Anela Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I was just saying in another thread that I felt better about myself when I was 28, than I did at 21. I felt just as good at 33/34, if not better. More self-confidence, more life experience, etc. Unfortunately, that didn't last over the past two years, but that was more to do with certain things happening when they did. I wish I'd been able to take better care of myself; I was told at 35, that I didn't look 35, but I sure do now (two years on...). I don't necessarily want to look younger, I just want to feel good as I am now. For a while there, I just gave up, for various reasons. I also think a lot of people look younger than they are, around the age of 30. I know that I did, and I don't think that it really starts to show until you're around 34 or so. 35 was a bigger age for me than I expected it to be (more like how I expected 45 to be). I had a nice interaction with a younger guy in a grocery store tonight. Nice guy, cute, too - I'm sure the lighting was in my favour there. The resident Nazi troll asked me if I wasn't the "broad" who was scarred for life - I won't be, if I keep running into guys like him, and other good people.
gaius Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I had a nice interaction with a younger guy in a grocery store tonight. Nice guy, cute, too - I'm sure the lighting was in my favour there. The resident Nazi troll asked me if I wasn't the "broad" who was scarred for life - I won't be, if I keep running into guys like him, and other good people. What excuse did he use to start up a conversation? Or did he just come up and say hello?
LuckyLady13 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I had a nice interaction with a younger guy in a grocery store tonight. Nice guy, cute, too - I'm sure the lighting was in my favour there. This just reminded me of a little situation that happened to me Friday I already forgot about. I was on location for a job and this 18 year old kept touching my hand. I was trying to explain things to him and show him something and he kept doing that oh-so-accidental hand touching thing. It was cute and everything but those young guys will never be for me! I don't find men my age all fat, balding, lazy and ugly but maybe guys in the area where I live hold themselves to a higher standard. If I were single right now, I think I'd have a ball because the guys I see around here care about their appearance. They work out and care what they look like from the top of their head down to their shoes. They dress well and look GOOD.
gaius Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I am not flattered when much younger men target me. I'd be more than happy to date men my age but as I mentioned (and you seem to have missed it) most of them are a hot mess. Fat, flabby, bald, tired, no sex drive, losing their teeth. Not what I consider attractive. More for you! You wouldn't date a guy in his late 20's/early 30's if you got along well?
123321 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Women who look good later in life are the same women who were knockouts when they were younger, with almost no exceptions. It's a downhill slope but some start on a slight hill and others somewhere above 30,000 feet. It's just life. By the way, did you see that new advertisement for the face creme that makes a 19 year old have the skin of a 40 year old? Yeah, me either. 1
threebyfate Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I am not flattered when much younger men target me. I'd be more than happy to date men my age but as I mentioned (and you seem to have missed it) most of them are a hot mess. Fat, flabby, bald, tired, no sex drive, losing their teeth. Not what I consider attractive. More for you!How old are you that men around you are all fat, flabby, bald, tired, no sex drive and losing their teeth? These couldn't be thirty-something men unless you live in the Okies or somewhere similar? Do they all play banjos and chew on hay? Don't need any men. Already happily married to a man who's only a couple of years older. He's not fat, flabby, bald, tired, lacks sex drive or losing his teeth. Would have thought you'd recall seeing his pictures back when but maybe you missed them.
kaylan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 (edited) Because of the way the girls in those photos are acting, many younger men prefer older women. Age has nothing to do with appearance. It's how well you take care of your body at ANY age that is important. I have the same problem you do -- most men my age are generally a hot mess. Um yes it does. Youth is attractive. Its nice to look at...hence it has a lot to do with appearance.HAHAHA!!! And older chicks wonder why older guys are able to get younger women. Look at the fricken way the guys in those pictures are acting. how can you even blame younger women for going out with older guys after seeing hat? In fact, I know now why I did so well with younger women last summer. It all makes sense now. for the record, I prefer a woman my age, bug most of them are over weight. Oh please...young women act just as bad as young men do. Especially when alcohol is involved. Girls be acting a fool when I go out to the bars on the weekends. Edited March 26, 2012 by kaylan
phineas Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Because of the way the girls in those photos are acting, many younger men prefer older women. Age has nothing to do with appearance. It's how well you take care of your body at ANY age that is important. I have the same problem you do -- most men my age are generally a hot mess. I think we are agreeing here that much of youth (both genders) is emulating Jersey shore to the extreme and the few who aren't like that seek older companions for non-serious relationships until they meet someone their own age who is likewise not living a life of excess & fat accumulation. and I have heard the same thing you say from women my own age. Some of the sexiest women i've met are 45+. I don't know why but their in great shape compared to women late 30's early 40's.
phineas Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Um yes it does. Youth is attractive. Its nice to look at...hence it has a lot to do with appearance. Oh please...young women act just as bad as young men do. Especially when alcohol is involved. Girls be acting a fool when I go out to the bars on the weekends. Of course they do. When they start hanging on me in a bar I look at them with disgust. I don't want to bring a drunken mess to my house. Last yr I got more attention from women in their 20's than I did when I was actually in my 20's & I honestly couldn't figure out why. They weren't looking for anything serious either. Just a fling for a few weeks. I mean i'd drive up to the patio bar in a rusted out jeep from the early 90's with a bad exhaust and women right there seeing me get out still eventually came over & talked to me so it wasn't because they thought I had money. I had no idea WTF was going on. Now i'm getting an idea as to why. I really don't recall being THAT drunk & stupid when I was in my 20's. I did get wasted, but not every weekend like some of the kids I see these days.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 HAHAHA!!! And older chicks wonder why older guys are able to get younger women. Look at the fricken way the guys in those pictures are acting. how can you even blame younger women for going out with older guys after seeing hat? In fact, I know now why I did so well with younger women last summer. It all makes sense now. for the record, I prefer a woman my age, bug most of them are over weight. There were girls acting just as bad Phineas. If you really prefered women your own age, that's who you would try to make it work with. Instead of going after younger women and posting about why younger women go for older guys. I can tell you when I dated older guys when I was younger that it wasn't because I was so mature. These guys gave me new experiences (non-sexual) and took me places and paid for things. I wouldn't have gone out with them if they hadn't. At my age, my rationale was that they had to compensate some how for the fact that they were older. I had different standards for when dating men my own age. And now? I find that how I connect with men my own age vs older guys vastly different. And I prefer men my own age. So despite the fact that there are many problems with men my age (just as there are with older guys) this is who I try with.
ascendotum Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I really don't recall being THAT drunk & stupid when I was in my 20's. I did get wasted, but not every weekend like some of the kids I see these days. You probably cant recall becuase of all those eccies you took, every 2nd weekend at those warehouse raves you used to go to back in the 90s.
zengirl Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I think what you see at 30 and beyond is just a wider rift between "attractive" and "unattractive" since you get people who stop caring and people who understand it's the time to really take care of yourself on opposite sides of the spectrum. Genetics play some role, but a lot of it is maintenance. It's just easier to do without maintenance with the crutch of youth to lean on. The good thing is, someone who's older and STILL looks good will probably look good for almost their whole lives (I mean, eventually you won't if you live long enough -- I've just never seen a hot 80 year old, though some look better than others, sure, and certainly I've never seen a hot 84 year old who's dying of esophageal cancer or had a stroke or whatever decides to kill you eventually if you live long enough to die for medical reasons). 2
Negative Nancy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 none of the older women posted in here are really attractive, and i agree with the men in here that most older women are just not as attractive as they were in their 20s. the woman in the first post may have an ok figure, but you can clearly see the signs of aging on her regardless. and i'm not hating either , i just turned 30 a couple weeks ago and freely admit that i think i looked better when i was younger. women mostly just do look best in their late teens and early 20s, it is what it is. but since i never had huge male attention on me, it's not like i'm missing something now that i used to have in earlier years, so i actually don't care about my aging signs that start to show up. i never got huge male attention in my teens or 20s, so i don't panick if i don't get anymore male attention now, since it will all be the same. the only woman that i truly think aged beautifully is christie brinkley, she's almost 60 and i don't know what plastic surgery she had, but if she had some, it so subtle that her surgeon must be a genius. such a pretty woman and still in great shape: https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash3/526133_10150663915164279_109757439278_9502021_2092679661_n.jpg https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/20659_229030439278_109757439278_3213850_4588475_n.jpg https://fbcdn-sphotos-a.akamaihd.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/20659_227158079278_109757439278_3206575_6775098_n.jpg http://ia.media-imdb.com/images/M/MV5BMTQ2MDk4ODY2N15BMl5BanBnXkFtZTcwODUyMTE3Mw@@._V1._SY314_CR9,0,214,314_.jpg http://pics.hollywoodrag.com/gallery3/images/FP_1814109_Sundance_Arrival.jpg And there isn't much photoshopping behind it either...since she looks just as amazing in as she does in the pictures. 1
Easyguy14 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I guess this woman didn't get the memo and she is far older. Nope, not a movie star either, although she sort of looks like a blonder Liz Hurley (who is also an old bag). If you want to look this good when you are her age, better start now. I wont say she's past it but she's on the decline for sure. we can relate to your decision in wanting to get your education and career together but in the same token women need to focus on getting a good man and not just doing one now and the other later because it could be too late by then as her options decrease greatly. its a shame your foremothers didn't take the initiative in teaching the young ladies this.
TheBigQuestion Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 There were girls acting just as bad Phineas. If you really prefered women your own age, that's who you would try to make it work with. Instead of going after younger women and posting about why younger women go for older guys. I can tell you when I dated older guys when I was younger that it wasn't because I was so mature. These guys gave me new experiences (non-sexual) and took me places and paid for things. I wouldn't have gone out with them if they hadn't. At my age, my rationale was that they had to compensate some how for the fact that they were older. I had different standards for when dating men my own age. And now? I find that how I connect with men my own age vs older guys vastly different. And I prefer men my own age. So despite the fact that there are many problems with men my age (just as there are with older guys) this is who I try with. He said that they were going after him, not so much the other way around.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 (edited) I understand that BigQuestion. However, just because they go after him, doesn't mean he has to recipocate. And folks, can we stop saying that only women change with age? Because men do too. Youth is pretty. That's the reality. BUT who would want to be 20 forever or go back and be 20? I wouldn't. I like the person I evolve into year after year. I learn more about life and while I have MORE questions too, I know I am a better, kinder, more considerate person. Who cares more about helping other people now then when I was 20. And I know that I don't want to be a 20 year old forever. People think that your sexuality should remain the same throughout their life and it shouldn't. For women OR for men. Sexuality, like emotional or physical changes are mandatory throughout life. You either grow with it or you don't. Alot of people don't grow. They choose not to. That's not the life I want or the kind of man I want to be with. i want a man that has the capablility to have his sexuality grow with the rest of him. And not one that from the time he was 12-60+, spends his time lamentating over the same small sections of young women. Now there is a difference between acknowledging that certain people are attractive. But to me, it changes when that becomes th focus of your sexuality and what you obesses over. And unfortunetly, a lot of men stay locked into a frat-boy sexuality instead of learning to let it grow with the rest of them. And that's the rub. Not that women get older. Because hate to break it to you guys but you get older too. Now...I got to go stick my foot back in my grave...they let me out long enough to post. Edited March 26, 2012 by Disenchantedly Yours 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I wont say she's past it but she's on the decline for sure. we can relate to your decision in wanting to get your education and career together but in the same token women need to focus on getting a good man and not just doing one now and the other later because it could be too late by then as her options decrease greatly. its a shame your foremothers didn't take the initiative in teaching the young ladies this. You don't get it. Certainly, most women are at their physical peak at a young age. Many if not most women, however, are not oriented to "trade" this for a man when they have not developed themselves in lots of other ways. Every human being, regardless of their gender, owes it to themselves to make the most of their life. As long as we're talking about those of us in societies that provide us with the great fortune to not have to be consumed with the tasks of basic survival. If a woman is not ready to get hitched up, she's not ready. When and if she is ready, at whatever age that might be, she runs a risk of not finding the right partner as well as the chance of finding the right partner. 1
musemaj11 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 If men can accept that women judge us by our wealth and status, why is it so hard in turn for women to accept men judge them by their youth and beauty? 1
kaylan Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 ^Actually, it seems that its hard for plenty of men on this forum to accept that women judge us by our looks just as harshly as we judge them. 2
oldguy Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I'm one of those who has always been attracted to woman my age or a little older but to put this in perspective; when I was 19 I'm ashamed to admit that I broke up with a very attractive older woman mostly because she was too "old" at 27. I often think of this when people start talking about age & what is too old or past their prime. "I was once attracted to centerfolds now I'm more attracted to the woman who appear on the cover of AARP" 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I don't think you need to be ashamed of that Old(er)guy. There is a huge difference between 19 and 27. I changed alot from 18-25. ALOT. She apparently wasn't right for you and her age probably was the reason because of your different places in life and maturity. "I was once attracted to centerfolds now I'm more attracted to the woman who appear on the cover of AARP" I like that.
Anela Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 I'm one of those who has always been attracted to woman my age or a little older but to put this in perspective; when I was 19 I'm ashamed to admit that I broke up with a very attractive older woman mostly because she was too "old" at 27. I often think of this when people start talking about age & what is too old or past their prime. "I was once attracted to centerfolds now I'm more attracted to the woman who appear on the cover of AARP" :lmao:
Imajerk17 Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 There were girls acting just as bad Phineas. If you really prefered women your own age, that's who you would try to make it work with. Instead of going after younger women and posting about why younger women go for older guys. I can tell you when I dated older guys when I was younger that it wasn't because I was so mature. These guys gave me new experiences (non-sexual) and took me places and paid for things. I wouldn't have gone out with them if they hadn't. At my age, my rationale was that they had to compensate some how for the fact that they were older. I had different standards for when dating men my own age. And now? I find that how I connect with men my own age vs older guys vastly different. And I prefer men my own age. So despite the fact that there are many problems with men my age (just as there are with older guys) this is who I try with. I know it's rude to ask a woman her age, but I'm still curious as to what age range you are in now? I think it is relevant to the discussion, because I would say there's more incentive for women in their 30's and 40's to stay with men their own age, than there is for women in their 20's. Especially women in their early 20's. Guys who are in their 30's and 40's are hopefully still young physically, but they have a maturity that guys in their 20's do not have.
Koaks Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Is it also rude to ask Men about their job or what they makes?
Disenchantedly Yours Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Is it also rude to ask Men about their job or what they makes? Job no. What they make, yes. Asking about jobs is just small talk. And it might give you a clue into someone's interests. But asking about their money is rude...you whore!
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