not getting anything from him, at least call & talk about it or say see ya. Does anyone have any advice? I'm so desperate to try to understand. I really don't want to stop seeing him. but it looks like I have no choice. Any & all words of wisdom welcome. Thank you
masked_man Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 It's difficult to know exactly why he is acting the way he is. Going by what you have said though, it seems to me he may be the moody type. As you've only been seeing him for a month, and are still in the process of getting to know him, you may not previously have been aware of this aspect of his character. At this stage the best thing to do is wait it out and see what happens. If he contacts you again, then you'll have to decide what you want to do next. You'll probably find he'll always have these kinds of episodes, that is, going silent and withdrawn without warning. Unfortunately it's just the way some people are. It's up to you to decide whether you will (or can) live with someone with mood swings, and whether you feel other aspects of the relationship compensate for this. Always look out for number one in this regard. Just in my experience of moody people, it generally seems there some on going issue or problem at the root of the mood swings. What do you know of his background and other aspects of his life? Does he have problems with, say, his family, work, or money? Hope this helps.
dudesomewhere Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 he's just playing the dating game...longer he ignores you the more you'll love him! I'm joking but am I?
Author journey3 Posted June 16, 2004 Author Posted June 16, 2004 Thanks for your reply! I did something kinda dumb, I wrote him a letter telling him I thought he was blowing me off & I really liked him & have a good life, well he finally called the day I wrote & sent the letter, & I basically told him, but when he got it he called & said I have his # if I want to continue this, I think he took it as a blow off from me. He has no money issues, matter of a fact he brags about his money, but he does have problems with his mom. This guy really confuses me, but theres something about him, I don't like being without him.
CurlyIam Posted June 16, 2004 Posted June 16, 2004 Alright, why didn't you take him out for a coffee before him getting the letter and explain him how you felt? If you want to go out with him, the ball is in your court. Just know what to expect from him. Did he at least offer you an explination for his reaction?
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