ww Posted June 13, 2004 Posted June 13, 2004 Why do they cheat? OK, they are married and they all say: I will never leave my wife, because I love her. How can you love someone and cheat on them??????????????????????????????????????????
sinner Posted June 13, 2004 Posted June 13, 2004 Married men often cheat because a sexual opportunity presents itself. Married women often cheat for emotional reasons. People cheat because they can. Morality is often a lack of opportunity.
Cupcake Posted June 13, 2004 Posted June 13, 2004 I'd say because they are evil, selfish, bastards that don't deserve to live. I wish every cheater would catch on fire and burn alive... People with no integrity, and low morals should live in the pitts of hell. Okay, obviously you can tell I've been cheated on before.
Author ww Posted June 13, 2004 Author Posted June 13, 2004 uuuuuuuuhhhhhh....Cupcake.... I can deal with an opportunity or one night stand...what about having an affair of 6 or more months?
sinner Posted June 13, 2004 Posted June 13, 2004 That's a very good point, ww. The one stand is not nearly as sticky as the long term affair of 6 months or more. That's the kind of competing long term love interest that can lay waste to the best of marriages. I believe that, because many affairs start "innocently" as friendships, the possibility, if not likelihood, exists that many affairs will be of some duration. The sexual opportunity provides the flame, the pre-existing friendship supplies the kindling.
Mr Spock Posted June 14, 2004 Posted June 14, 2004 Mine didn't start out as friendship. I hit on him and he took me back to my place.
Solana Posted June 16, 2004 Posted June 16, 2004 Huh. Even if he was driving, wouldn't that *technically* be YOU taking HIM back to your place?!?! Solana.
CurlyIam Posted June 16, 2004 Posted June 16, 2004 I think the main reason people cheat is because they are scared. Scared that this is all in their life, that they haven't accomplished enough, had sex enough or with enough women. The fact that once you're married that's it! No other big accomplishments, no other person with a dazzling personality. That part of your life (the quest for your mate) is over. Some have difficulites accepting that. That is the only woman in your life, you are denying any other chance to be happy near another woman. Not necessarily smarter or prettier. Just a different woman (at least that's Goethe's point of view) My other intimate belief is that people are afraid to be happy. Are afraid to completely open up and allow the other person to love them. That's why they're looking away: the "this time is gonna be better" stuff, "I'll take it all over again and I'm gonna do better". And they do it over and over again, without solving the problem, simply looking for the desired effects. One thing is sure: once you cheat, things are never gonna be the same in that relationship. They bound themselves to utter unhapiness, even if they don't leave, don't divorce. Some people are so used to not be happy and hurt, that maybe this is why they're doing it. I don't know, that's what I think anyway!
SingleInTheCity Posted June 18, 2004 Posted June 18, 2004 I love this question because honestly the only person who knows why they cheat is the cheater BUT the only reason they continue to cheat is that they aren't been held to a higher moral standard - for instance when you are apprised that this really fabulous guy you are interested in is married you say hey guy - when you get your life together give me a call and if I'm still free we can start over. But I wouldn't want to deal with a person who lied to begin with - once a liar always a liar and if he'll cheat on his WIFE or she'll cheat on her HUSBAND what the hell makes you think you are something special?
Solana Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 So here's a better question: why do people choose to cheat WITH them? I mean, seriously..... People who cheat are flat-out dishonest. You can argue with me all you want (**zipping my flame suit**), but people who cheat, and cheat with cheaters, are just selfish, dishonest people. They do what they want at the time, and regardless of any guilt they may feel, they do whatever the f*ck they want to do. Period. Ooops! I hurt someone else! SORRY! Well, that just doesn't cut it in my book. If you want to f*ck around, at least have the guts to break up with your spouse first. And if you want to get laid, at least have the guts to get laid with someone who is cleanly unattached. Anything else is just plain selfish. You ask why people cheat? Because they are gutless, selfish, dishonest, and just plain can't make decisions. So they just do what feels good at the time and leave the decisions for later.... or for someone else with more guts and a whole lot more self-respect. Solana.
SingleInTheCity Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I couldn't have said it any better than that Solana thanks for keeping it real.
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