Necris Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I'm curious what does it mean if someone is called creepy? If someone is "creepy" what is the best way to change it? I'm a guy and I've noticed I've been called creepy before but I never understood that term. Now sometimes I catch myself staring at people in particular women I may find attractive and I have to catch myself as I know being stared at can be uncomfortable. But I could be doing nothing and women may think I'm creepy like walking down the street and somehow creeping a woman out by being near her or getting in an elevator and the woman acts as if I'm going to rape her or something. Thankfully none of that is really an issue since it doesn't happen too often but it makes me wonder why do they think I am being creepy. Which reminds me even in highschool people thought something was wrong with me and made up all kinds of crazy rumors that I was gay, asexual, or something else insane. I remember in the 12th grade the teacher wanted everyone to do this childish exercise where we say something nice about the person next to us and this girl next to me said she thought I was some sort of creepy sick loner but after knowing me thought I was okay and I'm in my head going "where the hell did she get the idea that I was some sort of creepy sick loner?" Or another time also in 12th grade in a acting class I took as an elective I had to do some sort of activity but I was partnered with this girl and the activity required that our hands touch she couldn't go through with it. And no I'm not known for being filthy and she wasn't exactly shy but I really didn't know her I just knew she wanted to be with anyone but me. I mean really whats up with that? Even my own parents sometimes act like I'm creepy, like my dad sometimes questioning me if I'm gay, mentally insane, or a possible pedophile (I was helping my dad install some parts into his car and randomly he suddenly tells me he'll kill me if I have sex with my 6 year old sister, I'm like the hell why would I ever want to do that and what gave him the idea that I was that type of person). I know I have trouble speaking, relating, and connecting to people and I do not have any friends, or ever had a relationship with a woman but why do some people think I'm creepy? Maybe I give off some sort of wierd pheromones or "psychic energy".
PhillyDude Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Explanation of Creepy Attractive Guy: "Excuse me but can I put a passion mark on your buttcheek?" Female: Are you serious?-lol please tell me your are joking? Well ok if that's you want to do Unattractive Guy: "Excuse me can I put a passionate mark on your buttcheek?" Female: "Um you are seriously creeping me out" 2
Author Necris Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Explanation of Creepy Attractive Guy: "Excuse me but can I put a passion mark on your buttcheek?" Female: Are you serious?-lol please tell me your are joking? Well ok if that's you want to do Unattractive Guy: "Excuse me can I put a passionate mark on your buttcheek?" Female: "Um you are seriously creeping me out" Lol, makes sense. Also what is a passion mark? That reminds me, I noticed men are not likely to call someone creepy as much as women unless the person being called creepy is doing something insane.
Cracker Jack Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I believe a passion mark is a hickey. That mark you leave with your lips. The word "creep" is used so loosely nowadays, so it's not even worth trying to find a proper definition for it. I believe the meaning of it differs among people.
PhillyDude Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Lol, makes sense. Also what is a passion mark? That reminds me, I noticed men are not likely to call someone creepy as much as women unless the person being called creepy is doing something insane. The hickie that is put on your neck when you are a teenager. In Philly it was always referred to as a passion mark
Author Necris Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 The hickie that is put on your neck when you are a teenager. In Philly it was always referred to as a passion mark Oh, okay I looked up the definition for a hickie and I found this. A reddish mark on the skin caused by amorous kissing, biting, or sucking. Sounds wierd and painful, I didn't know people get marks from kissing. I guess I have nothing to worry about in regards to being called creepy since it really just means the girl doesn't find me particularly attractive.
PhillyDude Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Oh, okay I looked up the definition for a hickie and I found this. Sounds wierd and painful, I didn't know people get marks from kissing. I guess I have nothing to worry about in regards to being called creepy since it really just means the girl doesn't find me particularly attractive. You are only supposed to have these marks in middle school and highschool. The stupid girl put one on me 3 years ago and I had to call out sick 2 days because a 33 years old man with a passion mark looks retarded LOL
Professor X Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Explanation of Creepy Attractive Guy: "Excuse me but can I put a passion mark on your buttcheek?" Female: Are you serious?-lol please tell me your are joking? Well ok if that's you want to do Unattractive Guy: "Excuse me can I put a passionate mark on your buttcheek?" Female: "Um you are seriously creeping me out" It's sad, but true. I've known (personally) a girl who an attractive guy started to talk to her about marriage and kids names (in a very serious note) and also showed extreme signs of controlling behavior (he would almost force her to cover her skin more so other guys wont stare at her), as well as he would call her several times a day + text msgs - and this was before they dated. Everyone told her to run away as those are major red flag and that he's a total creeper (the mother of all red flags tbh). Now they are dating. Oh and, she also kept mentioning her big deal breaker age (young=deal breaker), and as you guessed he's younger than her.
EmpoweredWoman Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Male Model: Shake what your momma gave you, baby! Girl: Tee-hee! He's so charming, deep, and witty OMG. I hope he asks for my number I could do him right here on the dance floor. Average dude: Shake what your momma gave you, baby! Girl: OMG I'm scared , where's the bouncer?! GET THAT CREEP OUT OF HERE *mangina, white knight bouncers drag innocent guy and throw him out the door* Tee-hee, that perv thought such a cheesy line would work on me, like WHATEVER
dasein Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 OP it's a mostly gender based overused catchall insult and bragging device women use. It's as illegitimate a term to toss around as "slut" or "bitch." 1
Feelin Frisky Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I'd say that "creepy" most often relates to one's social vibe. There's some truth to what Phillydude said and they made a skit about that on Saturday Night Live, but a guy is judged creepy he seems out of touch with customary proportions of communication for the circumstances in which he finds himself. His choice of clothes can belie a disproportionate preoccupation with himself (like my youngest nephew who dresses like it's the 1890's) or an absence of evidence that his appearance is part of how he is perceived. "Creepiness" is a natural sensitivity to mentally defective people I think in which nature gives a woman the sense that this guy is not to procreate because he's defective--whether that's true or fair or not. If you've been called or considered creepy and want to change it, you have to face whether or not you do have a birth defect which manifests as a social disconnect where you're out of proportion or "sync" with those with whom you interact. Inquire with mental health professionals to find out how to see if you have one of the known developmental syndromes in which your social acumen is not that of those not afflicted with the syndrome. There are many folks that are extremely high functioning who can go through life not knowing that they had a social development impediment from genetics. There is no simple answer to say how to be less creepy without seeing you in action and how you dress and conduct routine social exchanges. You should naturally know when you are being imposing on someone else's space, going overboard in your manner, preoccupied to a fault about perception of yourself and not cognitive that other people are also concerned with their own perception and not invested in your perception of yourself.
Author Necris Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 since being single, ive had sex with very aggressive, manly men, and ive been, well, screwed is the wrong term here. Ive been penetrated by a total and utter wussy.who am I going to run back to when I'm ready for my fill? Manly McHardon, that's who. I know you're trolling, but that me laugh:lmao:.
Author Necris Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) I'd say that "creepy" most often relates to one's social vibe. There's some truth to what Phillydude said and they made a skit about that on Saturday Night Live, but a guy is judged creepy he seems out of touch with customary proportions of communication for the circumstances in which he finds himself. His choice of clothes can belie a disproportionate preoccupation with himself (like my youngest nephew who dresses like it's the 1890's) or an absence of evidence that his appearance is part of how he is perceived. "Creepiness" is a natural sensitivity to mentally defective people I think in which nature gives a woman the sense that this guy is not to procreate because he's defective--whether that's true or fair or not. If you've been called or considered creepy and want to change it, you have to face whether or not you do have a birth defect which manifests as a social disconnect where you're out of proportion or "sync" with those with whom you interact. Inquire with mental health professionals to find out how to see if you have one of the known developmental syndromes in which your social acumen is not that of those not afflicted with the syndrome. There are many folks that are extremely high functioning who can go through life not knowing that they had a social development impediment from genetics. There is no simple answer to say how to be less creepy without seeing you in action and how you dress and conduct routine social exchanges. You should naturally know when you are being imposing on someone else's space, going overboard in your manner, preoccupied to a fault about perception of yourself and not cognitive that other people are also concerned with their own perception and not invested in your perception of yourself. Interesting, but I'm pretty sure I'm not mentally defective. I will admit I have social issues like being shy, its difficult for me to speak to people, and I have trouble relating to and understanding other people but not on the level of a mental disorder. I guess being actually mentally defective and behaving in a highly inappropriate manner is being pretty creepy. It's sad, but true. I've known (personally) a girl who an attractive guy started to talk to her about marriage and kids names (in a very serious note) and also showed extreme signs of controlling behavior (he would almost force her to cover her skin more so other guys wont stare at her), as well as he would call her several times a day + text msgs - and this was before they dated. Everyone told her to run away as those are major red flag and that he's a total creeper (the mother of all red flags tbh). Now they are dating. Oh and, she also kept mentioning her big deal breaker age (young=deal breaker), and as you guessed he's younger than her. Lesson learned: If someone is attracted to you enough you can do nearly anything and they will love you. Which reminds me of a more extreme example I knew a guy who went to prison as soon as he gets out marries his correctional officer who quits his job for him and he then leaves her gets another woman pregnant leaves her but gets the baby and goes back to his first wife the correctional officer. On the contrary being unattractive makes the person think you are creepy. Anyway while that guy's behavior is a bit strange talking about marriage and kids before dating (something I would probably be laughed at for doing and definitely called creepy) it doesn't really seem all that bad. And telling a girl to not wear clothes too revealing doesn't sound like extreme controlling behavior. Edited March 25, 2012 by Necris
Professor X Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Anyway while that guy's behavior is a bit strange talking about marriage and kids before dating (something I would probably be laughed at for doing and definitely called creepy) it doesn't really seem all that bad. And telling a girl to not wear clothes too revealing doesn't sound like extreme controlling behavior. You would talk to a girl about having kids with her? how you'll name them after your parents and how you are gonna get married and such? again, in a serious note, to someone u just met? ok... and the clothing, she didn't even wear a cleavage (she has small breasts anyway), he just didn't want other men to look at her and show he's her owner.
Feelin Frisky Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Interesting, but I'm pretty sure I'm not mentally defective. I will admit I have social issues like being shy, its difficult for me to speak to people, and I have trouble relating to and understanding other people but not on the level of a mental disorder... "Mentally defective" sounds harsh and stigmatizing but if what I have boded in your statement is true, how can you say with certainty that you don't have some developmental impediment that manifests as a social disconnect. I would never call anyone "retarded" or "stupid" or "slow" or "defective". But if you are serious about an answer to a recurring uncomfortable feeling of being thought "creepy", see an expert and ask if you could be evaluated for a syndrome like Aspergers or other flavors of autism. Some are very subtle and not necessarily a damning life sentence and finding out the truth (which may rule such things out) is better than fighting with denial and getting nowhere. There are therapies and medications which together can give you the advantage you seek.
Author Necris Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 You would talk to a girl about having kids with her? how you'll name them after your parents and how you are gonna get married and such? again, in a serious note, to someone u just met? ok... and the clothing, she didn't even wear a cleavage (she has small breasts anyway), he just didn't want other men to look at her and show he's her owner. Normally I wouldn't even be thinking about marrying and having kids with a girl I just met. So yeah I agree he's definitely wierd, a bit desperate, a little too excited, and probably what many girls would call creepy. Then again apparently that girl liked it so it was actually the best thing to say. As for the clothing thing telling a girl that maybe she should wear a longer skirt or whatever doesn't sound like extreme controlling behavior he may just be looking out for her.
skippercollector Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 1. Standing too close next to someone you've just met and invading her personal space (6 inches or less away). 2. Leering at her. 3. Inappropriate, suggestive comments. 4. After a few drinks, you start putting arms and hands around her when she's not interested.
counterman Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Here's a story. One of my girl friends was jogging around a block. Her neighbour went up to her and said "hey, my brother was asking if you were single!" And my friend proceeded to call him "creepy". I guarantee you if that guy was hot and attractive, she wouldn't say that. You're going to creep girls out even when you don't want to. That's just the way it is. Instead of staring at an attractive girl, maybe try approaching her and saying 'hi'. If she finds you unattractive, chances are she'll think you're a 'creep'. See how loosely that term is used? And all you did was say hi
LuckyLady13 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I agree that sometimes maybe the term is used loosely. Too loosely, in fact. So sometimes it's not something to take so seriously.
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