LOVEBACK Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Is there a chance that a woman misses you even if she says "she is really happy?" and acting like she is better off without me?
jennisfora Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 NC is good for healing. whether they come back or not, i dont know. depends on a lot of variables. You can't really predict how a person will act, or what they will do. There is an initial period where the dumper feels relief, and nothing you say or do will convince them they made a mistake. and there is a panic we go through where we come across desperate and needy. I think nc will prevent you from saying a lot of things that you will regret, and is a good thing. it wont necessarily bring her back, but it might bring you back to yourself, and it will spare you alot of pain, and make you not drive her further away. it will also curb any stalkerish/obsessive behaviors a bit. it is a good exercise in self control. i have failed at it a few times, and dusted myself off and am trying to do it again. i guess it works, but maybe not in the way you want it to. I think I read on here, think of it as a tool, not a miracle. good luck. 1
cflowers32 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Nice Jenn, and very honest. NC does help. I don't like it, but I also know it's not good for me to be calling him. Whatever happens happens, the NC is at least one part I can have control over. Look at it that way. Hang in there, we all know it's hard. 1
Author LOVEBACK Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Do you think she misses me? Do you think it's hard for a woman that has been intimate and in a relationship for 8 or so months. Even if she broke up with me and acts happy like she is doing well without me? (We go to college so I do bump into her.)
jennisfora Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 depends. i know when i was younger, i acted more immature. no excuse for the behavior, but i would overstay in an relationship rather than be alone. meaning, i was long over the person before i left. i would leave when a new prospect was on the horizon. i wouldn't miss the ex this way because i was over them before i left. now, if i broke up for another reason, i may not be over it. was there a slow decline in the relationship? if it had been declining for a while, or communication had stalled, she may have done most of her recovery before she puilled the plug. if she seemed loving and into it until the end, she probably misses the companionship but needs to experience other things to compare it to. if you treated her well, and showed her affection, and left amicably, i think there is a greater chance of her missing you. if things ended bitterly, she is going to have resentment toward you. if she looks back fondly, she will miss you, whether she reaches out, who knows.
Author LOVEBACK Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 I feel like after the initial break up. We made up, or so I thought. At first with, there was remorse. She said she was sorry etc. Then she became bitter. She un-friended me from Facebook and all that. I hate the feeling of being hated through all this.
jennisfora Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 unfriending from fb might be a blessing in disguise. having access will slow your healing and its too easy to get caught up in details on there and try to read into things that actually don't matter. or obsessively checking her profile. it is better to not have access to her page, for you and her right now. she needs space, you need space whether you know it or not.
jerbear Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Is there a chance that a woman misses you even if she says "she is really happy?" and acting like she is better off without me?Who initiated the break up? If she is really happy, that could be the truth. Do you think she misses me? Do you think it's hard for a woman that has been intimate and in a relationship for 8 or so months. Even if she broke up with me and acts happy like she is doing well without me? (We go to college so I do bump into her.) She might and many do. Tt is mostly memories and when you two bump into each other on campus, she might just smile about the old days. That is about it. College relationships of 8 months is pretty good. Are you two starting college or near the end? If you two are starting college, most likely you two won't have a second chance. In a few years, you two might be FB friends or friends again but that is in the future. I feel like after the initial break up. We made up, or so I thought. At first with, there was remorse. She said she was sorry etc. Then she became bitter. She un-friended me from Facebook and all that. I hate the feeling of being hated through all this. Like Jenn said, the FB unfriending is a blessing in disguise. It prevents you from doing something you'll regret.
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