zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I agreed to going on a date with a guy I met a while ago trough friends of mine. Didnt feel like it at first, but today we had our first date . The guy is funny, sweet, nice to talk to good looking. However (I feel aweful for saying this) he is short compared to me... He's taller than I am but not that much (7 cm or maybe even less). So whenever I'd wear heels, I'd be taller than him. To me this is a little weird... I dont expect a guy to be perfect not at all! But I really dont want to feel like the man you know... For instance when he put his arm around me (when we we sitting) I kind of had to make me self shorter for him to be able to put his arm around me... girls (and guys) whats your opninion? Am I right to feel this way, or is it superficial?
SmileFace Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Oh no, this isn't good at all. How will he protect you from the trolls? He must be a good 4 inches taller than you in heels. 3
Cracker Jack Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 It's not wrong for you to not be attracted to a man you consider short. If his height is an issue for you, you can't force the attraction. You're just not really attracted to him. As for importance in it, that's subjective. Most women believe being with a taller man makes them feel safe and simply prefer it in general, while others don't care. 1
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Oh no, this isn't good at all. How will he protect you from the trolls? He must be a good 4 inches taller than you in heels. Hahaha is this serious? Cause I'm sensing some sarcasm...
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 It's not wrong for you to not be attracted to a man you consider short. If his height is an issue for you, you can't force the attraction. You're just not really attracted to him. As for importance in it, that's subjective. Most women believe being with a taller man makes them feel safe and simply prefer it in general, while others don't care. I think he looks good and theres some chemistry, but you hit the nail on the head with the 'feeling safe' thing. I dont know how to get over that but feel kinda bad about that, especially since he is taller than I am... I'm not that tall either you know.. hahaha
jobaba Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I agreed to going on a date with a guy I met a while ago trough friends of mine. Didnt feel like it at first, but today we had our first date . The guy is funny, sweet, nice to talk to good looking. However (I feel aweful for saying this) he is short compared to me... He's taller than I am but not that much (7 cm or maybe even less). So whenever I'd wear heels, I'd be taller than him. To me this is a little weird... I dont expect a guy to be perfect not at all! But I really dont want to feel like the man you know... For instance when he put his arm around me (when we we sitting) I kind of had to make me self shorter for him to be able to put his arm around me... girls (and guys) whats your opninion? Am I right to feel this way, or is it superficial? Are you serious? Did you not notice that there is an adjacent thread with over 300 posts on this very same topic? 2
SmileFace Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Hahaha is this serious? Cause I'm sensing some sarcasm... Hehe, I was being sarcastic hun. If you find that his height is affecting your attraction to him don't bother with him. However don't let something so minor make you end up passing up on a great guy. The last last guy I was with was exactly my height, yea sometimes I had to adjust myself like you mentioned with hugging but it didn't matter when parallel
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Are you serious? Did you not notice that there is an adjacent thread with like 100 posts on this very same topic? Believe it or not, I didnt see it until right after I posted this thread, my bad, I'm sorry. This other thread however though approached it from a completely different angle: Dont you just hate it whenever blablabla..
Cracker Jack Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I think he looks good and theres some chemistry, but you hit the nail on the head with the 'feeling safe' thing. I dont know how to get over that but feel kinda bad about that, especially since he is taller than I am... I'm not that tall either you know.. hahaha Eh, don't feel bad. Btw, how tall are you and him?
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Hehe, I was being sarcastic hun. If you find that his height is affecting your attraction to him don't bother with him. However don't let something so minor make you end up passing up on a great guy. The last last guy I was with was exactly my height, yea sometimes I had to adjust myself like you mentioned with hugging but it didn't matter when parallel Hahaha! Good to know! Do you think that it looks weird in general? If a girl is same height/taller than the guy?
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Eh, don't feel bad. Btw, how tall are you and him? I'm about 5.4 and he's about 5.7 (so he says).
kaylan Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 If it means enough to you that youre questioning your connection with him, then he should be dumping you in my honest opinion. I will tell you this...I am picky, but I used to be even pickier a few years back. So much so that I was a straight douche about certain physical aspects about my ex. I was never outright rude to her, but Id ask dumb question or make silly absent minded comments about certain things. It wasnt till after we broke up that I realized how dumb I was and how self conscious I could have and probably did make her about certain things. Guess what though? Shes been the love of my life so far. Shes the girl who sets the standard for all chicks to come. When I met her, our personalities clicked immensely and I chased her super hard. But even though I chased her, I did stupidly think too much about certain physical things. They didnt bother me so much that I considered not being with her, so my case is a little different...but I thought about those things enough to say dumb things like I told you. At the end of the day I ended up falling in love with her and none of those little things mattered. I ended up feeling she was perfect. It taught me a great lesson about love and attraction to. And all the things other people would have saw as flaws, I saw as cute unique things about her. Think about all this. 2
jobaba Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Hahaha! Good to know! Do you think that it looks weird in general? If a girl is same height/taller than the guy? I'm about 5.4 and he's about 5.7 (so he says). You're not the same height at all. 3" is a big difference. The average difference between a man and woman is 4 or 5 inches. I dunno. Consider your options. If you can do better, than by all means do better. But don't try and go back to him. He probably won't be around long. That's just how it is.
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 If it means enough to you that youre questioning your connection with him, then he should be dumping you in my honest opinion. I will tell you this...I am picky, but I used to be even pickier a few years back. So much so that I was a straight douche about certain physical aspects about my ex. I was never outright rude to her, but Id ask dumb question or make silly absent minded comments about certain things. It wasnt till after we broke up that I realized how dumb I was and how self conscious I could have and probably did make her about certain things. Guess what though? Shes been the love of my life so far. Shes the girl who sets the standard for all chicks to come. When I met her, our personalities clicked immensely and I chased her super hard. But even though I chased her, I did stupidly think too much about certain physical things. They didnt bother me so much that I considered not being with her, so my case is a little different...but I thought about those things enough to say dumb things like I told you. At the end of the day I ended up falling in love with her and none of those little things mattered. I ended up feeling she was perfect. It taught me a great lesson about love and attraction to. And all the things other people would have saw as flaws, I saw as cute unique things about her. Think about all this. I know.. thing is my ex boyfriend who I always considered to be the love of my life (even today, I have a hard time letting go but I have to), isnt that tall either... It never bothered me though, for some reason it does now.. I've never been the type to be extremely picky with looks, I mean : there's that connection, or there isnt. Maybe Ive gotten pickier, I dont know... maybe Im trying to find a reason not to be with him? Dont know... Either way, tonight it felt a little bit weird and I'm trying to figure out why.
SmileFace Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Hahaha! Good to know! Do you think that it looks weird in general? If a girl is same height/taller than the guy? No I don't find it weird at all. We actually looked really good together being the same height and all. 2
kaylan Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I think he looks good and theres some chemistry, but you hit the nail on the head with the 'feeling safe' thing. I dont know how to get over that but feel kinda bad about that, especially since he is taller than I am... I'm not that tall either you know.. hahaha Im average height myself at 5'9...but Im slim with good posture, so Ive never had my height be an issue for me...at least not to my knowledge. Girls generally tell me Im a perfect height for them. Either way, Im sure a guy can compensate his height by having a good physique. Guys should aim for a v shape torso. Nice arms and shoulders helps a lot. I'm about 5.4 and he's about 5.7 (so he says). You think hes smaller? 5 foot 7 is under average and considered short...but its not horrible. What do you prefer?
Jeremy87 Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 I agreed to going on a date with a guy I met a while ago trough friends of mine. Didnt feel like it at first, but today we had our first date . The guy is funny, sweet, nice to talk to good looking. However (I feel aweful for saying this) he is short compared to me... He's taller than I am but not that much (7 cm or maybe even less). So whenever I'd wear heels, I'd be taller than him. To me this is a little weird... I dont expect a guy to be perfect not at all! But I really dont want to feel like the man you know... For instance when he put his arm around me (when we we sitting) I kind of had to make me self shorter for him to be able to put his arm around me... girls (and guys) whats your opninion? Am I right to feel this way, or is it superficial? taller men are better at sex. get a taller man. Im 6 foot 2 and a sex expert.
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 You're not the same height at all. 3" is a big difference. The average difference between a man and woman is 4 or 5 inches. I dunno. Consider your options. If you can do better, than by all means do better. But don't try and go back to him. He probably won't be around long. That's just how it is. Guys you all seem to think, that this hightthing is a dealbreaker for me, its not at this point. I'm trying to figure out why it feels so weird to me, in order to see if I can maybe change the feeling I'm having. Oh and... He says he's 5.7, but I'm kind of getting the feeling he's shorter than that more like 5.6 or maybe even 5.5.
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 taller men are better at sex. get a taller man. Im 6 foot 2 and a sex expert. ?????? Thanks for your input, I gues...
loretta Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Yeah height is important for me. Short guys have complexes.
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Im average height myself at 5'9...but Im slim with good posture, so Ive never had my height be an issue for me...at least not to my knowledge. Girls generally tell me Im a perfect height for them. Either way, Im sure a guy can compensate his height by having a good physique. Guys should aim for a v shape torso. Nice arms and shoulders helps a lot. You think hes smaller? 5 foot 7 is under average and considered short...but its not horrible. What do you prefer? He's not extremely fit, but thats not a big deal for me. For me its important that I dont feel like the man hehe, I want to feel protected by him. and he really was protective of me, even tonight hahah! But do you get my problem? I just feel less of a woman when Im almost the same build as the guy I'm seeing.
ascendotum Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Oh no, this isn't good at all. How will he protect you from the trolls? He must be a good 4 inches taller than you in heels. I agree with SF, its no good. If you're out and you're wearing your 7cm heels and you get hassled by a gang of punks, he just won't be able to protect like a tall guy would. Other women would give you the pity look as well, because you would lose your femininity even though you have your high heels on. If it means enough to you that youre questioning your connection with him, then he should be dumping you in my honest opinion. Agree. do both of you a favour and find a tall guy.
kaylan Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) Guys you all seem to think, that this hightthing is a dealbreaker for me, its not at this point. I'm trying to figure out why it feels so weird to me, in order to see if I can maybe change the feeling I'm having. Oh and... He says he's 5.7, but I'm kind of getting the feeling he's shorter than that more like 5.6 or maybe even 5.5. Hun, even if it was a deal breaker, Id understand and defend your right to have your preference. I have a slight (very minor) height preference for women...but when it comes to weight and fitness level, Im a bit more strict. Similar to your reasoning, I want a woman who makes me feel like a man. Im not a huge guy. Im 5'9 and have 185 lbs packed onto a slim frame....so I prefer slimmer and shorter women cus of the primal feelings I get. I get that raw urge to sexually dominate a girl whos 5'3 more than a chick whos 5'9. Doesnt mean Im never attracted to women outside of my preference. It is what it is. I just want to date someone who Im super attracted to...and Im sure you want the same. 5'5 or 5'6 does sound smaller...but if you guys click, then run with it for now. Its also possible that you are guessing his height wrong, since ive had girls do that numerous times to me. Yeah height is important for me. Short guys have complexes. I find this to be very false. If a tall guy has an attitude, people call him a jerk or say hes cocky and confident. When a short guy does the same thing, people call him napolean and say he has a complex. Edited March 25, 2012 by kaylan
D Z Hughes Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Yeah height is important for me. Short guys have complexes. ok shorty.
Author zlatnapolja Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 Hun, even if it was a deal breaker, Id understand and defend your right to have your preference. I have a slight (very minor) height preference for women...but when it comes to weight and fitness level, Im a bit more strict. Similar to your reasoning, I want a woman who makes me feel like a man. Im not a huge guy. Im 5'9 and have 185 lbs packed onto a slim frame....so I prefer slimmer and shorter women cus of the primal feelings I get. I get that raw urge to sexually dominate a girl whos 5'3 more than a chick whos 5'9. Doesnt mean Im never attracted to women outside of my preference. It is what it is. I just want to date someone who Im super attracted to...and Im sure you want the same. 5'5 or 5'6 does sound smaller...but if you guys click, then run with it for now. Its also possible that you are guessing his height wrong, since ive had girls do that numerous times to me. Yea I like his sence of humor a lot! And again he really isnt bad looking, he inteligent, he's got a lot of amazing qualities that I like. So I'm gonna see how it goes, who know maybe he thinks I'm to tall, to heavy, to skinny, talk to much etc etc and he doesnt want to see ME anymore hahaha! And yea you're reasons are similar to mine, so I can relate. I dont really care about weight a lot, as long as its healthy, simply because that means someone cares for himself enough to take care of himself. I dont mind a little more or less extra weight.
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