Imajerk17 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Job no. What they make, yes. Asking about jobs is just small talk. And it might give you a clue into someone's interests. But asking about their money is rude...you whore! Why do people respond to trolls on here? I still think my question from before was apt.
Author FitChick Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 You wouldn't date a guy in his late 20's/early 30's if you got along well? Not now because I am only dating for marriage. That narrows my choices to practically none! 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Why do people respond to trolls on here? I still think my question from before was apt. Because it lightens the mood. And yes, your question was apt. But no, I am not going to answer it at this moment and time. I like to keep the mystery alive......
oldguy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Why do people respond to trolls on here? I still think my question from before was apt. It's fun to play with them but it's wrong:(
Author FitChick Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 Genetics play some role, but a lot of it is maintenance. It's just easier to do without maintenance with the crutch of youth to lean on. That was one of the points I was trying to make by creating this thread. Make the most of what you've got. Calendar age and biological age are very different because people of the same calendar age look vastly different based on their lifestyle. After forty I realized I had better make an effort. I was a late bloomer so my dating life didn't really start until that age because not only did I look better, I was happier and more confident and knew what I wanted. As for the people saying the woman in the first post is past it and on the decline, they must live in Shangri-La. And I'm willing to bet they could never get a date with a woman who looked like at any age, which explains their snarkiness. I feel sorry for them.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 If men can accept that women judge us by our wealth and status, why is it so hard in turn for women to accept men judge them by their youth and beauty? I agree. Women can be incredibly dismissive of decent guys when those women are at their peak of attractiveness in their mid-20s, so it really should not be surprising if men are also very picky and dismissive of women when the men are at their peak of attractiveness, which could be in their 30s. I bet that even the women who have started "losing their looks" still get at least some attention from men. However, they are probably disillusioned because the quality and quantity of men interested in them generally drops as the women age. 2
Author FitChick Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 How old are you that men around you are all fat, flabby, bald, tired, no sex drive and losing their teeth? These couldn't be thirty-something men unless you live in the Okies or somewhere similar? Do they all play banjos and chew on hay? That's funny! Nope, they aren't in their thirties, they are all middle-aged. I was looking at OKC to see if I wanted to join again and that is what I found. I was a bit shocked. I'll stick to the paid sites, thank you. If they can afford a subscription they seem to be able to afford teeth.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 That was one of the points I was trying to make by creating this thread. Make the most of what you've got. Calendar age and biological age are very different because people of the same calendar age look vastly different based on their lifestyle. After forty I realized I had better make an effort. I was a late bloomer so my dating life didn't really start until that age because not only did I look better, I was happier and more confident and knew what I wanted. As for the people saying the woman in the first post is past it and on the decline, they must live in Shangri-La. And I'm willing to bet they could never get a date with a woman who looked like at any age, which explains their snarkiness. I feel sorry for them. Women can look very attractive into their 40s. However, a man who wants to start a family will generally not settle for a woman in her 40s if he thinks he can get a comparably attractive women in her 30s who will likely be more fertile. 1
oldguy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 That's funny! Nope, they aren't in their thirties, they are all middle-aged. I was looking at OKC to see if I wanted to join again and that is what I found. I was a bit shocked. I'll stick to the paid sites, thank you. If they can afford a subscription they seem to be able to afford teeth.[/quote] :lmao: If they're in that condition 30's IS middle age as they don't sound like they're going to live that much longer.
Imajerk17 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Because it lightens the mood. And yes, your question was apt. But no, I am not going to answer it at this moment and time. I like to keep the mystery alive...... I understand
silvermercy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I find this hard to believe....esp since so many people always claim to look younger than they actually do. Im sure if you showed me pictures of your friends I wouldnt assume they were 10 years younger than they are. In my experience Asians and Black people tend to be the ones who generally can look a bit younger than their age. Skin genetics ftw. It's not me who's claiming it. I'm getting asked for ID almost every time I go out to any alcohol-based establishment. Also, for example, my friend is 30 and her 15 year old student asked her 2 weeks ago "well you can't be more than 18, are you". We have a Mediterranean complexion if that gives any clue.
kaylan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I agree. Women can be incredibly dismissive of decent guys when those women are at their peak of attractiveness in their mid-20s, so it really should not be surprising if men are also very picky and dismissive of women when the men are at their peak of attractiveness, which could be in their 30s. I bet that even the women who have started "losing their looks" still get at least some attention from men. However, they are probably disillusioned because the quality and quantity of men interested in them generally drops as the women age. We are talking about two different peaks though. Everyones physical peak is their 20s. Monetary peaks are our 30s and beyond usually. Because this is so, why would dudes even want to deal with the women interested in them in their 30s, especially since a good portion of those chicks (younger or older) are just looking for a security blanket now. I dont want to deal with being single in my 30s, because I know ill have to be on an even greater lookout for women who are merely settling for me, or using me as a security blankie. Id rather find young love over the next few years and go from there. I want to fall in love while Im broke, that way I dont have much to worry about haha. 1
zengirl Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 We are talking about two different peaks though. Everyones physical peak is their 20s. Monetary peaks are our 30s and beyond usually. Everyone's physical peak is not in their 20s. Many people's might be, but I know people who look better and feel healthier in their 30s, due to lifestyle changes mainly, than they did in their 20s. Nor would anyone's monetary peak be at a particular time. I would imagine such things are highly individual, actually. Unless you're simply talking about a fertility peak (not the same as a physical peak for the many, many people who don't give two figs about kids), which would be a biological reality. We have no idea, actually, when men reach their fertility peak as such studies cannot be done properly, though scientists suggest most women reach it between 24-27. That would be in their 20s. No significant dropoff till 35 in most cases.
Chicago_Guy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 We are talking about two different peaks though. Everyones physical peak is their 20s. Monetary peaks are our 30s and beyond usually. Because this is so, why would dudes even want to deal with the women interested in them in their 30s, especially since a good portion of those chicks (younger or older) are just looking for a security blanket now. I dont want to deal with being single in my 30s, because I know ill have to be on an even greater lookout for women who are merely settling for me, or using me as a security blankie. Id rather find young love over the next few years and go from there. I want to fall in love while Im broke, that way I dont have much to worry about haha. In terms of a combination of looks and confidence, most men do peak in their 30s, not in their 20s.
kaylan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 (edited) Everyone's physical peak is not in their 20s. Many people's might be, but I know people who look better and feel healthier in their 30s, due to lifestyle changes mainly, than they did in their 20s. Nor would anyone's monetary peak be at a particular time. I would imagine such things are highly individual, actually. Unless you're simply talking about a fertility peak (not the same as a physical peak for the many, many people who don't give two figs about kids), which would be a biological reality. We have no idea, actually, when men reach their fertility peak as such studies cannot be done properly, though scientists suggest most women reach it between 24-27. That would be in their 20s. No significant dropoff till 35 in most cases. Allow me to rephrase. Peak physical potential is the 20s. I think people knew this is what I meant, but folks always seem to love saying "I looked better at 35 than I did at 20 because of x, y, and z". That may be true, but if they actually did the things they needed to look fab in their 20s, they would have looked loads better then. In terms of a combination of looks and confidence, most men do peak in their 30s, not in their 20s. The same could be said for women. I hear countless women talk about how confident they became in their 30s. However, in terms of physical looks only, late teens to late 20s seems to be prime. Thats if people take care of themselves and seek to reach their max potential. Edited March 26, 2012 by kaylan 1
JohnP82 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I dont want to deal with being single in my 30s, because I know ill have to be on an even greater lookout for women who are merely settling for me, or using me as a security blankie. Id rather find young love over the next few years and go from there. I want to fall in love while Im broke, that way I dont have much to worry about haha. I know exactly how you feel. I'm going to be 30 in a couple of years and it is a bit of a worry not having that love now.
kaylan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Everyone's physical peak is not in their 20s. Many people's might be, but I know people who look better and feel healthier in their 30s, due to lifestyle changes mainly, than they did in their 20s. Nor would anyone's monetary peak be at a particular time. I would imagine such things are highly individual, actually. Unless you're simply talking about a fertility peak (not the same as a physical peak for the many, many people who don't give two figs about kids), which would be a biological reality. We have no idea, actually, when men reach their fertility peak as such studies cannot be done properly, though scientists suggest most women reach it between 24-27. That would be in their 20s. No significant dropoff till 35 in most cases. I left out a couple things in my last reply. In regards to natural physical peak, I wasnt talking about fertility. I was talking about when a man and woman reach the apex of all their physical attributes. This is usually within their early to mid 20s for both genders. It then plateaus until their early 30s. This does tie into fertility though. Plenty of studies show a guys sperm and testosterone levels decrease steadily beginning in their early 30s. So there is a fertility peak in men, but we have so much sperm that its not so much a big deal. In regards to money, it is individual, but I was only stating the obvious that most people dont have much money until they are settled into their careers. People generally really start having earning power in their 30s, and it continues to grow with experience. So youre right that theres no real peak...especially since we can keep making monetary gains through time.
EasyHeart Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 There are ugly people and attractive people of all ages. Personally, I don't see how it's all that relevant to dating. When I meet a woman, I have no idea how old she is and she has no idea how old I am. I just see her and think, "Hey, she's cute!" (or "Ewww! I think I've been blinded!!"); I don't think "She is good looking for her age" or anything like that. Do you really go around thinking or asking how old people are before deciding whether you're attracted to them?
jobaba Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I guess this woman didn't get the memo and she is far older. Nope, not a movie star either, although she sort of looks like a blonder Liz Hurley (who is also an old bag). If you want to look this good when you are her age, better start now. Yea. She's hot. Probably helps if you're married to a rich mogul so you don't have to work and so you can spend 6 hours a day working out and eating the right things. Of my parents' friends, the stay at home wives always look the youngest.
gibson Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Why does everything on here have to become a gender war? Moral of the story... You have exactly the love life you want. If you are unhappy with your love life... It's not my fault, it's not LS fault, it's not men's fault, it's not women's fault, etc. If you are unhappy or do not have the love life you want, that's 100% your fault. Why do you all spend so much time and energy worrying about what people think or say when you would never date them or vice versa? Instead why not focus all this time and energy into being the best you that you can be and be the type of person you want to attract! You have exactly the love life you want... Like it or not.
Author FitChick Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 Yea. She's hot. Probably helps if you're married to a rich mogul so you don't have to work and so you can spend 6 hours a day working out and eating the right things. She has produced 60 films and two children.
Oxy Moronovich Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 none of the older women posted in here are really attractive, and i agree with the men in here that most older women are just not as attractive as they were in their 20s. the woman in the first post may have an ok figure, but you can clearly see the signs of aging on her regardless. and i'm not hating either , i just turned 30 a couple weeks ago and freely admit that i think i looked better when i was younger. women mostly just do look best in their late teens and early 20s, it is what it is. but since i never had huge male attention on me, it's not like i'm missing something now that i used to have in earlier years, so i actually don't care about my aging signs that start to show up. i never got huge male attention in my teens or 20s, so i don't panick if i don't get anymore male attention now, since it will all be the same. the only woman that i truly think aged beautifully is christie brinkley, she's almost 60 and i don't know what plastic surgery she had, but if she had some, it so subtle that her surgeon must be a genius. such a pretty woman and still in great shape: https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/526133_10150663915164279_109757439278_9502021_2092679661_n.jpg https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/20659_229030439278_109757439278_3213850_4588475_n.jpg https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/20659_227158079278_109757439278_3206575_6775098_n.jpg http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV5BMTQ2MDk4ODY2N15BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwODUyMTE3Mw@@._V1._SY314_CR9,0,214,314_.jpg http://pics.hollywoodrag.com/gallery3/images/FP_1814109_Sundance_Arrival.jpg And there isn't much photoshopping behind it either...since she looks just as amazing in as she does in the pictures. I agree with the above. I'm not sure it's right to say, "Many women can still look good past 30" and post pics of celebrities. Celebrities are in a different league than regular folk. Not only do they have the money to maintain looks, it's necessary for them to keep their looks in order to stay relevant. However, regular people don't look nearly as good. That's well-known. Still, there are many regular women over 30 who are jaw-dropping hot. Like a previous poster stated, the reason for this is they take care of themselves better. This talk about women over 30 being generally unattractive is depressing though. I'm a 27 yr old dude. I plan on being single for the rest of my life. It's a downer to believe that as I grow older, the quantity of hot chicks my age will decrease. That's why I wanna move to NYC. Tons of hot, single, mature ladies there. I know guys who spent their 20s and 30s in boring small towns where the selection of women was crummy. But they are now in their 40s and 50s in NYC and their dating life is much better.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Women can look very attractive into their 40s. However, a man who wants to start a family will generally not settle for a woman in her 40s if he thinks he can get a comparably attractive women in her 30s who will likely be more fertile. A man who wants to start a family should think more about his own fertility above anything else before he starts casterating his partners for their fertility. The truth is, that by the time men hit 30, their sperm is already on the decline. So if you want to talk fertility, lets talk fertility. And if you want to talk about what the best options are, lets talk about the best options. Lets not only claim that it's women that need to address this issue. There are many complications that can occur because of men's age and changing fertility. And the sooner men are hoenst about this, the sooner men can be honest about women as well. But when I hear guys talk about female fertility only, I know these guys do not want to be real about their own fertility. 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Still, there are many regular women over 30 who are jaw-dropping hot. Like a previous poster stated, the reason for this is they take care of themselves better. This talk about women over 30 being generally unattractive is depressing though. I'm a 27 yr old dude. I plan on being single for the rest of my life. It's a downer to believe that as I grow older, the quantity of hot chicks my age will decrease. That's why I wanna move to NYC. Tons of hot, single, mature ladies there. I know guys who spent their 20s and 30s in boring small towns where the selection of women was crummy. But they are now in their 40s and 50s in NYC and their dating life is much better. Yes, keep chasing that magical white unicorn Oxy. Keep feeling depressed about how women age but ignore your own aging process and the fact that you just may become less attractive to women as you age as well. Shocking I know. You're 27. A little too old to still hold the mentatily you're showcasing above.
xxoo Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Still, there are many regular women over 30 who are jaw-dropping hot. Like a previous poster stated, the reason for this is they take care of themselves better. This talk about women over 30 being generally unattractive is depressing though. I'm a 27 yr old dude. I plan on being single for the rest of my life. It's a downer to believe that as I grow older, the quantity of hot chicks my age will decrease. That's why I wanna move to NYC. Tons of hot, single, mature ladies there. I know guys who spent their 20s and 30s in boring small towns where the selection of women was crummy. But they are now in their 40s and 50s in NYC and their dating life is much better. The happiest men probably find that their idea of "hot chick" changes with age, and they continue to appreciate attractive women in their own age group throughout life.
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