WordvAction Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Hi All: In case you don't know, here is a little backstory; I fell very much for this girl, who I thought was a perfect match for me. She would text me Good morning, Good Night, all in between, tell me how amazing of a guy I was, and how she had feelings for me but didn't feel ready to date me because we were going to be moving from each other. When I asked if it was because she was seeing someone else, she always said no and that I was the only person she would want to date; until one day she decided to date him and told me we shouldn't hang out anymore. Naturally, I was devastated and heartbroken. I stuck around trying to be her "friend" for a while, even after she broke up with this guy, hoping she would eventually fall for me. Quite the opposite, the ended up pushing me away even as a friend (looking back at how bad I was, I feel kind of pathetic lol). Anyways, it came to a point where I poured my heart out again, and this time she barely acknowledged my existence and said I only see you as a friend. I took this as a point that I needed to forget about this girl, asked her to forget about me and stop contacting me, and good luck with the rest of her life. This occurred 6 months ago where I began NC. In this time of NC, I have done very well for myself. I began going on dates, became class President of a College, got a 4.0 GPA, and learned to not depend on others but myself for happiness. I even met a girl that made me get over (at least I thought) this unrequited. However, out of the blue, she has tried to contact me 3 times telling me how she misses me, it kills her that we don't talk, and how she's sorry about what happened. Just reading these messages makes my stomach drop and brings back bad memories of her breaking my heart. I have ignored all 3, but am feeling tempted to just let out all the pent up anger I have had at her. Any advice is welcome
EgoJoe Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Don't let out all of the pent up anger, but, do this. "We are not friends. We will never be friends. I'd miss me too. Stop contacting me." Everything else is implied. Keep your head up, don't get used for an Ego stroke bro. If she is serious she'll respond to that with a huge apology admitting her mistakes or ask to talk once and when I say ask she'll ASK if "it is ok with you if she calls." if she isn't she'll A: not respond (which has other connotations as well but mostly this) B: She'll say: "Sorry I thought you might want to hear from me because I missed you and stuff" C: or "Whatever" Anything other than the specific things I've said or something very very similar is not worth responding to. 2
TaraMaiden Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 WordvAction....? I'd opt for the 'action' part, and follow EgoJoe's advice. (Did you see what i did there? neat, huh....?) 1
shock Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 my advice would be that you move away from any old feelings which still gives you stark reaction. This world is full of nice people, you must go out and meet them. If there are still lot of other feelings pent up then tell her that you are not inerested and are not looking for any relationship. then see what she replies. Also ask her why all of a sudden she misses you and wants to talk to you. what has changed. it is also a good idea to question, why she likes you and see what answer she comes up with..... good luck.
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