Me...IamMe Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 my ex and I had three kids involved in our relationship. Two hers, one mine. There was a sport tournament this weekend that my boy and one of her boys was supposed to be in. we have been NC for two weeks, when I get a text at 1130 the night before tournament. Text says. My son is wishing your son good luck. I respond. Is your son not making it? She says her other boy has a tournament. I respond tell him good luck and my son says thanks. Next day at my sons tournament she texts again. Text says. How is your son doing? I respond an hour later, with just his scores. Two hours later she calls and says that is awesome, I'm proud of him etc. Etc etc and starts to talk about her sons tournament and then what they did after. I tell her at about 5 minutes. I have to go. And she says okay kind of sheepishly. She is the one who told me not to call or contact her. So I haven't and now this. As of right now she has not contacted again. What does this mean, if anything?
Author Me...IamMe Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 By the way she is already seeing some other Guy.
cflowers32 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) Can I just tell you that I read through a lot of posts here and some of us that have the X's that seem like they still love us, but then they want to call and talk, WHAT THE H*LL!?!?!? You know, I don't know what that means either, but if I were you (especially since she already has someone keeping her company), let her know that the whole talking thing isn't working for you. I love my X, I miss him, I LOVE him!! But I also told him I'm not going to do the chit-chat, friends thing, and he's another one that was crying when we were breaking up, "I love you, attracted to you, miss you..." THEN WHY ARE WE BREAKING UP??????? I'm sorry. Good that she's ok, but she made a definitive choice... Hope you are ok. Edited March 25, 2012 by cflowers32 Didn't mean to hit save button.
Author Me...IamMe Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 I was being nice, but I was thinking was it just an excuse to call. She could've just text. She didn't have to call. I won't be answering again. I just didn't want to hear what they were doing. Especially since she left me and I wanted to be a family with her. I don't need that ****. I'm just starting to get my mojo back.
cflowers32 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I was being nice, but I was thinking was it just an excuse to call. She could've just text. She didn't have to call. I won't be answering again. I just didn't want to hear what they were doing. Especially since she left me and I wanted to be a family with her. I don't need that ****. I'm just starting to get my mojo back. Yeah, exactly.
jennisfora Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 i guess it is also hard for the dumper to let go, they just don't realize or don't think about how it is reopening a wound for the dumpee when they do this. It is hard when you have had someone in your life, and now you don't to stop talking to them. but to heal, you kinda have to. In the back of her mind she may have regrets or feelings of guilt, that she is trying to relieve. or she is curious since it may have been awhile. either way, not answering is a good idea. she has someone, so it is just hurtful. sorry you are going through this. *hugs*
mike588 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 i guess it is also hard for the dumper to let go, they just don't realize or don't think about how it is reopening a wound for the dumpee when they do this. It is hard when you have had someone in your life, and now you don't to stop talking to them. but to heal, you kinda have to. In the back of her mind she may have regrets or feelings of guilt, that she is trying to relieve. or she is curious since it may have been awhile. either way, not answering is a good idea. she has someone, so it is just hurtful. sorry you are going through this. *hugs* My ex. dumped me for her ex.7 months ago and I went No Contact thinking I'd never hear from her again. Last months she contacts me several times and yes it opened that wound and set me back....I had worked so hard to put the b/u and her behind me. She didn't mention anything about wanting to get back together....she was just feeling guilty and needed to get that guilt off her chest. If they don't want to try it again it's best that they just leave you alone. 1
jennisfora Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 i honestly think the dumper just is being self absorbed when they reach out for curiousity or guilt. they aren't thinking about the pain they are causing. because it isn't as painful for them. they are just making sure you are still there.if it is a cell phone you can program it to not ring if they call, select their ringtone as nothing. problem is if it is a home phone, if you have caller id, they can block their number. so, i have been letting my home phone go to voicemail because i dont know who is calling. have had several mystery calls, with no message. could be him, could be someone else. least my cell, i know who is calling. i made the mistake of breaking nc a few days back and ranted at him, so now im fairly certain he wont contact me for a long time. i regret it, and that it has set me back, made me feel bad for letting my resentments get to me, and i preferred our last meeting to be the last memory he has of me. but, there is always a silver lining. now i have to worry less about him reaching out. *sigh*
Author Me...IamMe Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 Well, I know I said I wouldn't answer. She called today after I posted this, to tell me her son had a great day in a tournament he was supposed to do with my son yesterday. The conversation lasted not even three minutes and she said "well I'm going into a store right now" I said okay, goodbye and she said goodbye. Why the hell didn't she text me that? Why the hell did I answer? I still am madly in love with her and what to marry this woman, but have subjected myself to being a sportsticker! Does any woman know why she keeps calling for these short conversations? Together 5 yrs. We broke up 5 weeks ago, she has been seeing other dude for three weeks, NC her idea 2 weeks ago, I respect that. Now these short phone calls from her when she could've just texted. I feel it is her way of letting me hear her voice, so I don't let go of her. She has probably heard that I lost 15 pounds and am quitting smoking. And she wants to keep me on her backburner, incase she realizes I did see what I was doing wrong in the LTR and sees me changing. The fact is . She has a guy already. I am not second best, I am a sexy beast!!!
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Well, I know I said I wouldn't answer. She called today after I posted this, to tell me her son had a great day in a tournament he was supposed to do with my son yesterday. The conversation lasted not even three minutes and she said "well I'm going into a store right now" I said okay, goodbye and she said goodbye. Why the hell didn't she text me that? Why the hell did I answer? I still am madly in love with her and what to marry this woman, but have subjected myself to being a sportsticker! Does any woman know why she keeps calling for these short conversations? Together 5 yrs. We broke up 5 weeks ago, she has been seeing other dude for three weeks, NC her idea 2 weeks ago, I respect that. Now these short phone calls from her when she could've just texted. I feel it is her way of letting me hear her voice, so I don't let go of her. She has probably heard that I lost 15 pounds and am quitting smoking. And she wants to keep me on her backburner, incase she realizes I did see what I was doing wrong in the LTR and sees me changing. The fact is . She has a guy already. I am not second best, I am a sexy beast!!! She's a tease. I gotta wonder if hew new guy knows she is calling you. No more contact with her. 2
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