budley12 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 So my ex's roommate has shown interest in me and asked to have "casual NSA sex". I have read that hookups is one way to help get over an ex, however I am still in love and want him back. I am not a shallow person or anything, but do you guys think that hooking up with his roommate would help or worsen my chances of getting back? We were together for 3 years and the break up was 4months ago (we were each others firsts). Or should I not care about what my ex may or may not think and just have fun with my ex's roommate while I am still in college...
TaraMaiden Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Sleeping with your ex's roommate is absolutely fine, no problem. .....As long as you both just sleep, that is..... don't be an idiot. if you want to have a casual NSA fling - find someone completely out of the picture. just think about what you're doing, and don't get yourself a reputation. They're really easy to pick up - but hard to get rid of. a bit like an std, in fact.... Which I hear is relatively common among people who have NSA flings.... 3
EgoJoe Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Your Ex may have put him up to it. You'd be retarded to do it if you want this dude back or have any self-respect. Look, go hook up with someone else, shut this guy down by saying, "Hey, I didn't want to be rude at first but I am not interested." Reason being you don't want to seem like you were considering it for too long. This is all games, don't play. Opt out. 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Your Ex may have put him up to it. .... Oh, good point. I hadn't thought of that angle. (Surely men aren't that devious......?) Spending too much time with women..... that's what does it.....
EgoJoe Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) Oh, good point. I hadn't thought of that angle. (Surely men aren't that devious......?) Spending too much time with women..... that's what does it..... Meh, I think that men have the capability to be more devious but more often than not are far more comfortable with the direct route. While I think Women have a natural propensity. However: Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal Enjoy. Edited March 25, 2012 by EgoJoe
leoc1973 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Are you out of your mind? I can say if you want him back flirt with other guys but if you start sleeping around you probably will lose him forever. There is one huge thing that a lot of women either don't know or over look. That is when a guy thinks of a woman as girlfriend material he thinks of her as special and maybe even above other women. He likes to believe that she has never been with another man or very few men. You want to be sought after(so a little flirting/attention from other men will make a guy want you) but in a mans eyes you just don't give it up to anyone. I personally and most guys in my circle won't even date a girl that one of us have been with. Anyways long story short... If he finds out you are sleeping around he is probably not going to want you back and he will have no respect for you. I couldn't get over my ex of 6 years I have been on this site for a while now. But the minute I found out my ex had been intimate with a new guy I just felt like she was ruined to me. I went from mostly reading reconciliation stories and how to get your ex back to the how do I get over an ex. Read some of the stories on here about women sleeping with men while they are still in love with their ex and they will mostly say they feel worse after sex with a new guy. Don't do it! His roomate is either a piece of crap or they are setting you up! Your ex will have a lot of respect for you if you say no. 1
cflowers32 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Meh, I think that men have the capability to be more devious but more often than not are far more comfortable with the direct route. While I think Women have a natural propensity. However: Saturday Morning Breakfast Cereal Enjoy. I just pinned that site to my address bar. Nice.
Author budley12 Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 yeah I probably shouldnt. i texted him saying sorry but I am still connected to my ex in my heart. I really dont think they were just testing me, but I know if I had done it morally I would have been upset. I think the main reason I was thinking about doing it was to try and get under my ex's skin and hopefully he contact me. I havnt heard from him in 6weeks now (because I asked him not to contact me), but I secretly hope everyday that he will. It sucks living on the same campus and running into each other too.... I just look the other way and pretend not to see him. I want to say "hi" and just keep walking but all I can picture is the new girl he is with...
Chs Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 You wanted to do it to get under his skin? Don't try to tell me you still love him. That's just hurtful as hell, i would beat the hell out of any friend that had sex with my recent ex and i sure as hell would never ever talk to the ex again.
leoc1973 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 good I am glad that you decided not to. You don't have to sleep around to get his attention alll you have to do is start dating. You guys were together 3 years so there is little chance he is totally over you. He is probably dying to call you all the time. How long has he been with the new girl? They are probably in that honey moon period where you don't see each others serious character flaws and she is a rebound so be patient go out and date but don't start sleeping around. No guy looks at a permiscuious woman and thinks, "wow I wish I could be her boyfriend". Stay strong it really sucks to be going through what you are going through.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 So my ex's roommate has shown interest in me and asked to have "casual NSA sex". I have read that hookups is one way to help get over an ex, however I am still in love and want him back. I am not a shallow person or anything, but do you guys think that hooking up with his roommate would help or worsen my chances of getting back? We were together for 3 years and the break up was 4months ago (we were each others firsts). Or should I not care about what my ex may or may not think and just have fun with my ex's roommate while I am still in college... What kind of ******* suggests something like that to someone who just broke up with the roommate? What kind of ******* suggests that at all?????? DON'T DO IT.
flyguy23 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 yeah I probably shouldnt. i texted him saying sorry but I am still connected to my ex in my heart. I really dont think they were just testing me, but I know if I had done it morally I would have been upset. I think the main reason I was thinking about doing it was to try and get under my ex's skin and hopefully he contact me. I havnt heard from him in 6weeks now (because I asked him not to contact me), but I secretly hope everyday that he will. It sucks living on the same campus and running into each other too.... I just look the other way and pretend not to see him. I want to say "hi" and just keep walking but all I can picture is the new girl he is with... Wow, you thought having sex with his roommate would help your cause by "getting under his skin". All I can say is wow, I hope my ex doesn't have your same mindset, treating sex like a game.
Author budley12 Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 good I am glad that you decided not to. You don't have to sleep around to get his attention alll you have to do is start dating. You guys were together 3 years so there is little chance he is totally over you. He is probably dying to call you all the time. How long has he been with the new girl? They are probably in that honey moon period where you don't see each others serious character flaws and she is a rebound so be patient go out and date but don't start sleeping around. No guy looks at a permiscuious woman and thinks, "wow I wish I could be her boyfriend". Stay strong it really sucks to be going through what you are going through. He has been with her officially for about 2 weeks, however they started fooling around and sleeping together a few months ago. I hope that this is just a honey moon see if the grass is greener on the other side type of thing since he has never been with anyone else before. And what I meant by "get under his skin" was make him really rethink things. I didnt mean it in a way to make him upset but rather think "gee she may really be moving on and I may lose her" and he may even get a little jealous. He knows that I still love him and that I will "always be there" so I was thinking it may jumpstart something. But after stepping back and rethinking it I would just look immature and desperate.
TaraMaiden Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 And besides, if he's been lying and cheating... well, put it this way -would you go to your kitchen store cupboard and grab that opened, half-eaten tin of spaghetti and meatballs...? Someone else has had their fingers in there and you have a second-hand, half-eaten dinner.... 1
Me...IamMe Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 It would be utter sadness in your soul, you would be thinking of your ex and selling your soul to a dirt bag just trying to get laid. 1
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