BewitchedandBothered Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 You are never alone. Be content with yourself before having a relationship; don't rely on someone else to ease loneliness. It's nice to have someone, sure, but you have to love YOU ben be content with YOU. Got that? YOU are NOT alone:) And also here, you are among friends. Remember that. 1
ItsJustTheWayItIs Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 Lenin...of course you feel alone, completely normal. I do too btw, but today the sun was out, not a cloud in the sky and I had a few hours of peace. Nights are the hardest. Its been about 5 weeks for me...he is still on my mind most the time, but I haven't cried in about 5 days....then it will be 10, 15, etc. You'll get there and so will I. Sorry your hurting!! 1
CopingGal Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 It's been 8 months for me, but I didn't go NC until November. Then I broke NC a few days ago. I prolonged my own pain and it hurts. I am lonely and sad, but I'd rather be lonely and sad than dating that loser. That man is a lying creep and a nauseating bombaclot. So I'm better off alone. 1
Author leninjapirate Posted March 25, 2012 Author Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) Thanks so much for the support everyone. I'm just having a particularly hard time right now since he's been ignoring my attempts to contact him, and I don't have any 'true' friends around anymore that I can even talk to. I haven't even seen or talked to any 'nights out' friends in a long time since I've been commuting a very long distance and have been too exhausted most weekends. Right up until five/six weeks ago he said that he'd want to get back together eventually, and that he wanted us to remain close friends, and then one night he snapped that he wanted nothing to do with me and although I haven't really tried to contact him till now, there's been nothing since. Edited August 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 25, 2012 Posted March 25, 2012 (edited) Thanks so much for the support everyone. I'm just having a particularly hard time right now since he's been ignoring my attempts to contact him, and I don't have any 'true' friends around anymore that I can even talk to. I haven't even seen or talked to any 'nights out' friends in a long time since I've been commuting a very long distance and have been too exhausted most weekends. Right up until five/six weeks ago he said that he'd want to get back together eventually, and that he wanted us to remain close friends, and then one night he snapped that he wanted nothing to do with me and although I haven't really tried to contact him till now, there's been nothing since. No more contact; he is a deadbeat. Edited August 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author leninjapirate Posted March 26, 2012 Author Posted March 26, 2012 No more contact; he is a deadbeat. Thank you, I guess I'll try this NC thing now. It doesn't help that I know his number from memory or that his Facebook is on public so even though I've deleted him I can still see it, or that we have mutual acquaintances. It doesn't help that I know how happy and carefree his life is right now when he's left me to go through all of this alone. But it helps that I know I'm stronger than life is difficult. And it helps to know that people have been through this and come out the other side better off, and that so many of them are here and will support me. Thank you.
BewitchedandBothered Posted March 26, 2012 Posted March 26, 2012 Thank you, I guess I'll try this NC thing now. It doesn't help that I know his number from memory or that his Facebook is on public so even though I've deleted him I can still see it, or that we have mutual acquaintances. It doesn't help that I know how happy and carefree his life is right now when he's left me to go through all of this alone. But it helps that I know I'm stronger than life is difficult. And it helps to know that people have been through this and come out the other side better off, and that so many of them are here and will support me. Thank you. FB is awful during times like this. I was blocked by my ex, but had come across pictures a mutual acquaintance posted. Seeing him and his new g/f together was upsetting. He treated me like dirt; tried contacting me in August and met and fell in love with this new one in January. He showcases her all over his awl when he didn't do that for me. It hurts, but....Trust me when I say you will get past it. I didn't think I could, but the other day, I saw his latest profile picture and he gained a lot of weight and pretty much looks awful, and I got a good laugh==much needed; he is a tool, LOL. She can have that. I had it first and she can have my old toy; they say to donate your old toys to the less fortunate, and well...there ya go;) YOU are much stronger than you think you are!!!! 1
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