Rori Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) I'm not sure i've posted this in the correct place but here goes: I would like some advice, don't know if anyone else has been through this (i'm guessing probably), if you have what did you do to either make it stop or whatever. It's slowly driving me a bit crazy. I broke up with my ex a few months ago, i was devastated and upset but i was at the end of my rope.... ever since he has been trying to get me back, hes made so many promises and said changes will happen etc. But i just don't feel going back is going to be the right thing, we had lots of problems which left me (and him) feeling hard done by, needs not being met etc. Recently he has posted cartoon videos he made about how awful he feels, how much he hates himself cos i left him. (thats the true meaning of them) And as of the other day he has been posting photos of himself crying.. i'm sorry but as bad as i feel that he is going through hell (he has depression etc, as do i!) but posting these things knowing they upset me to see them (he knows this) isn't going to help anything. At the moment we are not speaking because it is too hard for him to. So i think this is another way of trying to get to me without actually talking to me. I find it irritating because i have tried my hardest to be fine with him, to be understanding etc whilst trying to help myself in the mean time too. I know severing all contact is the next step and it will get there if this stuff doesn't stop cos i'm almost at breaking point. Does it sound like emotional manipulation? I think its a harsh thing to assume but it's all i'm left with. Thanks for any replies Edited March 24, 2012 by Rori
Hol Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 That sounds about right, thats truely awfull! Is this on facebook were he is putting these pictures?
Author Rori Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 (edited) Thankyou for the reply Yes its on facebook. I even feel bad about posting about this but i just had to. He's not a horrible person by any means, but he needs to sort it out cos hes not doing himself or me any favours. It's such a long story so i nutshelled it. Horrible cos i want to remain friends but he cant do it yet, thats the reason we aren't talking at the moment.. but since seeing these pictures all its done and doing it pushing me further away. I'm annoyed at him because he doesn't seem to actually care about my feelings.. if he did he wouldn't post all that 'painful to see' stuff, i took so much care and still try to into caring about his feelings when i was doing the breaking up etc. I feel my gut instinct is serving me well, i just needed some assurance, i feel upset n torn about it but i do feel i'm going to have to remove him from fb and msn etc. Just to get the distance i need. He's so intelligent so he knows what hes doing imo. This has truly been one of the worst breakups i've ever been through. Edited March 24, 2012 by Rori
CaliBabe Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 This is exactly why you stay no contact. In all aspects. Don't try to find out what he is doing. He will find his own way to move on. Cut all contact in every way and you both will be able to heal.
Hol Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 Yeah, it is better for both of you if you cut all contact for now. Block him on facebook and all of that! It will help you both move on and heal. What he is doing is completely unfair!
Author Rori Posted March 24, 2012 Author Posted March 24, 2012 Thankyou everyone Ugh i duno why im so afraid of doing it. i just dont wana lose him as someone in my life. I guess i have to.. if he really is able to be a friend he will return eventually. Thankyou again all. x
TaraMaiden Posted March 24, 2012 Posted March 24, 2012 there can never be a friendship, until you can both see each other in someone else's arms - and it has no negative effect at all.....
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