nzleagle Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Hi all, Just looking for some advice, I've been married to my wife for 2 years, and we have been together for nearly 5. We have two Great kids aged 2 and 3. In September last year I moved from Auckland New Zealand, to The Middle of New South Wales Australia, for a job that pays almost 4 times what I was earning in NZ. My wife followed 2 months later, in those 2 months we were apart there were a few fights, but that was mainly with the stress of moving and organising things, sending money back etc etc. She has now been here for 4 months and HATES RE HATES the place, now we werent planning on settling down here or anything, but were thinking between 3 and 5 years to save some money, then go back to NZ and buy a house. She hates this place so much that there are times we are on the verge of divorce, she misses her family, and allways says if she could go back tommorow she would. Im at the point of telling her to go home, go back to New Zealand, but I love her to pieces, and apart from her wanting to go home, our relationship is great. What Im thinking now, is sending her and the kids back to NZ, and every 3-4 months head over there for a week or two, and have contact daily via skype, the financial side would be a little harder to work out. And it would have to be for a couple of years to make it worth while (im stuck here for a couple of years with utillitiy contracts, loans etc that I had to sign up for to get settled in here), then in 3 - 4 years head back to NZ myself. Thoughts?
FitChick Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Have either of you made an effort to make new friends amongst coworkers or neighbors? If she had some friends, she would be happier.
Author nzleagle Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Yes, she has made lots of friends, we have also started two business, and she has asked to be the head of the local mothers group. its not a issue about friends, its an issue about the town, we have come from the biggest city in New Zealand, with a population of nearly 2 million, with shops open 24/7, lots of malls to go to etc etc, and her whole family within 40km to a small country town with 5000, shops are closed on sunday's, and the only shop open 24/7 is the local truck stop. The nearest city is 300km, away and even then it only has the one mall and not many shops in it. The nearest city that semi resemlbles auckland is 800km away and thats Sydney.
FitChick Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 That's why they invented online shopping. Tell her at least she won't have to worry about earthquakes and tsunamis where you are, unlike New Zealand.
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